irc333 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 What does this vague statement mean? "If you think you can keep up, please send me an email."
salparadise Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 It means she considers herself superior and a challenge that most people can't meet. She sees relationships as competitive, that men will have to work hard for acceptance and most will fail. What was the context–– athletic, intellectual or sexual? Regardless, I would pass.
Author irc333 Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 (edited) It means she considers herself superior and a challenge that most people can't meet. She sees relationships as competitive, that men will have to work hard for acceptance and most will fail. What was the context–– athletic, intellectual or sexual? Regardless, I would pass. Well, she said she's an Executive Chef...Director of Dining services. Says she's a pool shark, and can take on any challenger "if you dare". Says she can cook pretty much anything. Claims not to be the "typical girl next door". whatever that means. She speaks highly of her own personal talents. But it's vague otherwise. I find it very strange, she lives in a township in the middle of the boonies...appx 30 mins from me. I've been through, what SEEMS to a group of homes, not a town. lol With an old-fashioned water tower. I find it odd an "Executive" Chef would take up residence there. Edited March 9, 2013 by irc333
todreaminblue Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 What does this vague statement mean? "If you think you can keep up, please send me an email." i would avoid that .......expectations of someone thinking the are highly clever or maybe they type extremely fast and dont use ellipses...i am out then..... i type slower than i think so nah.....smilin......a bit up themselves.....ooop is that mean......computer says nahhhhhhh..up themselves..deb 1
aed Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Why would you want to know that? This is how I read that line: 'I am above humans, if you think you can get on my level, give it a try'. That is just a line of someone that is arrogant, and thinks the world should evolve around them. 1
Author irc333 Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 Why would you want to know that? This is how I read that line: 'I am above humans, if you think you can get on my level, give it a try'. That is just a line of someone that is arrogant, and thinks the world should evolve around them. THen she's living in the WRONG place to be thinking that way.
Taramere Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Well, she said she's an Executive Chef...Director of Dining services. Says she's a pool shark, and can take on any challenger "if you dare". Says she can cook pretty much anything. Claims not to be the "typical girl next door". whatever that means. It means she is looking for somebody who will protect her tirelessly from the nightmarish reality of her own ordinariness. 2
soccerrprp Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 What does this vague statement mean? "If you think you can keep up, please send me an email." I don't necessarily read this as a statement of superiority. It would be nice to see this statement within the context of the whole profile (i'm assuming this came from a profile from OLD or there was much more than just this line). I know people who say this to indicate how BUSY they are or in reference to a detailed profile with lots of information to digest. She's an executive chef, but that doesn't make her arrogant or self-consumed. It could be that she's very busy, a lot to say. Then again, you don't become an executive chef w/o some strong personality traits.
aed Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I don't necessarily read this as a statement of superiority. It would be nice to see this statement within the context of the whole profile (i'm assuming this came from a profile from OLD or there was much more than just this line). I know people who say this to indicate how BUSY they are or in reference to a detailed profile with lots of information to digest. She's an executive chef, but that doesn't make her arrogant or self-consumed. It could be that she's very busy, a lot to say. Then again, you don't become an executive chef w/o some strong personality traits. True a woman with a good carreer doesn't making her arrogant. Also your jobprofession doesn't say anything about having strong personality traits. It can also mean, that she can kick down everyone she knows and use everyone to get to the top (like some male carreer hunters do!)
ltjg45 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Sounds like a direct challenge to all males who dare approach her. That could be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on the female in question.
sillyanswer Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 What does this vague statement mean? "If you think you can keep up, please send me an email." It means she's already looking down on you even before you've messaged her. She thinks you should feel grateful that you're even allowed to look at her photos.
phineas Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I think just about every woman in my age group who i've seen with this at the end of their profile are either skinny-fat or just not fat but think they are special because they have a gym membership & have picked up a weight. They have absolutely no clue about true fitness, have zero muscle definition & way too much body-fat despite listing "athletic" as their body type and almost always have pictures of themselves in their gym bathroom mirror in their profile. In effect they are the equivalent of the guy who just goes to the gym, does arm exercises then smokes a cigarette at the bar later. In other words, f'ing annoying.
Art_Critic Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 it just means she is trying to stand out from all the other profiles... No different than people saying they are looking for their partner in crime or whatever... A phrase, not meant to be taken as seriously as you have... 4
ltjg45 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 It means she's already looking down on you even before you've messaged her. She thinks you should feel grateful that you're even allowed to look at her photos. So, in other words, RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!! This is why I prefer being direct. Don't leave anything to the imagination because this can happen. She may be saying that just to see if you are willing to respond to pressure but instead the OP may get the idea that she feels superior to him in every way, shape, and form and decides to run away instead. Oh, how the dating game works. 1
Art_Critic Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 It means she's already looking down on you even before you've messaged her. She thinks you should feel grateful that you're even allowed to look at her photos. How do you get all that from such a catch phrase ? 1
xxoo Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 She's an active and ambitious woman looking for the same in a man. If you don't consider yourself active and ambitious, she's not the one for you.
carhill Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 What does this vague statement mean? "If you think you can keep up, please send me an email." It's a 'challenge'. Sometimes words used as flirting in person, when both people know each other and can read each other's body language and tone, don't translate well to the cold electrons on a viewscreen. If the profile is otherwise inviting, give it a shot. If the whole thing looks like a 'challenge', IMO pass. 1
sillyanswer Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 How do you get all that from such a catch phrase ? Personal experience from dating a couple of people who said that.
CudLRoo Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 It could also be perceived as her way of saying "I don't like to be messed around". About 90% of female OLD profiles I read seem to make it abundantly clear that they've had bad experiences with playaz and want to date someone more reliable. Who knows? Best not to put too abstract an interpretation on it and just go with the flow. The mind can play some terrible tricks, and the gut can sense when something's awry, even if it takes the heart/mind a bit of time to receive the message.
Mr_Flay Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I've seen this on profiles of sporty girls with a multitude of outdoor hobbies and activities. It's meant to discourage couch potatos. 2
sillyanswer Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 About 90% of female OLD profiles I read seem to make it abundantly clear that they've had bad experiences with playaz and want to date someone more reliable. Yes, I've seen this, too. It makes me wonder where all these players are... but the conclusion I've reached is that there aren't nearly as many of them as those women think. Ie, they are "seeing" players when there are none... they're just rationalising failed dating/relationships as "he must be a player, because it couldn't possibly be my fault".
salparadise Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I really like it when a woman writes a profile that is descriptive without being self aggrandizing, perhaps even a bit of witty self depreciation. Humility is a trait I like in everyone. Women complain a lot about men's egos, but a woman with a oversized ego is just as bad (if not worse). I stay away from profiles with whole range of cliche phrases, such as–– knight in shining armor, sweep me off my feet, can you capture my attention/hold my interest, catch me if you can, looking for a REAL man, looking for an honest man... there are hundreds of these. The all signal some sort of crazy expectation that puts the burden on the man to prove himself worthy, as if she is the catch of the century. I want someone who's willing meet me half way, hold up their end of the conversation literally and figuratively.
CudLRoo Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 ^Maybe, maybe not but I was chatting with a girl about this and she was telling me about all kinds of dirty messages she gets off guys, she got hurt in the past and all this stuff just makes her feel sick and cheap. A lot of guys use dating sites like contact magazines, lots of baggage = purely for shaggage, whereas a lot of gals on there have been hurt before, and are wary and weary of such types. I don't know, I'm from the UK, you guys from the US seem to have more have a structured and assertive approach to dating, whereas the attitude's a tad different here. Dating's a relatively recent addition to the British way of life, and I attribute the show 'Friends' as its biggest kicker-offer over here.
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