Sososad Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Well think ill give a update Bout 5 weeks since breakup Was doing ok ish thought I was improving It's been pretty much no contact now since Break up bar her dropping back my stuff and Texting me two stupid messages which I ignored Was feeling slightly better and getting my life back on track A old friend came over today and was Talking about her .. Nothing I didn't know really But by god it hurt .. Felt for a Time I was back to square one.. I'm so annoyed I'm feeling like this again.. I won't break no contact .. I want to but i won't! Maybe it's the realization hitting home she's not coming back . Can't believe after 5 weeks and f'all contact I think she cares .. My dad told me a good one the other day "Even a fool wakes up" But I'm still pining like a looooser So disheartened And lost ... When will this Crap end !
Bigcitydreamer Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Hey don't feel bad!! We all have bad days and good days! I'm having a bad day today too. 2.5 weeks nc, no contact on my bday even. It hurts like hell. Some days I feel better than others. What I find helps is to really let yourself feel those sad feelings of loss, cry it out, take a nap, and after crying for a bit and I have no more tears left I feel a bit better like I can focus on something else. Have you been doing things to make yourself a better person? Going to the gym perhaps? Or going shopping, or trying something new? That helps me big time. Cheer up, let yourself feel the pain, cry it out, and hopefully you feel better after you are done.
Author Sososad Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 Thank you for the kind words Happy birthday by the way!! I'm just let down I guess by myself .. Hearing she's having such a blast and I'm bearly leaving the house How sad is that... God hurry up and hit that switch and let me get over!
Bigcitydreamer Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Don't be mad at yourself. You are after all the dumpee. Of course it's harder for us. Do what u need to do to feel better about yourself. I'm not exaggerating when I say this works! As hard as it is you should make the effort to become a better person overall. Turn a negative into a positive. The things I've been doing are: Going tanning (I know I know it's bad for you but makes me feel more attractive) Buying new and fancier clOthes Changing my hair colour Eating better Reading books I like Finding a better higher paying job You should try and do stuff that makes u happy. One thing each day. Guys are different tho I'm sure you won't be changing your hair colour or buying fancy clothes but anything to make yourself more attractive to yourself and someone else. Can't stress how much this route is helping me. I was devastated when I got dumped. My whole life changed. I now have no car no house and have to move 7000km away!! It hasn't been easy but I bet your like me in the sense that you still have bad days but not as bad as day 1 or 2. I find myself crying less and less. I never thought I would feel ok again. Still not there 100% but one day at a time. Oh and thanks for the bday wish!
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