singme2sleep Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 There's something about Sundays that really make me reflect. Here are today's thoughts: Feeling better and healing after a relationship isn't a race. I think it's important that we all remember no matter what our ex's did, no matter why they left us or why we left them...moving on and letting go takes time. And the amount of time is different for everybody. Don't try to rush yourself or rebound too soon in order to prove you're okay. Let yourself grieve because at the end of the day it's a loss, just like all the others. Losses stop you in your tracks, but eventually you do get back up and keep going. So cry when you must, break a few plates and just live your life. "It's only after we have lost everything, that we're free to do anything." 3
Sososad Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I agree but it's very very easy to fall into the Trap of just staying in bed lying in self pity And sadness .. It's ok to do this For a few days but when it gets to weeks you have to help yourself by trying To get out get active and get your life back it won't just happen . But all I can say is when you get out face the world Your time passes quicker and also helps you distracted . It's not a race that's for sure because if it was I'd Be pushing for pole position haha 1
Amelie1980 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I agree but it's very very easy to fall into the Trap of just staying in bed lying in self pity And sadness .. It's ok to do this For a few days but when it gets to weeks you have to help yourself by trying To get out get active and get your life back it won't just happen . But all I can say is when you get out face the world Your time passes quicker and also helps you distracted . It's not a race that's for sure because if it was I'd Be pushing for pole position haha I'm at 3 months of not being able to function or get out of bed.
Author singme2sleep Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 I'm not saying it's easy, far from it. Yesterday when I posted that I was feeling very sad, people suggested therapy and logging off for awhile. Then today I try to be positive and everyone else is sad. I can't win! Lol
cavalier99 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I'm at 3 months of not being able to function or get out of bed. Soon it will be 6 months unless you make a decision to get up. 2
Sososad Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Your wasting your life ... No person Is worth what your doing to yourself now .. You need to fight and push yourself To get out !!
thefooloftheyear Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I'm at 3 months of not being able to function or get out of bed. I feel for you....and can relate. You have to force yourself. I wont say anymore because I know you have heard it all... Dont let them "win" TFOY
thefooloftheyear Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I'm not saying it's easy, far from it. Yesterday when I posted that I was feeling very sad, people suggested therapy and logging off for awhile. Then today I try to be positive and everyone else is sad. I can't win! Lol I feel pretty good today.. I am normally a workout nut, but since I have been working out like crazy and damn, I look hot!!! OK? TFOY
Amelie1980 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Soon it will be 6 months unless you make a decision to get up. I don't care anymore.
iouaname Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Sometimes it feels like a race. I have no idea what he is doing or if he's moved on or where he is in the process, but a part of me always feels like I'm racing him to get over things.
cavalier99 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Sometimes it feels like a race. I have no idea what he is doing or if he's moved on or where he is in the process, but a part of me always feels like I'm racing him to get over things. Early on it sorta feels like you are in a competition with the ex. This goes away later and there are other struggles. Stay NC thru all this.
missjones4812 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 For me, everyday drags by, but time is flying. It has been over a month and some days are easier, some are worse than the day he left his son and I. I am forcing myself to continue on with my life, and my child definately helps me get through each day. I find myself dwelling a lot on the past or thinking way too far into the future. Take everyday as it comes. Do something new, keep busy. As devestated as I am, and as bad as he hurt me and continues to do so, I won't let myself lie in bed and cry all day ( as easy as that would be ) I won't let him win. I won't let him see me suffer...don't let your ex see you in pain. It only boosts their ego.
orionboxing Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I'm fighting like an animal right now. Doing ridiculously hard workouts, working overtime at work, communicating with friends, texting family constantly just to have conversations with others. My old college track coach had a great word of advice for me many years ago when I was struggling to make progress as a runner. His words? SEE IT THROUGH. And I've used this a lot lately when I start thinking negatively about things. See that problem through and keeping pushing forward when things are tough. What ever becomes of myself...at least I know I'm fighting instead of quitting....and SOMETHING will be learned through all of this pain. 2
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