misswillow Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I see so many people here talking about things they see on their ex's FB page, and I just can't understand why anyone would stay FB friends with someone that broke up with them? I can understand the curiosity, but usually nothing good comes of knowing what is going on in their lives. Instead, it is more like torture. I guess it may be too painful to delete someone as a friend at first. But maybe hide them? I deactivated my profile right away because, while I wasn't ready to delete him, I could not bear to see what he was doing, look at pictures of us, or run the risk of how horrible it would be to see he deleted me as a friend or deleted the pictures of us. I don't have that much interest in FB, so it's not a big deal for me to deactivate it, and I imagine I will probably just keep it deactivated for a long time, if not forever. 1
TheBladeRunner Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Right on MissWillow! I was a fool for staying "Facebook friends" and friends in general for 4 months, it was horribly painful to see all that was going on. I did not delete my profile, but I did eliminate the SBXW and ANYONE associated with her. I don't wanna' know what she does anymore. 1
Bigcitydreamer Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I agree that staying friends would be too painful. I took it a step further and blocked the ex. Now when you block someone they are automatically deleted as well! 1
Own Worst Enemy Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 the problem is that the lifeline ends up choking most of us 3
thefooloftheyear Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 You did the right thing..... BTW, take this from a man's perspective -your stock just went WAYY up because you are not a FB addict... Stay strong! TFOY 2
CudLRoo Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I'm still FB friends with my ex after 2 years, even though we both don't really care for it. I guess I'm lucky, I don't know what's going on in her personal life and she doesn't blurt about it on FB and I don't, too, we kind of made a 'pact' at the time, though we both don't see the point in telling the entire world what we're doing. Why should people, anyway? I find Facebook spooky, what DID people do ten years ago, without it??? Too Orwellian for me, and the way people just submit to it and get obsessed by it! Nuts!!!! 2
Harradin Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I deleted her as soon as she dumped me. I was pissed off at the time but it was the right thing to do.
thefooloftheyear Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Facebook is the biggest joke. People post such ridiculous things like what they had for dinner or that they are going to the grocery store...Really?? Who the eff cares? Its for attention whores and people who feel like they need to create a fake persona to a bunch of strangers. I especially like the ones that have over a thousand friends.. Mother Teresa or Gandhi doesnt have that many friends... TFOY 1
21254246NYG Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I see so many people here talking about things they see on their ex's FB page, and I just can't understand why anyone would stay FB friends with someone that broke up with them? I can understand the curiosity, but usually nothing good comes of knowing what is going on in their lives. Instead, it is more like torture. I guess it may be too painful to delete someone as a friend at first. But maybe hide them? I deactivated my profile right away because, while I wasn't ready to delete him, I could not bear to see what he was doing, look at pictures of us, or run the risk of how horrible it would be to see he deleted me as a friend or deleted the pictures of us. I don't have that much interest in FB, so it's not a big deal for me to deactivate it, and I imagine I will probably just keep it deactivated for a long time, if not forever. Once my ex & I broke up, I deactivated my page and created a new one. I blocked my ex with my new page, blocked her e-mail addresses (personal & school), and blocked her cell phone. Cut her off completely. I re-friended mutual friends, with the condition that if they mention my ex (or my new page to my ex), I would delete & block them.
SinceYou'veBeenGone Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 You can take them off your news feed so that you don't see their status updates. I think it depends on the circumstance. To me, it leaves the door open to a possibility of getting back together or reacquainted in the future. Just keeping a friendship open even if you don't hang out right now. Maybe one day. It depends on the reason for the breakup imo. Plus right now I couldn't handle the thought of deleting him out of my life forever.
SinceYou'veBeenGone Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I have a bad habit of checking our mutual friends pages. I won't go on his page but I am curious to go on their pages because they are with him a lot. It's not good that I do that b/c it's like cheating the system a bit...
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