maino Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Hi guy s I'm new here, how all of you doing? Ok right here goes I'm 27 my gf is 32 I have been crazy about here since we met the first time..she blew me off ofter that lol then came to her senses last year and we started talking and been together for four months now, we stay 60km away from eachother she works long hours,shes had a very rough past her dad past last year september and her and her ex broke up in 2011 /08 13 years of hurt she said. My problem is i feel she doesnt always like comming to me and we have be arguing well i start the arguement(I need full attention from my girl) i was also taking two different testosterone boosters??? and last week I reasoned with her to not come during the week and rather come on the weekend as planned,we switch weekends like one weekend im at her next shes by me. Saturday morning she left to go home to do a dress fit i asked her to let me know when shes there, i went to work and she never text me i asked her she then replied.not much was said that ,she was supposed to come to me as planned instead I phoned her because she wasnt replying at around 6pm to plan an evening for just us two,as she said she tired and wants to relax at around 3pm, phoned her to ask what dvd she wants and what snacks shed like ,she then told me no her sister wants her to stay home this made me agro and i said ok cool thats fine what ever,later that night i phoned her again at 8pm asking her whats the deal we argued hectic.I never swore her or anything i dont do that but I did say something much worse as in the heat of the momment I tend to say things I dont mean,i said maybe shes not ready for a relationship,she said that shes staying home to help her sister and her friend sing for a function happening the following weeked, Back the the phone call I'm running my mouth off so now im taking everything in the wrong then i told her Its like this with you and you make me fall inlove and you cant even put effort in.Told her ok I'll come to her and then she says no she wants to be alone, i cant remember but i said something about me driving and soon being with the angels. so i told her ill see her now i put the phone down because ive realised ive said wrong and im not a guy that likes to agrue, ill give live and just needs a lil in return.monday she said she cant do this then its ok fine we can try , tuesday shes changed her mind again saw her wednesday spoke face to face she spoke and said it not me its her we left after that i was fine but.she says shes not saying its over she just needs space and time to find out who she is.she says we can still text, i dont know what to do, ive spoken to her sister and then my gf just pops when i do that.she texts but its all plain text im hurting bad.she never confides in me or opens up so now its a time bomb thats exploded i think any help please guys Im crazy about her.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 she says shes not saying its over she just needs space and time to find out who she is That means its over. She just sugar coated it a very tiny amount. 3
flitzanu Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Hi guy s I'm new here, how all of you doing? Ok right here goes I'm 27 my gf is 32 I have been crazy about here since we met the first time..she blew me off ofter that lol then came to her senses last year and we started talking and been together for four months now, we stay 60km away from eachother she works long hours,shes had a very rough past her dad past last year september and her and her ex broke up in 2011 /08 13 years of hurt she said. My problem is i feel she doesnt always like comming to me and we have be arguing well i start the arguement(I need full attention from my girl) i was also taking two different testosterone boosters??? and last week I reasoned with her to not come during the week and rather come on the weekend as planned,we switch weekends like one weekend im at her next shes by me. Saturday morning she left to go home to do a dress fit i asked her to let me know when shes there, i went to work and she never text me i asked her she then replied.not much was said that ,she was supposed to come to me as planned instead I phoned her because she wasnt replying at around 6pm to plan an evening for just us two,as she said she tired and wants to relax at around 3pm, phoned her to ask what dvd she wants and what snacks shed like ,she then told me no her sister wants her to stay home this made me agro and i said ok cool thats fine what ever,later that night i phoned her again at 8pm asking her whats the deal we argued hectic.I never swore her or anything i dont do that but I did say something much worse as in the heat of the momment I tend to say things I dont mean,i said maybe shes not ready for a relationship,she said that shes staying home to help her sister and her friend sing for a function happening the following weeked, Back the the phone call I'm running my mouth off so now im taking everything in the wrong then i told her Its like this with you and you make me fall inlove and you cant even put effort in.Told her ok I'll come to her and then she says no she wants to be alone, i cant remember but i said something about me driving and soon being with the angels. so i told her ill see her now i put the phone down because ive realised ive said wrong and im not a guy that likes to agrue, ill give live and just needs a lil in return.monday she said she cant do this then its ok fine we can try , tuesday shes changed her mind again saw her wednesday spoke face to face she spoke and said it not me its her we left after that i was fine but.she says shes not saying its over she just needs space and time to find out who she is.she says we can still text, i dont know what to do, ive spoken to her sister and then my gf just pops when i do that.she texts but its all plain text im hurting bad.she never confides in me or opens up so now its a time bomb thats exploded i think any help please guys Im crazy about her. "i want space" = "i want to see other people". consider it a breakup. 1
Author maino Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Funny thing is I phoned her the other day to talk and agree with her> I could her a slight change in her wondering now why am I giving up... I told her that I changing our relationship status on fb and taking the pics off...she goes on fb a couple times a day i can see this in the chat . she hasnt changed her relationship status or the pic of us but I have , whats the deal with that?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 she hasnt changed her relationship status or the pic of us but I have , whats the deal with that? I take it all back, she totally wants you. I would look/stalk other aspects of her life to find signs that she's totally infatuated with you. If you're horny, all clouds look like boobs; if hungry, marshmallows, if sleepy, pillows. 1
flitzanu Posted March 13, 2013 Posted March 13, 2013 Funny thing is I phoned her the other day to talk and agree with her> I could her a slight change in her wondering now why am I giving up... I told her that I changing our relationship status on fb and taking the pics off...she goes on fb a couple times a day i can see this in the chat . she hasnt changed her relationship status or the pic of us but I have , whats the deal with that? because you're second choice. she wants space and wants to meet other people. when that doesn't work out, she wants you to be there waiting when she fails.
Author maino Posted March 15, 2013 Author Posted March 15, 2013 ok well we met up the other day so I could get my house keys back.we made it formal and mutual sat at a coffee shop 7:40pm till 9:30pm. she now says we can be friends telling me her whole life story how bad her ex messed her around and saying she had a life of 13 years with this guy ready to make kids and get married when he cheated on her.then I felt sorry because I'm not that kinda guy to cheat.but then she says I can still come visit and what not. Now I'm giving her time not talking to her after that.should I let her miss me a bit and wait for her to contact me again then?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted March 15, 2013 Posted March 15, 2013 Yes, I would totally play games with her. Its the only way to win her back for good. You guys realize No Contact isn't a something we suggest as a trick get your ex back, right? We suggest it as a trick on yourself as a way for you to get over them. No Contact isn't for them, its for you. 1
Author maino Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 ok I see well how do you mean play games.. what do you suggest i do that could make her see what se lost??? I took a liberty and e mailed her thursady night sent her quotes and bible verses to get over her ex that hurt her so bad in the past the guy she thought she had a life with. she then text me back saying that"hi i got your emil thank you very much means a lot seriously" but after that i dont chat to her ...I'm getting over her slowly but Id take her back i a heart beat.
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 OK: Listen very carefully, I shall say this only once. Why? Because it only needs saying once. 1: This relationship is over. Break = break UP. 2: She wants the liberty to pursue other interests, meet other people, screw them and be free to make many other choices she cannot currently make if confined to exclusivity with you. 3: This lovely long chat in the coffee bar simply means: "I am friend-zoning you, because if the schytt hits the fan, I need you to be there to run to for comfort, a bit of sex, company and a shoulder to lean on, but nothing more than that, because we are over, as a couple. I just want you to be there in case any venture I embark on now, goes tits-up. OK?" Read the No Contact Guide (Updated 2013, my signature/link). The first post is the Guide itself. The remainder of the thread is a warning against trying to get them back, agreeing to the 'friend-zone' thing or how second chances don't work. Got it? That's it. Enjoy your read, and use it. You're going to need it..... 2
McDonald Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 OK: Listen very carefully, I shall say this only once. Why? Because it only needs saying once. 1: This relationship is over. Break = break UP. 2: She wants the liberty to pursue other interests, meet other people, screw them and be free to make many other choices she cannot currently make if confined to exclusivity with you. 3: This lovely long chat in the coffee bar simply means: "I am friend-zoning you, because if the schytt hits the fan, I need you to be there to run to for comfort, a bit of sex, company and a shoulder to lean on, but nothing more than that, because we are over, as a couple. I just want you to be there in case any venture I embark on now, goes tits-up. OK?" Read the No Contact Guide (Updated 2013, my signature/link). The first post is the Guide itself. The remainder of the thread is a warning against trying to get them back, agreeing to the 'friend-zone' thing or how second chances don't work. Got it? That's it. Enjoy your read, and use it. You're going to need it..... The way you word things Tara is pretty amazing.
Jeremyh55 Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 Hi guy s I'm new here, how all of you doing? Ok right here goes I'm 27 my gf is 32 I have been crazy about here since we met the first time..she blew me off ofter that lol then came to her senses last year and we started talking and been together for four months now, we stay 60km away from eachother she works long hours,shes had a very rough past her dad past last year september and her and her ex broke up in 2011 /08 13 years of hurt she said. My problem is i feel she doesnt always like comming to me and we have be arguing well i start the arguement(I need full attention from my girl) i was also taking two different testosterone boosters??? and last week I reasoned with her to not come during the week and rather come on the weekend as planned,we switch weekends like one weekend im at her next shes by me. Saturday morning she left to go home to do a dress fit i asked her to let me know when shes there, i went to work and she never text me i asked her she then replied.not much was said that ,she was supposed to come to me as planned instead I phoned her because she wasnt replying at around 6pm to plan an evening for just us two,as she said she tired and wants to relax at around 3pm, phoned her to ask what dvd she wants and what snacks shed like ,she then told me no her sister wants her to stay home this made me agro and i said ok cool thats fine what ever,later that night i phoned her again at 8pm asking her whats the deal we argued hectic.I never swore her or anything i dont do that but I did say something much worse as in the heat of the momment I tend to say things I dont mean,i said maybe shes not ready for a relationship,she said that shes staying home to help her sister and her friend sing for a function happening the following weeked, Back the the phone call I'm running my mouth off so now im taking everything in the wrong then i told her Its like this with you and you make me fall inlove and you cant even put effort in.Told her ok I'll come to her and then she says no she wants to be alone, i cant remember but i said something about me driving and soon being with the angels. so i told her ill see her now i put the phone down because ive realised ive said wrong and im not a guy that likes to agrue, ill give live and just needs a lil in return.monday she said she cant do this then its ok fine we can try , tuesday shes changed her mind again saw her wednesday spoke face to face she spoke and said it not me its her we left after that i was fine but.she says shes not saying its over she just needs space and time to find out who she is.she says we can still text, i dont know what to do, ive spoken to her sister and then my gf just pops when i do that.she texts but its all plain text im hurting bad.she never confides in me or opens up so now its a time bomb thats exploded i think any help please guys Im crazy about her. I'm in the same situation, u sound like a nice guy ( no homo) MOVE ON. She was too stupid to realize that ur a great guy. So go out there and find someone better
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 I'm in the same situation, u sound like a nice guy ( no homo) MOVE ON. She was too stupid to realize that ur a great guy. So go out there and find someone better Why dafuq do guys feel it's necessary to put this?!? Why could you not simply like a guy anyway? Do you tell all your male friends who you get on with, hang out with and do things with, that you're 'no homo'...? Does it need saying?? And even if you were - it wouldn't mean you were coming onto him, would it?? I happen to be heterosexual - but I don't tell every guy I talk to, not to worry, I'm not coming on to him..... Jeesh.... 2
Author maino Posted March 16, 2013 Author Posted March 16, 2013 Hi TaraMaiden Thanx where can I find your "Read the No Contact Guide (Updated 2013, my signature/link)." ?what still gets me is how things were perfect then shes gone.oh well:(
TaraMaiden Posted March 16, 2013 Posted March 16, 2013 It's in my signature. See post #10. (A signature only appears on the first post a person makes on any page.... even if they post again, several times on that page, the signature will only appear once.....)
Author maino Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Please can someone help me now. got a call two days ago from my ex and she says she is 6 weeks pregnants.what do I do ??? Try and work things out?? i dont believe my child should live under 2 roofs and I'm an strong believer that we shoulsd now stay together for the child??? any advice would be great thank you..
TaraMaiden Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 What do you do? Stay away from her while she is pregnant. You are NOT together, you are NOT an item, you are neither married nor engaged. You have absolutely no obligation to her personally, at all, whatsoever. Wait until the child is born. Ask for a DNA test. Ensure 100% the child is absolutely definitely without any question, yours. If it is - AND ONLY IF IT IS: Offer to support and help her with child-care and get an official assessment through the courts, to evaluate how much you should pay each month. She may refuse you any contact at all. She may not even put your name on the certificate. She may not even want your money, or have you around. But if things pan out that then child IS yours, she acknowledges this, confirms it on the Birth certificate and accepts Child support payments - then your singular duty is to your child. NOT to her. She is simply the mother of your child. She is not with you, she has no obligations towards you, and is NOT your GF. IF the child ISN'T yours, then your problems are solved. 1
Author maino Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 I dont know damn I have a feeling it is mine.But now she says we can try again but take things slow like start from the begining. Is it just me or do other guys also fall so deeply inlove with a girl and will do anthing to find a way to work it out.thinking positive that one day, I shall marry her. I've started seeing other girls strickly just friends but I cannot see myself even gettting sexual with them and they even alot better looking than my ex Im so hung up on.
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