GreySkyMorning Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I see how women become bunny boilers. I feel like I'm going nuts here. I'm turning into one of the crazy ones. I texted him Friday, going all to pieces. All I got back were a few cold responses about why did I tell her. I went off the deep end, trying to explain how much I still love him and such. Then I started begging him to just tell me he doesn't love me so that I can see those words. He ignored me completely. Repeat Saturday with the psychotic texting plus an email. He hasn't replied to any of those at all. I've stayed strong today and not sent anything. I feel like such a fool. Obviously he doesn't love me or he'd care about how much I'm hurting right now. He doesn't care at all. Why do I feel the need for him to say that? He's practically screaming it with his silence. It's so hard to reconcile this man today with the man that just over a week ago was so concerned about me and told me constantly that he loved me. Now there's nothing there at all. I couldn't stop crying yesterday. I just kept replaying his words in my head.
whichwayisup Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Hugs to you... As much as it hurts you and you're in pain, you need to stop texting him. Vent it out here what you want to say to him. He isn't going to tell you what you want hear. His silence is his way of dealing with you and what happened. Right now his first priority is fixing things with his wife and as painful as that is for you, it's something you need to face and deal with. He is more concerned with the damage he's done to her and their marriage than he is by shutting you out and not answering your questions or just writing you back. You gotta leave this alone otherwise you may not like what happens next.. Aka a call or visit from his wife. Try to find a friend to talk to, someone you fully trust. Cry it out and just know that this pain isn't forever, though i'm sure right now it feels like it won't stop.
LFH Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Try to find a friend to talk to, someone you fully trust. Cry it out and just know that this pain isn't forever, though i'm sure right now it feels like it won't stop. I'm sorry you are hurting. I have to agree with the above. You need someone to support you through this, to hold your hand and hug you when you need it, and I'd like to encourage you to NOT use the friend that told for you because I think she's too close to the situation and I think she's not going to be able to be objective and let you vent/rant/etc the way you might need to. She and you might think she did the right thing but you're going to get tangled up in her feelings as well and you need to focus on YOU right now. Texting him isn't going to help you. It's going to give him ammunition to downplay everything to his BS if he wants to. Vent here or write letters that you never send. You can get through this, you'll be ok. *hugs*
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