acapelo_dp Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 My ex broke up with me in November 2012, it was a pretty drawn out break up and he wanted to remain friends, but a little over a month ago I asked him to stop contacting me. I no longer have him on Facebook (blocked as well), although he still has twitter and although I do not follow him I can still see his activity if I search him. Anyways, I saw yesterday that he told one of his friends he is now "kinda seeing someone" which was a hard blow. I recently went across the country to visit a friend, met a nice boy, had kind of a one night stand thing (although he got my number and is showing interest in talking to me, he was really nice) and I was feeling so much better, like I could care less about my ex. Now this. What hurts is that he told me due to the stress of the relationship he wasn't ready for one, and now look. I guess it hurts my ego that he found someone before I did. I'm the single, lonely one. Inside I am hoping it doesn't work out for him, that he gets his heart broken the way he ripped mine out and treated me like crap. I'm so angry. Why doesn't Karma ever work? I'm beginning to think good things happen to selfish, uncaring people and I don't know why. 3
MushyPeas Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Hey don't beat yourself up, you can go round in circles thinking about the reasons why he broke up with you, yeah he said he wasn't ready for a relationship (My ex said something similar..he didn't want to commit anymore, yet I think he's getting with someone who has a kid lololol it's just tragic), don't blame yourself for that because that won't get you anywhere, he's doing what most people do when they're newly single and that's reaching out to someone. Just try to keep your feelings towards him and whatever he's doing with whoever, deep down because it'll just make you look bitter and jealous, and even if you are those things, don't give anyone the satisfaction of knowing that! You might be the single one, but just keep your head high take pride in knowing that you're not going to just rush into another relationship, I think it's far too easy to do that and whereas it's so difficult going from having company to being alone, it's more rewarding because you give yourself time to heal. Do things for yourself, make your own life better and not because you want to show him that you're doing better than him, who cares? he's in your past and you need to think about you!
na49 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 My ex told me she didn't want a relationship for a year. Don't believe anything they tell you when they're breaking/broken up with you. The only thing you have to believe is that they don't want to be with you anymore. Everything else is just letting you down easy/rationalizing their decision. I would say avoid twitter but I know how hard that is for some. I used to use twitter because of some of the funny people I used to follow. I don't go on anymore because I KNOW for a fact that I will search her twitter. She actually made a new one after she dumped me (I guess to remove any evidence we were ever together lol) but of course while I was in my creepy stalker stage I found it and I know it now. I checked it two months ago and it ruined my weekend. Never again! It hurts because he'd rather be with someone else than try things again with you. It's a shot to the ego, but you sound like you're doing whatever you need to do in order to move on. So keep it up! also who's to say that this relationship he's in will last forever? People get what's coming to them, we may never know about it though. 3
Author acapelo_dp Posted March 19, 2013 Author Posted March 19, 2013 I guess karma did work a bit of magic, turns out it didn't end up lasting anyways lmao. Ahh, I was quite happy to hear that news - as terrible and immature as that sounds. I guess he really isn't ready for a relationship..
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