Help with the "ignoring her-wait for her to contact" games

[luvthisbar]

So I've had my fair share of gfs, been in relationships, go out with my buddies and talk to girls.. So I'm not shy and I'm myself around women.

 

Recently I met a girl through a mutual friend(my buddys girlfriends friend) just a complete sweetheart. We talked all night, really hit it off. End of the night we exchanged numbers and went about our ways. Two days later she went to Mexico with her family and we text(whatsapp) all day everyday. Couldn't talk because she was using wifi to message me. She was gone for about month.

 

Now that she is back we made plans to watch a movie. She said she would talk to her friend and plan something. (Double date type thing). I was talking to my friends and they asked about her. i mentioned how it seemed a little off that I ALWAYS message her first and she never initiates contact. But when I do, we talk. They all told me to lay off and let her contact me. So the next day I didn't text, nor did she. It's been a week now, talked everyday for a month to no contact for a week. My friends say I'm an idiot if I message her and it will only make me look weak and desperate. Just keep waiting.

 

Meanwhile I spoke to my friend who I met her through. He brought it up and told me that night his gf had told him she has never had a bf before let alone even kissed a guy. She is 25, was home schooled and is a really good girl. Also told him to make sure I was serious and not looking for a hookup. He told her I wasn't like that.

 

I don't mind waiting it out as my friends say... But is that the smartest decision? (To not seem clingy or needy?) I'm just hoping I didn't blow it and give her the impression that I'm your average "player" "douche" guy.

Thanks in advance!

[lavenderlove]

I think the best part of being a man(I am not a man) :)is, that you can make the first steps without feeling bad about it. If she never had any bf, and was home schooled, maybe this whole thing with you is harder for her than you can imagine. If you like her so much, and she responds to you every time you contact her I don't think you should hesitate.

[Taramere]

Just call her and say "how have you been? Haven't heard for you for a few days.." Then when you meet her you can casually drop in to the conversation "you know, you can call me. It doesn't have to always be the man calling the woman." If she's been home schooled and out of the loop socially she might have been raised with some pretty traditional ideas that could do with a bit of gentle challenging.