Confused about our relationship and where it is going if anywhere?

[scb77]

Hi ya'll, I need some advice!! My boyfriend and I have been on the ups and downs. We break up and then he comes back, this has happened 3 times in the last year. I love him very much and would like to remain contact with him. Both of us has said, "I love you" and he has told that he can see himself marrying me.

 

Now somtimes I know that guys will say things to form a security blanket. However, I don't know whether or not to start getting over it and past, which by the way I don't want to do or to remain in contact and try not to ask questions about what is happening.

 

My problem is, is that I want to know answers to questions about the future, now I know that is not possible, How can I just relax?

 

After a week trip to Florida with his family, we broke up about two weeks later. Didn't really talk for 3 weeks had some phone conversations, started talking again and then he told me that he loves and cares about me and wants things to work with us, but that he doesn't know how to make them work and that he is scared.

 

Let me remind you that this past Saturday we had a date to this cocktail function, I went with him and some of his friends, we had a wonderful time together, and ended up spending the entire afternoon together yesterday and then cooked dinner and watched a movie last night at his house. Everything has seemed perfectly fine. Granted I hope that we are not using eachother b/c the attraction is still there.

 

I am scared as well, because I am sick of getting my feelings hurt, but on the other hand I don't want to give up and lose everything that we have. I need some advice, what do I do? How do I relax and go with the flow? Should I even ask questions about what is going on or should I just forget about it? I am so confused?

[iceprincess]

Hey there, sweetie. You know exactly how you feel and what you should do, but because you love him so much, it's hard to let go. I look at every situation/relationship in my life as experiences...I know you put a lot into this relationship but do you really NEED him? I'm currently in a hate/love relationship with my BF because we always fight so much so I know exactly what you're going through. I know for myself that the only reason why I'm with him still is because it's a security issue. I don't want to be alone...but if things aren't going to work out then I have to move on. It's the only way possible, because staying in the relationship will only hurt me more in the long run. I hope that you find out what you want for yourself and good luck in whatever you choose to do.