a_jenna1 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Sorry it's so long D: All right, so I'm sure there are probably hundreds of these type of posts and as much as I've read a lot of them to find an answer to my situation, I don't know, I still can't figure it out. So I met this guy, about two months ago (I know not a long time), anyways, we hit it off really well. It was constant texting and flirting and we hung out a few times a week. He lives a little less than an hour away but the drive isn't bad and we always work something out. I've dated other guys and as cliche as it sounds, this guy was different. He was extremely sweet and everything he said was sweet and he let me know how much he likes me. He called every single morning just to say good morning. He also always said he was worried I would get uninterested and stop talking to him. Anyways, up until a week and a half ago, everything went perfectly. We were going to hang out and he ended up not being able to, but he apologized and said we would do something the next day. Of course I was a bit upset about it because it wasn't the first time he couldn't hang out. And no, he wasn't ditching for another girl or anything because I'm like 95% positive. So the next day, we said our daily good mornings and then I apologized for being a bit upset and no answer. And since then, no answer. It's just weird because literally right before he said he couldn't hang out on that one day, it was all smiley faces and flirting on his part. You might say he just became uninterested, but it really all seemed so genuine. You might also say, he used me for sex and then moved on, but that's not the case at all. In fact, he told me he wanted to move slow so we didn't ruin what we had so we haven't done anything. And might I also add, this guy is a bum. Honestly, I don't know why I am so interested in him. He doesn't go to school, and really only works. He has like 3 friends. He hasn't dated a girl in two years. When he's not working or with his friends, or with me, he's sleeping. So I don't see how he could just become so uninterested..I was thinking that maybe something is going on with his family, I know a few years ago, something happened with his mom and she almost died but she was fine. But my friend works at the same place as him and says he's been on the schedule and he still is, so it's not like he's calling off work. I went to his house once just to make sure everything was ok, and no one was home which seemed strange to me but it might not be strange. I'm also going to mention that he has OCD. He told me it's not as bad as it used to be but I don't know if he's saying that because he's embarrassed. He also told me it used to take him a year to get to know a girl before he could actually date her but he also said that's gotten a lot better...so I don't know. I've given him space for almost a week and haven't said anything. The first couple days of this disappearing act, I texted and called, but only a few times and no response. Phone wasn't dead. Now I'm trying hard not to text or call, and let me say, it's extremely hard. But he still hasn't said anything. I know everyone says "give him space" and I am but how long do I need to wait? I know if it takes too long, I should just move on but I really really like the guy. And with this whole disappearing act, it could be SO MANY things. Like, what if something really is going on with his family, and he comes back to talk to me and sees I'm already with someone else? I know it'd be his own fault for not taking just one second to contact me and let me know what's going on... but I'm really not the type to be with another guy unless I know for sure its over with the first guy. Someone please tell me what you think :mad: Also, I'd like a reasonable response....thank you.
StanMusial Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Geez. You write all of this for a guy that, in your own words, is a "bum"?
outsidethebox Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 "Of course I was a bit upset about it because it wasn't the first time he couldn't hang out." what does this mean? With the rest of the post sounds like his lifestyle and your expectations weren't compatible. Still it's unacceptable that he didn't say something to that effect. He's got a ready made excuse with this OCD stuff so dealing with him you will always get some excuse like that.
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