barbossa Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Especially at night. When you see a movie, see other people PDA . Girls generally have better social circle I think guys try to mask it with going to the gym and drinking If friends and keeping busy helped we wouldn't complain here How do you battle it? I admit to hugging my pillow at night Cyber stalking my ex Fapping to my ex
outsidethebox Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 looks like you have issues with your ex. Probably should get some counseling about it. 2
Green Light Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Especially at night. When you see a movie, see other people PDA . Girls generally have better social circle I think guys try to mask it with going to the gym and drinking If friends and keeping busy helped we wouldn't complain here How do you battle it? I admit to hugging my pillow at night Cyber stalking my ex Fapping to my ex I'm doing it right now. I guess internet addiction is better than a drug addiction. Cheaper and easier on the body. 1
Esoteric Elf Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Loneliness is one toughie, man. It takes years of conditioning to get used to, and, even then, the feeling creeps up on you to give you the spooks intermittently. Yes, I hug my pillow too, every night. Every night I hold it, every morning I wake up with it. Quite a romantic premise to start a plot...jk Seriously (yes, I do hold my pillow), I would suggest going out. Expand your social circles; there are guys and girls out there who are just as lonely as you are (besides me): trust me. Don't ignore it like I do. Make yourself available:) 1
MrCastle Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Porn usually helps with that. Or anything to take your mind off it, really. When I'm alone with my thoughts is when I'm the worst. Finding hobbies helps, doing things you enjoy helps. I am currently going through this right now although I am more pissed than sad/woe is me. 1
Eggplant Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Volunteer to be the friend of a lonely elderly person. I did this when I moved to a new city, and now I have a great friend. She's 70, but she has a lot of insightful things to say because she's been around the block. Do you have a pet?
Green Light Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I am currently going through this right now although I am more pissed than sad/woe is me. I've been pissed off lately as well. It seems like everything these days has been made to be as hard as possible. Sh*t that used to be simple, now impossible. I've been listening to a lot of early Public Image Limited and Sonic Youth. That helps with my lonliness! 1
mortensorchid Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I like that idea of Eggplant's to volunteer to be a friend of an elderly person. You never know what you can or can't learn, I have found that with older people who I am also friendly with. But on another note, there is no real answer to loneliness, and I am not just talking about the love life lonely either. Because honestly, I have been lonely through many periods of my life. I felt like I was not the right fit for some social groups as a kid, from junior high school on quite honestly. I would also get annoyed when I would try to arrange some kind of outing, ask someone to do it with me, then find that no one wants to do it. So what do you do? Miss out on it or go by yourself? Those are your only two choices here. THe only answer to loneliness is to get out and do things, meet new people, try new things. And never say no to any social opportunity no matter how strange or lame it may or may not sound, you never know if and when you will encounter something new and unexpected. The idea is to take the focus off of yourself and do something else to take your mind off of it. Easier said than done, but that's the only answer. 1
MrCastle Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I've been pissed off lately as well. It seems like everything these days has been made to be as hard as possible. Sh*t that used to be simple, now impossible. I've been listening to a lot of early Public Image Limited and Sonic Youth. That helps with my lonliness! I've been listening to a lot of Eminem because he articulates how I feel very well when it comes to the wimminz. Music is actually great therapy for me personally. 1
c57dood Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Having faith in God helps, I'm never lonely. Plus, there's so many great people out in the world. New relationships form with people that you interact with on a regular basis. School, work, recreation, art, music, sports, religion, volunteering, there's so many ways to develop new relationships. Even though it may not seem that daunting, it takes boldness to march into an unfamiliar situation with people you've never met, but that's the only way you and they grow. Be bold and brave and venture into new territory and you'll never be lonely again. 2
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Especially at night. When you see a movie, see other people PDA . Girls generally have better social circle I think guys try to mask it with going to the gym and drinking If friends and keeping busy helped we wouldn't complain here How do you battle it? I admit to hugging my pillow at night Cyber stalking my ex Fapping to my ex Get a hobby.
Green Light Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Get a hobby. LS is my hobby. What else you got?
Green Light Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Music is actually great therapy for me personally. Me too. Sometimes when I'm at my lowest I'll put on some Bach and that perks me up. 1
Djz05 Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Try to do something that interests you, like hobbies as previously posted. Whenever I move to a different area, I use meetup.com to get in touch with people with the same interests as I do. You can also try learning something creative. Whenever I feel blue, I spend some time playing music on my guitar, working on my writing, or dabble in painting. But when I want to blow some steam, spending more time at the gym/gun range/race track helps me release the stress. But the most important thing I can tell you is to just talk. Tell people how you feel, tell a bartender, tell your barber, heck tell your pet fish (if you have one). Dont let it stay bottled up. Sometimes just telling your story to another person is a good start to help you get out of the loneliness.
uv4dreams Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Similar situation here, exactly three months ago. I have to say I forced myself to do things I had little to no desire doing, which ended up increasing my social circle a bit and helping me open up in some ways. You'd be surprised how many people who are overly-socially active are actually lonely, and are equally eager to meet new people just like yourself.
CryForNoOne Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Loneliness can be a b!tch. It's one of the reasons I'm spending so much time on this site right now. The funny thing is, it actually seems to get worse when you have more on the "surface" yet still feel empty inside. Look at celebrities with all the money and beautiful people around them, yet their suicide rates are astronomical. I'm starting to understand why. I have more money and female options than I've ever had yet I feel lonelier than ever. Financial success and casual dating just gives you a temporary high. The more you get of it, the less exciting it is each time. Until eventually, you get almost nothing out of it, and the moment you are alone you feel horribly empty.
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