coquettishlips Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Was I in the wrong for being mad and hurt, when my now ex boyfriend, was so willing do to something for someone else's girlfriend like cooking her chicken wing dip, and he did not do anything for me lately? I mean I lost my phone days before that, he didn't show any sympathy really, and didn't offer to help me find one cheap, he also had this girl cook up food I bought without asking me if it was OK. Just felt disrespected. He dumped me last Monday out of the blue... Had my clothes packed and in the car because I told him I didn't feel comfortable with him taking with her and he messaged her on Facebook for her cooking up the sandwiches she made that night, when he couldn't thanked her that night. Especially after a nightmare I had because he created trust issues in the past for me. He called me jealous when I was more hurt, he ignored me days before this and I tried everything, I bought the beer and food for the Superbowl party and the next day after that he packed up my things in the car, without wanting to talk about it. So was I in the wrong? Did I have a right to feel hurt? Because her sure didn't think so. Also always told me to talk to him, and when I did again, called me jealous, left me alone in the bedroom, no comfort or nothing, e said he didn't want to deal with drama. I wasn't trying to create drama. Just was wondering why my BF was doing things that I would've appreciated and needed since I've done everything for that man since he was let go of form his job after the first break up. I forgave him and what he did was worse than what I did. He had intentions to meet up with some girl when I was going to go home and do laundry, he said it was him and a friend, but who really gives their friend their password and screen-name to a dating site? Since then I did break NC and asked him questions, and he was clear he didn't want another chance with us again, which yes did break my heart, what made it worse he said he didn't know if he loved me or not. How can you not love someone who sacrificed their own money to make you happy? Helped you try and make over your dream car? Yes ladies and gents, I was stupid enough to spend money on the man, over $2k because I feel in love with him. And it killed me he couldn't forgive me over something I think is minor... Then after this he blocked me completely from his life via Facebook, cellphone, email. So that's when I knew there was no hope, and I was going to move on... But after that he swung by my job for "gas" But there are two other same company gas station closer to his apartment. My co workers told me they were looking into the big store windows. I knew he was looking for me, but I didn't want him to, I wanted my space. Sent an email on a dating site we're both on the same dating site that caused out first break up. That I got it, you do not want me anymore to not come looking for me , because I need my space. The last straw was when he cruised through the parking lot. I called from a blocked number and left a message that I was tired of his games and please stay away from my job. Haven't seen him since, but recently saw his friend get gas from my station. Is he sending his friend to check up on me now? And probably trying to rile me up and make me look like the bad guy? Just confused... Sorry it's a long read. But would love opinions.
Author coquettishlips Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 Everyone can read but not reply? =[
emmalynro Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 With all due respect, I think you're being extremely paranoid. This person (who the record will show is a jerk) blocked you from his life and was quite final about it. He is not attempting to contact you. You are taking completely innocent behavior as some kind of gross personal affront. He is not trying to bother you, he's just there to get gas. His friend came to the gas station because it's a gas station and you live in the same town. Nothing more, nothing less.
na49 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 This guy sounds very selfish. How old are you guys? This new girl seems to be giving him that "new" attention that he wants. You can't give that to him because you guys are already together. Rather than stick it out with you, he's gone elsewhere. I think it's obvious he's shown interest in her. I'm pretty sure that's cheating. Do you have a right to be hurt? Yes... yes you do. Do you know why he feels you shouldn't be hurt? Because he's not the one hurting! He's the one eating sandwiches that this new broad made for him. My ex cheated on me, she couldn't understand why I was hurting. When I told her I was hurting, she told me "This is why we aren't friends". Umm what? You just cheated on me you witch! I'm surprised that he's the one to block you out of his life. I have blocked my ex out of my life but only because she was the one to hurt me. (and never apologize for her decision) You should be the one blocking him out of your life because HE was the one who wronged YOU! I'd imagine you scared him a bit with calling him from a blocked number but what's done is done. Leave him alone. No more chasing him. You let him know you wanted space. If he hasn't contacted you since, just assume he got the message. We do stupid stuff when we're in love with someone. I don't make a lot of money but the money I did make was spent on my ex. The money I got for holidays/graduation was spent on her. WHY? She didn't spend nearly that much money on me. She did surprise me with little gifts here and there, but I didn't even get a birthday present from her. (not that I wanted one. If I had her on my birthday I was happy) Anyway, it doesn't matter how much we love someone, they don't HAVE to love us back. We can respect them and they don't have to give us the same respect back. We can be loyal dogs and never cheat. They still cheat anyway. Also I doubt he's sending his friend to check up on you. That seems like more work than it's worth. His friend may go get gas and let him know he saw you, but I don't think he's sending them to check up on you. That's just kind of creepy.
Author coquettishlips Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 (edited) emmalynro- He lives in a couple town over actually... My gas station was/is completely out of the way, and he has one closer to his hometown, and when co workers tell you the way he was looking, you kinda of know he was looking for you. Not paranoid, just really wanted my space after how everything went down. My job is kind of my sanctuary and him coming around is not giving me space. Especially when he told me he wanted nothing to do with me before he started "to get gas." na49- it's his friend's gf, he has no chance with her... Just felt like he was closing lines, being disrespectful towards my feelings since he's been neglectful and he didn't see any wrong in it what so ever. I tried talking to him like he always wanted me to, and I got called jealous, next day my stuff was packed up after work and was dropped of home without a true conversation. FooledTwice - No shot with her, she already has a BF just was confused and was trying to talk to him and was giving the cold shoulder. Edited March 11, 2013 by coquettishlips Responding to each reply.
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