MartinS Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I feel sick, weak, can't eat, can't think straight. Every memory, thought and thing I see makes me break down. I'm so scared and in so much pain, more pain than I imagined I could be in. I feel so lost and have no way out. I'm not sure I'm looking forhelp, advice or kindness and I know noo one can take this away, but I just am desperate.
SimonSerenade Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 You need to talk about this right now and devise yourself a plan, mostly not talking to your ex and giving them a chance to come back to you is the best way forward, it's hard though, the pain can be strong it have's you doing the complete opposite but bare in mind this will drive her away, tell me your problem friend, get it off your mind
Mack05 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 You are in shock Martin. It's perfectly natural. Why not write your entire story (in paragraphs so that it is easier to read). Try be as honest as possible (even if some of it makes you or her look bad). It's easier to give advice/support when you give loads of honest information... Take your time.. 1
Author MartinS Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 We were together 6 months, she took a little persuading but she very much loved me too. She seems to have some hormonal issues, genuinely, not me being a misogynyst here. She could be very distant at times and clearly unhappy. I'm quite an insecure person and her tendency to push me away could get very painful at times but I realised this was somethign she couldn't help. The last 2 months the distance became quite profound but she had a trip coming up and i didn't want to give her such a cloud to take with her so decided I would wait for her to return before we spoke about it. Today I did that and rather than form a plan to be more open and positive, she took the opportunity to break up. She was hugely upset but I just had to get out of there, it was so painful I couldn't carry on talking. All day I seem to have gone through every negetive thought and nauseusy painful feeling. I called and asked her if she was sure, she was crying so much she barely made sense but she said she feels we are both unhappy and it is best. I feel so ill and can find no escape, I'm petrified at the moment, I just don't know what to do with myself.
adelia Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 So sorry for what you're going through. There's lots of helpful people on here that have been through the same thing and can help. I wonder has she tried any medications for her fluctuating hormones? It's not easy being with someone whose moods change so drastically. Hope things get easier. You're not alone. Plenty of friendly people here to help you get through this.
SimonSerenade Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 That's not easy to deal with, right now she probably needs some space to clear her head and find her feelings, right now I wouldn't worry about it too much, give her a few days and see if she contacts you, clear your own head too and talk to her when your in the right place and know what to say, I've made a lot of mistakes in this situation and I don't want to tell you what to do but space is vital right now, now's a time to pull yourself together and improve yourself, my plan would be to give her around a week before you contact her again if she doesn't contact you and have a talk, give her a really nice goodbye even if it kills you at the time, at least you'll both have a nice memory and that'll serve you as a horse that rides you to safety, if it doesn't work out after your talk, give it another 30 days and keep working on yourself, get your confidence, learn to live without her and see what move's she makes, if she doesn't come back then by that time it'll be her loss, it's all out of your hands where hormones are concerned, it's not your fault, it's all out of your hands, take it easy on yourself, it's so crazy how 2 people can find so much love and emotion together in 6 months, accept the situation man, accept it isn't your fault and be patient, you'll find your way out of this hell and you'll be better for it, maybe you both will, I hope so man, you sound like a good guy.
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