lavenderlove Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I can't believe this. We have been totally nice and normal with each other since we broke up 10 days ago. Now, I am moving out tomorrow, and because we kept cooking for each other since, and there was nothing to eat at home, we thought WTH and we went out for dinner. Then, we had a couple of drinks in a very nice whiskey bar on a comfy couch, and had a long chat about ending it all. We actually drank for our future without each other, and it was all fine. I am a very straight forward honest kind of person, and didn't hold back telling him why exactly I am such a happy different person since we parted ways. The problem is, that he also told me how much he regrets many things he has done wrong and even said that if we accidentally had a baby he would be fine with that, and that we really should have done a business together, as we agree about lots of creative things. He apologised for things that really did hurt me, like that he didn't pick me up at the airport last time I arrived here. Plus he really wants to stay friends with me. Now, I feel my bubble has been burst, I had no doubts about leaving him and starting a new life, thus felt relieved and light and free, and moved on with my life. And now I can't help thinking what ifs..... I was planning to go NC, and now I am so confused again.
MushyPeas Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Hey that's completely normal, everyone will have moments of regret whether you were the one that ended it or on the receiving end of a break up. You need to have a bit of space and sort out your own head again, of course seeing him will throw your world into doubt, he's had this time to think over things that have happened and regret them, which is what we tend to do when we're faced with losing someone. As hard as it seems, you need to stop the what ifs because they don't get you anywhere. I think NC would be a good thing for the time being just so you can figure out what it is you truly want, if you were to get back together it shouldn't be purely based on promises he makes or things he says, you need to decide for you and your own happiness what it is you need. But yeah, NC! get back to a place you can stop and think about the situation with no outside input from him or anyone else, just you.
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