Cogee Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Ex had known this person for 3 months prior to breakup and may have been hanging out (as friends) maybe one or two times each month, though I can't rule out them texting or calling each other more frequently towards the later months. Anyway, she dumped me and immediately starts seeing this guy. In fact, they travelled together for four days to another country five days after our breakup. They also updated their status to in a relationship with each other on facebook 2 weeks after our relationship ended and put up webcam couple photos. My instincts say they are moving very fast. What say you?
purplereigncb Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Super speed. That sucks to hear. You need to lay off this information for a while. I think you know enough to say enough is enough.
denxnis Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Sounds like she couldn't care less about how you are taking the break-up and is only worried about herself. Keep your chin up and move forward man, that girl would have cheated on anyone in-order to make herself happy. And yes, they are moving fast, however odds are they have known each other for longer than you think.
Thunderchild Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Is your ex in a rebound - probably not - give thanks to whatever God you believe in and move on.
Author Cogee Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 You are right, I probably am at the limit of what I should know. I do know when they first met and it was about 3 months ago. It's kind of scary for me to think that the last time I saw her was when I made the 3h trip in the middle of the work week so that I could celebrate her birthday together. Made love, seemed happy as a couple and always had a great time together, though frustrated with the long distance and busy times. We talked about how the distance would be closed soon and I would see her after she returns from her 1 month trip back home. Well, she returns and then dumps me for someone else while lying about there even being someone else. Frustrating, but I guess I have been trying to process all this since it happened. I just couldn't imagine someone could possibly be so loving and showing feelings to me a few weeks before ending it and then immediately entering something else.
orionboxing Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 If it's any consolation, I once read a statistic that rebound relationships after VERY serious relationships (we are talking long term stuff) have a very high failure rate. I personally can't remember a single relationship I've had post traumatic breakup that worked for me. Frequently, there is still too much residual crap left over in order to give yourself entirely to a new person. The rebound relationship is sometimes a trial or even a mental break from the previous meaningful relationship. It helps forget the previous partner and allows you to re-evaluate what you want of a partnership. Believe or not, I've actually had 3 (or 4?) women return in my life after a brief absence. Those were good connections to begin with and it easy for them to return. This depends on the length of your relationship with this person...how long have you known her? Sorry to hear she is jet-setting with some guy...seems like a compulsive thing.
AKisBaked Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I feel you bro, my ex did the same thing to me also.. right after we broke up she posted pics up with some other guy 2 weeks prior.. it's a sh*tty feeling for sure. From what your mentioning they are moving on quite fast but it seems like she isn't going to turn back now. If she's doing all this and making it seem like its nothing, she's probably trying to make you jealous or she has already moved on with and with this new guy. Sorry to hear man. It sucks how some women can treat, betray and hurt you so much when you dont even know it. They just want the easy way out and not have to deal with emotional distress.
Author Cogee Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 We were together just over 1 year long distance the whole time (2-3h drive), though we were friends for about 10 months prior and dated for 2 months in the middle of that. We had stopped dating the first time due to concerns over the distance involved and how busy we both were (both doing grad school) but eventually decided to give it a shot due to how strong the feelings were. When she was breaking up she was feeding me reasons that I knew were a facade and pressed for more. All the things she was saying sounded like they were heavily calculated and constructed to get me to accept that we couldn't be together and I wouldn't ask any more questions. As it went on I could tell she was getting frustrated and didn't know what to say. She eventually said she no longer had feelings for me, and it seemed extremely hard for her to say that, almost as if it was her last resort to get me to leave her but that she didn't necessarily believe it. I then asked if there was someone else and she denied. After she got home she immediately removed me from facebook. I do know from the conversations we had leading up to the breakup that she was heavily missing me and would sometimes cry on the phone saying how much she loved me. Whenever we did see each other we were always having a good time and both our circle of friends saw how close we were. At some point I think she started to emotionally cheat with this other guy. I look at how fast they are moving on together and can't imagine how someone who was so attached to me just a few weeks/months prior would be able to do it.
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