Sarah89 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Hello I've been chatting to this guy via text for 3 weeks now, we don't know eachother that well but we have skyped a few times using webcam, which was nice At first he was completely interested and was calling me 'beautiful' 'babe' etc, always made the effort to message me and always asked to Skype me. I thought to myself 'this has got to be too good to be true'. On Skype he was the best, seriously I loved speaking to him and he was so sweet. After a day of talking it seemed as though we just clicked, we had so much in common. He said to me that in a few weeks he will come to my town to see me, and he said he couldn't wait for it to happen "time will go so slowly because I want it to happen". We were sending about 12 x's each message but now after about a week it's died down to 4/5, that wasn't my doing though. We also exchanged pictures (not naked ones) but just general pictures of what we wear to go out, pictures of where we are/what we're doing, which was nice too, was nice to have that kind of connection with someone too. However now he just isn't as interested, he will still message me but it's just not the same. I don't know if it's because he feels as though he is annoying me (as he said that before and was concerned because he thought I was annoyed at him) or simply because he's gone off the idea and found someone new to chat to like we did. I guess the only way I'll find out is if I ask, but obviously I won't do that! He told me he wants me in "everyway" also, and he used to show that through the way he was speaking to me, but not anymore! Mixed signals completely. I really don't get it, maybe it's me.
JohnM Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 How did you meet originally? The number of Xs in a message isn't really important, its just text, not actual kisses. Don't place too much importance on them, or their number. I've been with my girlfriend for three years. One X at the end of our messages; fine with us both. Did you skype with video, or just call? It's only been three weeks, and with that all being digitally don't be committing yourself emotionally into this thing until you have met up and spent some quality time together. Interaction over skype, text or call is not the same as in person. You won't know if you are a good match until then, I wouldn't worry about it being you. Just behave as you usually would and try not to worry over it, but I think if you think you have things in common then you want to arrange a meet up. Make sure you are with friends when this happens.
Dragonfruit Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I don't see mixed signals here, I see changed signals. So you had a great online/text/whatever day with a new guy, and then it tapered off. Of course that would mean whatever things he said at first may no longer apply. Whatever he said, whatever feelings were put into it, this is still little more than a stranger. At this early of a stage, anything can happen. Maybe he met someone he likes better, maybe he decided it's too much bother to get involved in something long distance, maybe he's married and was only playing a little fantasy game, or he has the flu, or his grandmother is in town, maybe anything at this stage, right? I'm sorry if it looks like it's not working out. All I can think of is don't brood and dwell, get out there and get another one. Then this one can take its course, whichever way it's going to go, without driving you nuts. Good luck.
Author Sarah89 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 How did you meet originally? The number of Xs in a message isn't really important, its just text, not actual kisses. Don't place too much importance on them, or their number. I've been with my girlfriend for three years. One X at the end of our messages; fine with us both. Did you skype with video, or just call? It's only been three weeks, and with that all being digitally don't be committing yourself emotionally into this thing until you have met up and spent some quality time together. Interaction over skype, text or call is not the same as in person. You won't know if you are a good match until then, I wouldn't worry about it being you. Just behave as you usually would and try not to worry over it, but I think if you think you have things in common then you want to arrange a meet up. Make sure you are with friends when this happens. No we've never actually met before but we've Skyped as in video and microphone a few times, might sound a bit risky I know. Any yeah I get that, I don't feel emotionally involved now as I haven't met him in person yet, but we shall see when the time comes. Thank you
Author Sarah89 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 I don't see mixed signals here, I see changed signals. So you had a great online/text/whatever day with a new guy, and then it tapered off. Of course that would mean whatever things he said at first may no longer apply. Whatever he said, whatever feelings were put into it, this is still little more than a stranger. At this early of a stage, anything can happen. Maybe he met someone he likes better, maybe he decided it's too much bother to get involved in something long distance, maybe he's married and was only playing a little fantasy game, or he has the flu, or his grandmother is in town, maybe anything at this stage, right? I'm sorry if it looks like it's not working out. All I can think of is don't brood and dwell, get out there and get another one. Then this one can take its course, whichever way it's going to go, without driving you nuts. Good luck. Exactly, could be anything! I wont dwell, life's too short. He still messages me everyday, which is something I suppose. Thank you! 1
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