Cutiepie1976 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 The problem with expecting a proposal is the level of disappointment if it turns out to be something else, no matter how lovely the final surprise. Try to have no expectations for the evening other than a nice dinner. Still, given what he's said, it's likely. Does he know your ring size? If so, how did he get it?
Author Beachbabe9109 Posted March 14, 2013 Author Posted March 14, 2013 The problem with expecting a proposal is the level of disappointment if it turns out to be something else, no matter how lovely the final surprise. Try to have no expectations for the evening other than a nice dinner. Still, given what he's said, it's likely. Does he know your ring size? If so, how did he get it? He already said it wasn't a proposal. I said what it was a few comments up, because I told everyone I would when I found out He does know my ring size though. At Christmas, he took me to get my gift and it was between a ring, and a necklace and I told him my ring size then.
iKING Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 He already said it wasn't a proposal. I said what it was a few comments up, because I told everyone I would when I found out He does know my ring size though. At Christmas, he took me to get my gift and it was between a ring, and a necklace and I told him my ring size then. You really think if it was, that he'd tell you? I don't want to ruin anything one way or another, but report back after. If it isn't what I think it is, him and I need to have a serious talk on what constitutes a 10 on the surprise scale. A lovely dress-up dinner followed by slow dancing? Sounds rather fishy. 1
xxoo Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I think it sounds fishy, too. If it really isn't anything more than a dinner planned, he didn't think this through very well.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 This is more confusing than anything. So he said it was just dinner and no proposal and then continued to talk about proposals and you are still standing by it isn't a proposal? You obviously feel like it is as fishy as we do.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 I think it sounds fishy, too. If it really isn't anything more than a dinner planned, he didn't think this through very well. I would be butt hurt if he did all that talking of proposals and it was just dinner.
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 You told him a proposal was the only thing that would be a ten. He said this was a nine, maybe a ten, but it was a surprise. Until that comment I thought you were way over-reading the situation. That changed my mind. Either way, best to go in expecting just a great dinner and a lovely evening together. Nothing more. Don't forget to pull out your phone and post what the surprise was as soon as you know.
ltjg45 Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 No offense but I'm a bit disappointed by this. I would think he could do something that he couldn't just do at any given time like a romantic trip somewhere or a proposal or a possible move-in to a brand new house. Something that is not so predictable. But it's just a dinner. That isn't worth keeping as a secret unless there is more to it than just a dinner. Fortunately, there could be more to it, after all it is not uncommon to be proposed at a restaurant, for example. I certainly hope there is more to this than just a nice dinner. It would be disappointing otherwise. I couldn't go through all of this just for a good night out. That would be expected and not something worthy of being very excited over.
Author Beachbabe9109 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 Ok, well. I hinted (strongly, lol) that I would like flowers. So he showed up with a potted flower. Not what I had in mind, but hey it's a flower. He said it'd last a lot longer, which is true, so that is a nice gesture. Then we got ready, and he took me to the restaurant we had our first date at. (also where we met for the first time in person) As soon as he said we were going there, I definitely thought, hmmm.... lol So we eat, and while we're eating he says that my main surprise was him going out in a suit. After that he asks me what I wanted to do, because he couldn't find a dance place. I didn't really know what to do. I hadn't thought of anything because it was my surprise night so I figured he had the planning done. We ended up going to see a movie again afterwards. At the end of the night he asked me, So was it a 10? And I said, no more like an 8. He was a little disappointed by that, but the way he hyped this up, I was expecting something huge. We always go out to dinner and see movies. I mean, it was a nice night and everything still, just, different than I was expecting. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 The good news is that he's thoughtful, puts effort into your relationship, and tries to make you happy in creative ways. Sounds like a lovely evening. 3
Djz05 Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Like i always say, could have been worse. plus i think going back to the first place you met each other was sweet. I get nostalgic like that myself 1
Drseussgrrl Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Not every guy is going to be the master planner with dates, and that's honestly something I'm trying to get over myself. My ex (I know, I know) set the bar pretty high in that department. On our first date he not only had a great restaurant picked out with a reservation but he brought my ROOMMATE a bottle of wine when he picked me up. But it does sound like he at least tries to show you a good time. Kind of cute that his surprise is that he wore a suit for you lol. 1
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