31confused09 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 "I am in a living relationship with my bf for more than 2 years now. But now it seems like he is not giving me time. It started of as him going out on saturday nights only but now every week, he goes out for friday or sunday too. and at times he just make plans on weekdays too..but when i asked him that we should go out to do something fun. he doesnt have time, he has gym or is tired or simply has no money.. problem is that i miss him when he is gone, n he never takes me with him. and on that if i call him in between if he is gone for like 6 hours, n i miss him and just want to talk to him for few minutes..he gets angry at me for disturbing him. The group he hangs with is all guys, so m sure he is not cheating on me.. but still i feel lonely and i see that he doesnt put effort to go out with me, but when it comes to his friends, he is motivated and willing i am very confused. please help me, i have talked to him and told him, how i feel..but he says i only go out twice a week or so. but what he doesnt understand is that, he doesnt go out with me anywhere. he always tell me that he will take me out on weekdays, but he never does, in fact the last time we went out for a dinner.. he made me eat within 1 hours so he can go meet his friends and later he never said sorry to me. n next day, he again went out with his friends and day after that he again planned to go out with his friends..
creighton0123 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 It would seem that at this point in your lives, he is more interested in socializing with friends than being in a relationship. He is allowing you to come along for the ride, but not including you. His response to your raising it as a problem is also immature and selfish. You're not asking to spend all of his free time with you. You're not angry that he goes out occasionally with friends (very mature of you, by the way). You're simply asking for more romantic time from him and he is not complying. I would talk to him once more about it and let him know that this is important for you and it is making you unhappy in this relationship. If he doesn't agree, perhaps you should consider finding someone else who is willing to give time towards a relationship. If it does end up with your no longer dating, it's important for you to let him know why: You did not give me the time I wanted and needed, leaving me feeling less like your girlfriend and more like a strange roommate.
truth_seeker Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 From what you wrote, for him the relationship has run its course. 1
StanMusial Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 "I am in a living relationship with my bf for more than 2 years now. But now it seems like he is not giving me time. It started of as him going out on saturday nights only but now every week, he goes out for friday or sunday too. and at times he just make plans on weekdays too..but when i asked him that we should go out to do something fun. he doesnt have time, he has gym or is tired or simply has no money.. problem is that i miss him when he is gone, n he never takes me with him. and on that if i call him in between if he is gone for like 6 hours, n i miss him and just want to talk to him for few minutes..he gets angry at me for disturbing him. The group he hangs with is all guys, so m sure he is not cheating on me.. but still i feel lonely and i see that he doesnt put effort to go out with me, but when it comes to his friends, he is motivated and willing i am very confused. please help me, i have talked to him and told him, how i feel..but he says i only go out twice a week or so. but what he doesnt understand is that, he doesnt go out with me anywhere. he always tell me that he will take me out on weekdays, but he never does, in fact the last time we went out for a dinner.. he made me eat within 1 hours so he can go meet his friends and later he never said sorry to me. n next day, he again went out with his friends and day after that he again planned to go out with his friends.. If you are living together, and in a relationship for 2 years, you have every right to complain if he is going out on the weekend and not including you in his plans. This sounds like a relationship on the rocks and one that needs to be seriously re-evaluated.
truth_seeker Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Let me add that any relationship going more than 2 years, and there's no talk of marriage, the odds of it leading to marriage are not good.
veggirl Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Your bf is over this relationship but too comfortable to actually break things off.
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