Lillygoose Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Today is unusually hard! I kept thinking where I was last year and how happy I was with the boyfriend at the time. And I remember spending the whole day with him, visiting his family. Talking about a family of our own. And then I think about him and her. And I want to cry I can't help it! So emotional lately!!! I don't want to think about it! Help me!! Why am I thinking about it??? And them? Thinking about them together I feel physically sick! help me guys! I don't want want to think about them! Ahhhhh I want to scream
TheBladeRunner Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 LG, get out and do something.....anything! I used to have those troubles as well. It still happens occasionally, and when it does I jump into action. I call a friend, go to the gym, go bowling, or even take myself to eat. The feelings you have are normal after a break up IMO. I hope your day gets better!
Blastoplast Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 You know what helps me? Hanging out with friends! My best friend who's been with me through SO many difficult times is also going through a rough patch with his ex too, and it helps having somebody like that to talk too. I've been on dates, I had a rebound relationship with a woman (I was her rebound too) that lasted 3 months, had some one night stands and it's been fun, but of course I'm going to be yearning for that deep, meaningful relationship that my ex and I had. Hopefully in your situation you can get to the same point where you understand that if you're no longer with somebody, it's likely you can do much better. If they left you for one reason or another and by no fault of your own, you can MOST DEFINITELY do better. There are millions of beautiful, willing and loving people of all ages out there looking for the same thing. Keep your head up, surround yourself with loved ones, and do the best you can to do amazing things for yourself and good things WILL happen! xo
SimonSerenade Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Sweetheart, your being so hard on yourself, thinking of stuff like that will hold you back in the past but I know it's so hard to think about anything else once you start. Feeling all this now is what really matters, get it out of the way with, cry yourself out and accept how things are, look at the positive here, you know what he's doing and who he's with and as strange as it sounds, once you know that you can accept it, rather than worry throughout the whole of the breakup who he's with and what he's doing. It's a phase, it's a painful phase of a meaningful break up, accepting your lost and shattered dreams, accepting there life now without you, it's hard but it passes, you feel it all and think about it all but you get over it and move on again, it's horrible how things get like that but stay positive and keep moving. You seem like a really nice girl, I'm sure you could have all kinds of great men, only difference between you and your ex is your respectful, you feel the break up and do things in the right way, his relationship won't last and in my experience, it'll catch up with him and when it does, it'll come down on him like a ton of bricks. Give yourself a break, what your feeling is normal and there's nothing wrong with it, tell yourself what's good about you and let yourself know what he's missing and what somebody else will one day be gaining.
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