Armymanis Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Buying my girlfriend a 600 dollar diamond necklace. Did i make a mistake or will she really love it? I love her so much and don't want her to go away. All i want is to be with her, but as a gamer you dont have many girlfriends.
todreaminblue Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Buying my girlfriend a 600 dollar diamond necklace. Did i make a mistake or will she really love it? I love her so much and don't want her to go away. All i want is to be with her, but as a gamer you dont have many girlfriends. I dont think that buying a necklace shows how much you love her....its just the thought of wanting to buy it for her that actually proves that you do....it is a sweet thought.....do you really need to buy it though.....does she like her sparklies......for what reason are you buying it?. is she planning on leaving and you are trying to keep her..if this is the case its dont give it to her....give it to her if you are truly together....even then ....a hug is much better keep th ediamonds i fyou have poruchased them and give them to her on a very special occasion...fiftieth wedding anniversary maybe........)........deb
dasein Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Would skip the necklace and cut the gaming way down unless she games too and truly enjoys it. Would be the best present you could give her IMO. Good luck. 3
Djz05 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Imho when I buy a girl something (expensive as it may be) I wouldnt fret too much about it. I buy her stuff because I want to and I can, thats it.
Mr_Flay Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 If you want to "bribe" her to stay with you, I'd say that's a pretty big mistake. It'll make you poorer, and if she has no scruples, she might start demanding stuff from you. If it's a special thing you both attach significance to, then yeah, it could work. But I'm not a big fan of gifts. Showering someone with materially valuable items doesn't say anything about whether you actually love them or not. 1
Els Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Where are these 600 dollar diamond necklaces that you manage to find? Please link them to me cause I've never seen any that cost less than thousands. Must be a real bargain! 1
ChessPieceFace Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 If a girl needs a $600 diamond necklace, then she's not worth the money.
Dragonfruit Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Money talk and bull**** walk, honey. Haha, just kidding. If it was me, I would be very touched that someone liked me enough to want to give me something that nice.
Taramere Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Buying my girlfriend a 600 dollar diamond necklace. Did i make a mistake or will she really love it? I love her so much and don't want her to go away. All i want is to be with her, but as a gamer you dont have many girlfriends. How long have you been dating her for? I think giving people gifts should ideally be something you do because you get enjoyment from it. When you're browsing shop windows and you suddenly think "X would love that..." Inevitably sometimes we do it because some prescribed date imposes a sense of obligation to do it - and I don't think that's nearly so enjoyable. You're hinting here at the worst possible reason to give somebody a gift. To get them to stay with you, because you're not certain you'd be able to get another girlfriend very easily. I would tend to agree with dasein that a bit less time gaming and a bit more time getting to know your girlfriend better would probably have far more value - to both of you - than a $600 diamond necklace. One of the bonuses of taking that time to get to know here would be that you wouldn't need to ask strangers on a message board to speculate on how she might feel about getting a particular type of present. Get to know her, and you'll probably very easily be able to pick out a $50 present that she would absolutely love.
soccerrprp Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 How long have you known her? Can YOU afford it? I would never buy anyone something that costs that much unless a significant commitment of some sort and time has elapsed.
soccerrprp Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Where are these 600 dollar diamond necklaces that you manage to find? Please link them to me cause I've never seen any that cost less than thousands. Must be a real bargain! Google. Plenty of diamond necklaces below $600.
ChessPieceFace Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 (edited) It's quite clear that it was the OP's CHOICE to buy this and the girlfriend doesn't even know he did it, or he wouldn't have asked, "do you think she'll love it?" Who the hell said anything about her requiring it from him? Gotta love the cheapass Bitter Brigade here on LoveShack who ALWAYS automatically blame women for every single thing that's wrong in the world and who think it's a travesty to spring for a lousy cup of coffee on a date. OK you buy me a $600 necklace and I'll buy you a cup of coffee, since those things are obviously equivalent. The values that make a woman (or person) worthwhile are the same values that would make someone not want a $600 diamond necklace. Let alone have that utter waste of money count for "relationship points." Ideally a good woman wouldn't even need an expensive engagement ring, but in that case there could be said to be a general cultural expectation of how much an engagement ring costs and how other people would view the man buying it. What's the expectation in this case? That either the guy is so rich that $600 necklaces mean nothing to him, or he's so insecure that he feels he has to buy his GF's affection. Since he posted the thread about it, it's the latter. What are the probable effects, let's see. Either it will be awkward and a waste of money she didn't expect, or she'll feel entitled to lavish gifts while losing respect for you. A $600 necklace is maybe a big milestone anniversary gift for your wife. Not something to buy off your GF. You're heading down a bad road. Standing by what I said originally (which some posters don't or won't understand.) A $600 necklace is either wasting money on a good GF (who wouldn't want or expect it) or wasting money on a bad GF (who wants / expects it and thus isn't worth it.) Either way you're wasting money. Edited March 10, 2013 by ChessPieceFace
soccerrprp Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 OP, You can do whatever you want, but do you think that in the future, with this girl or others, you'll find the need to buy expensive items to keep them with you? Does this sound healthy, safe? If things don't work out, will you be asking for it back? $600 is a lot of money to keep your girlfriend to stay. Just the fact that you feel you need to buy her something to keep her with you is already unhealthy.... Perhaps, and reasonably, considering buying her something much less expensive. The purchase is not even for any special occasion. Again, how long have you been dating? Are you going to feel that you need to out-do yourself on those special occasions? Like Valentines, birthday, Xmas?
Author Armymanis Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 Been dating her almost a year and its our one year anniversary in june. I normally dont buy her things this expensive. 1
soccerrprp Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Been dating her almost a year and its our one year anniversary in june. I normally dont buy her things this expensive. Okay, one year is good, but $600? And you feel confident about this relationship? Does she feel the same? You say you "normally" don't buy her "things" this expensive, but how often do you buy things for her? Does she reciprocate by buying you "things?" Don't want to be a downer, but just get hooked on using things to keep someone interested in you. It could become complicated....said my piece.
Shocksock Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Gotta love the cheapass Bitter Brigade here on LoveShack. Yep a guy refusing to buy expensive gifts for his girlfriend on a regular basis is considered a cheapass while a girl who always gets a free meal on dates is never accused of the same. 1
ltjg45 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Buying my girlfriend a 600 dollar diamond necklace. Did i make a mistake or will she really love it? I love her so much and don't want her to go away. All i want is to be with her, but as a gamer you dont have many girlfriends. 1. You don't have many girlfriends. 2. You are worried that you may lose her. Which leads to #3 and you dropping $600 for a Diamond Necklace? I don't like this. Something tells me there's more to this story than meets the eye. Been dating her almost a year and its our one year anniversary in june. I normally dont buy her things this expensive. Are you going to suffer financially for it? Is she generally happy in this relationship? It would be one thing if you two got married after a year of being together but that hasn't happened yet. I'm a little concerned. From what I'm reading, I rather keep it on the down-low and just get a gift at no higher than $100. If I drop $600, it is because of it being a wedding gift. 1
soccerrprp Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Don't want to be a downer, but just get hooked on using things to keep someone interested in you. It could become complicated....said my piece. Dang it, forgot the "DON'T"! I'm sure you got it. Don't want to be a downer, but just DON'T get hooked on using things to keep someone interested in you. It could become complicated....said my piece.
Dragonfruit Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Been dating her almost a year and its our one year anniversary in june. I normally dont buy her things this expensive. That's lovely, Armymanis. I bet she will be so surprised!
TheGuard13 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I believe people should give to give. If you love her and you want to give her something nice, and you can afford it without ruining your finances, I don't see a problem with it. If this is a last ditch effort to keep her interested, I think this is unhealthy and a waste of money. I dropped $500 on my ex-wife for pearls once a few years into our relationship, because a really good deal came along, she'd always wanted pearls, I could never have afforded them otherwise, etc.
soccerrprp Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I apologize, but why post something like this UNLESS YOU HAVE DOUBTS?????? Does it feel completely right for you to have done this? If not, well, you have options, right? You haven't given it to her yet, right?
Author Armymanis Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 Wow never use the computer when your drunk. Totally posted this last night and forgot about it lol 1
Els Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Google. Plenty of diamond necklaces below $600. Fair enough, but I think you missed my point. Take a short glance through the OP's posting history. Can't say any more than that unless I want a nice ol' infraction.
veggirl Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I see her training (from your other thread) has worked well OP! Now are sure you have been "good" enough to actually GET to spend your anniversary with her? I think you are wasting your money
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