miklos Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I went on my ex's facebook after like a week and read his new status updates. it hurts Im not crying but i did feel like anxiety and still kinda do. I hate this feeling. and then I am angry because a close friend is commenting on his stuff. Doesnt she know how hurt I am...
Author miklos Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 who really cares about my pain? my loss? i want to cry now... i want to love again... it was amazing... gosh i miss him again grr..
singme2sleep Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I know EXACTLY how you feel. I had to leave Facebook because I couldn't stand seeing his posts of basically just going on with his life like he doesn't miss me. It def hurts and makes you question whether or not they ever loved you. Try to hang in there, delete him if you have to or hide his stuff from your newsfeed.
Keenly Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I understand the pain you feel. I do have to say though that is completely unfair of you to expect another human being to limit their contact with anyone because you once had a thing with them. She is her own person and she can talk to whoever she wants, and she is not trying to do it as a stick in your eye or anything. Just block him, you won't see is stuff, and remember that there is NO comfort in checking up him. Only pain and sadness, and it will send you back 5 steps. 1
SimonSerenade Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Aw man I really feel for you, I remember that feeling, it's a devastating almost betraying sort of feeling, sort of sums your feelings up on a scale right there and then, you realise there moving on faster than you are and it feels like there just rubbing it in your face without a care, they don't plan that, sometimes it's just the way it is, nothing more about it. I know it's cruel man, don't let it get you down too much though, personally I stayed clear of Facebook after seeing her profile, since all my friends were friends with her it became impossible to block so many people on it, maybe take a break until your good and ready, take it at your own pace, it's hard now but it'll get easier and one day it won't bug you one bit, just keep your head up and keep your eyes away from her.
singme2sleep Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Somebody said this to me on yahoo answers a few weeks ago... "Me and my ex aren't really talking and haven't been for 2 months now. Once in a while I try to strike up a convo with her and usually it goes nowhere. As upset as I am about it, I do not put it on Facebook, because it is no ones business. As far as anyone knows, nothing is wrong with me but that is not true. With my friends I act like I don't care about it, I pretend like I've moved on from her just so they don't have to hear it. But some nights I still end up crying myself to sleep over her. The point I'm trying to get across is that some people put on a fake smile and do not show their feelings on Facebook or in real life and only keep it to themselves when no one else is around."
TheBladeRunner Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Get rid of the da%^ FaceBook crap! Here's one for ya': my SBXW had a past guy that abused her, gave her an STD, AND had her thrown in jail for a DV comment "cute" on a pic that she posted of MY DAUGHTER on FaceBook (glad that zero lives in Seattle). After seeing this I realized there was no way I can control what she does. I forced myself to unfriend her and anyone else associated with her. I don't wanna' know what she does and I certainly don't want her keeping tabs on me. Please, please, do yourself a favor and "disconnect" from all the social media crap regarding your ex, trust me, it WILL help. JMO, good luck!
coltsfan1 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I deleted my fakebook when my ex and I went our separate ways. I haven't missed it a bit, that was almost 2 years ago, took my friends a bit to get accustomed. Now they call/email me and I have the privilege to have a more private life.
BUBS Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I understand how you feel. I blocked my ex from facebook and stopped following him on instagram. You think you are gonna be ok and then BAM, ur all up in their business. Today I posted a photo to instagram and he liked it, I had no clue he was even following me. I was feeling relatively normal the past week, and sure enough my anxiety sky rocketted and I found myself checking his page. Then I found myself getting worked up seeing him with a bracelet on in many photos over the past few weeks (he doesnt wear jewlrey so I know this was a gift from a girl) ... the point? Avoid like the plague. It's been nearly 5 months and I hoped that I would become indifferent... while I'm healing and this would have been a melt down months ago... it still shows how vulnerable people are when they are heartbroken and alone. Delete, delete, delete.
Sososad Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 This is completely normal and hurtful . But use this as big indication How far you still need To come. If u see how much seeing a status imagine how much Breaking no contact and been rejected will feel. Your only protecting yourself . That's all . I learned the hard way too thinking ill be fine but nope knocked me right back. I also 100% Agree with a poster earlier saying about Facebook Been a mask.. Showing the world how great life is .. My ex liked Facebook alot but once we broke up it went into over drive with pics comments and the like. Who's she foolin me or herself . I now know the pics are flying up willy nilly but I ain't stupid enough to go see it .. Kinda like someone seeing someone dead on the ground it's not good enough to just see it u wanna stick your hand right in the wound! Look after yourself and block everyone. It's easier or wait till your stronger .
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