snowman4839 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 There's this girl who I've been hanging out with for a little over a year. Up until her, I hadn't had much interest in girls (I'm straight but nobody had every grabbed my interest). When I met her, she was dating one of my best friends. I was so interested in her, I lost about 40lbs, started working out, caring for my appearance, dieting, became more hygienic and became a totally different person appearance wise. I enjoyed every moment I had with her. She broke up with my friend after awhile right before the end of our senior year and it was pretty messy but I ended up staying friends with her and my friend somehow. I talked to her through the breakup and was occasionally a shoulder to lean on. Then summer came and I hung out with her and one other friend all the time. We were basically a trio. by the end of of the summer, she started dating my friend which didn't make me happy but I learned to go with it. We all come home from college all the time to see each other and we still maintained good relationships. They lasted up until about a couple months ago. Before she broke up with him, she told me in advance about her doubts and how she was going to break it off (don't know if that's important). Now she's been single for a while and I'm thinking about trying to kiss her to express my interest in her and see if we can have a romantic relationship. My feelings for her have subsided some since I first met her but I'm still very interested in her and she's still very important to me. The difference between now and when I met her is that I could bare to not see her again (although I'd like to very much). So I think that puts me in a good position to make a move Now me and my friend (the one she dated most recently) treat her very similarly. We've messed with her like tickling her and messing with her and whatnot and she doesn't seem to mind physical contact with me. I just can't tell if that's because she's known me for so long OR because she thinks of me in a similar capacity as my friend (her now ex-boyfriend). I recently started doing my hair differently and my friend (that she recently dated) tells me that she said she liked it (again I can't tell if she's just being nice). She doesn't mind hanging out with me alone (again I can't tell if she is just comfortable because she's known me for awhile). The last important thing I can think of is that I asked her to my frat formal where we'd hang out and spend the night in a hotel. She said that she'd love to go (can't tell if she's just being polite or has any intention of going as anything more than friends). She's leaving tomorrow morning and I don't plan on seeing her until the formal which is in a month. I really just want to kiss her goodbye and just hope for the best and hope that some type of feelings build up til the formal so we'll have a great time instead of my being stuck in emotional purgatory. But then again I don't want to lose my date either. Does any of this sound like an indicator one way or another?
creighton0123 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Hard to tell. She could see you as just a close and dear friend. You'll either have to bite your lip and move on or let her know how you feel. The latter risks the stability of your friendship some if she does not feel the same way.
Author snowman4839 Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 (edited) What would be a better way to show her that I like her as more than a friend then? like A gesture as in kissing her spontaneously or just talking to her about it the next time I see her in person or explaining everything over text. Edited March 10, 2013 by snowman4839
Author snowman4839 Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 Well I told her I need to talk to her in person. So I'm going to get to talk to her this weekend or next weekend. My plan is just to kiss her right off the bat and just tell her how I feel. I pretty much have everything I want to say worked out but I can't decide if I should tell her that I'm interested in her sexually or just kinda let her deduce it after everything. I don't know if that would scare her off or she would respect the complete honesty.
creighton0123 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Umm... I would suggest not rape kissing her unless you have kissed before. I would suggest just telling her in as short and simple a way as possible.
Author snowman4839 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Umm... I would suggest not rape kissing her unless you have kissed before. I would suggest just telling her in as short and simple a way as possible. Haha yeah "rape kissing" was a bad idea. I guess I tried to romanticize it in my head. It took me about 2 minutes to realize after I posted that part was a bad idea. Yeah I'm just going to tell her short and simple that I either want to be more than friends or stop seeing her.
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