tomtheman1234 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Long story short. I am in my mid 30's and this girl is in her early 30's. I just joined a dating agency who matched me up with this lady. we have met up 4 times now. I just not sure about her. There are a few good and bad things about her. First the bad things about her. She could make more of an effort to dress better,like not just wearing jeans and a jumper with Ugg boots or trainers. Seems to not be able to go out of her comfort zone. When I give her a hug she turns her head away to one side so I can not kiss her. The pics on her facebook page show me she hangs out with her Mum and her Mums friends far to much. Good things about her easy to talk to has a great smile fun to be around she seems to like me. In this day and age it is kind of hard to find someone who likes you. For now I have decided to keep seeing this girl and I have also decided to keep looking for Miss Right and the dating agency and I have both decided that they will keep looking for my Miss Right and I will also keep looking for my Miss Right. After meeting up with a lady for times you are not a couple as you are still getting to know each other and she may be my Miss Right or my Miss Right might still be out there. Would be nice to know what poeple think and if I am doing the right thing?
creighton0123 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 You're absolutely doing the right thing. You recognize things that are flaws to you. Personally, I would be the opposite and would prefer someone who dresses casually for dates. You're the opposite and there's nothing wrong with that. Personally, I wouldn't mind dating someone who is close friends with parents and parents friends. In your 30's, it's not so much a parent/child thing anymore. It's adult/adult. You are the opposite and would rather date someone with friends in your own age group. There's nothing wrong with dating multiple people while casually dating. I wouldn't let things drag out too far with this woman, though. That would be unfair to her if her attraction towards you is driving her towards an interest in a monogamous relationship and you're just interested in short term dating.
truth_seeker Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I just not sure about her. When there is doubt, opt out. 1
abcxyz Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 After 4 dates you should start getting an idea if you're a good match, it's only when I hear of people deciding before they even go out (IRL) that I wonder how they're coming to that decision other than filling in the blanks themselves. When you start dating someone you really don't know them and need time to adjust to each other, I think it's good that you're at least taking a few dates to get there even if you do decide to not continue. For me, clothes aren't the primary focus, but the turning away from a kiss would concern me especially after the first date. Is she just nervous and new to dating? As for her clothes, are you taking her out someplace that requires dressing up? Have you suggested a nice place and told her the suggested dress? I don't think I've ever seen anyone dress like that but maybe it's like dressing in sweats on a date, something I wouldn't do, but I would wear jeans/chinos and a nice sweater unless I hear otherwise. And for guys, I guess it depends where you're going but if you're wearing a suit for a regular dinner, it's not my preference...it makes it seem like we're at work. Or he has something to hide (insecure, physique), or it makes me think of my father...not the image you want to project. I've never heard of anyone using a dating agency...assuming this isn't just online dating. Where do you find them? 1
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