Honesty Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Hi everyone, Do you think that it's possible to fall in love more than once or do you think that love only comes knocking at your door once? Personally I think that you can have more that one love, but you love each person differently from the other one. I don't think you can love 2 or more people at the same time though. The reason that I ask this question is because I had my first love about 5 years ago and I never thought I was going to love again, but I did and when I fell in love again it was so amazing. It was more strong and more beautiful than the first time I fell in love. It made me question if my first love was really a love or not. Or maybe I just thought that it was love because I had never experienced what I have now. I hope to hear your opinion on love.
arnicka Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Originally posted by Honesty Do you think that it's possible to fall in love more than once or do you think that love only comes knocking at your door once? Definitely! But I think maybe you shouldn't over-analyze things like this. Just be grateful that you've experienced all you have and that you've known what it means to be truly happy.
UCFKevin Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Of course you can. There's absolutely no reason why you couldn't. Not a doubt in my mind. That would be like being fired from a job and thinking, "I'll never find another job ever!"
dyermaker Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Originally posted by UCFKevin That would be like being fired from a job and thinking, "I'll never find another job ever!" Hardly. Your performance at one job doesn't neccesarily change the way you do it at another. Originally posted by Honesty Do you think that it's possible to fall in love more than once or do you think that love only comes knocking at your door once? I wish I knew for sure. I'm told it happens, but it'd be fruitless for you to convince me. I don't think you can love 2 or more people at the same time though. That's a little prejudicial, I've read accounts of people who prefer it that way.
kellyp1 Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 I used to think you could fall in love, true love, only once in your life. But over time, I think I have figured something out. There is not 1 right person for each of us. There are different people we will come across that will be right, given our current state of being. You are lucky to find one of the people that is right for you that you fall in love with and then you grow together from there. Some people end up growing apart and falling out of love, but that doesn't take away the love that they were once in. Just my thought. I personally have been in love twice in my life and agree. The second time in many ways was much sweeter and patient. Good luck with your new love!
Author Honesty Posted September 7, 2004 Author Posted September 7, 2004 Originally posted by kellyp1 I used to think you could fall in love, true love, only once in your life. But over time, I think I have figured something out. There is not 1 right person for each of us. There are different people we will come across that will be right, given our current state of being. You are lucky to find one of the people that is right for you that you fall in love with and then you grow together from there. Some people end up growing apart and falling out of love, but that doesn't take away the love that they were once in. Just my thought. I personally have been in love twice in my life and agree. The second time in many ways was much sweeter and patient. Good luck with your new love! You are so right! It makes a lot of sense to me
Touch_of_Naughtiness Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 You can love more than once, twice, and so on. Of course each person you love will be different and for different reasons. Like kellyp1 said, there will be different people you will love depending on your state of mind. What once would have caused you to fall in love once may now appall you. The people you fall in love with help you become who you are. Not all people are lucky enough to find someone they love and stay together forever, but I think that most of us are in search of that.
EC Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 I think you can. I used to believe in only one soulmate for you and only one person to make you happy for the rest of your life. Yeah that could be true for some people but as I grew up I opened my mind to different possibilities. I learned from experience that you need to meet certain people and learn from them. I believe that every single person you meet is not by chance but because you were supposed to meet them for whatever reason. I believe that even if a relationship goes sour you learned from that person and that person learned from you and you keep the memories and move on. I have fallen in love for the second time and though I have my jealousy attacks because of the long distance, I'm loving every minute of it. Hopefully it will last, I have already learned so many things from him and have made so many beautiful memories. You can love again and life does go on. And yes so far my second time falling has been somewhat slower and more special than the first time. It's so different, but definitely better.
Touch_of_Naughtiness Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Why do you think the second time around is always sweeter?
kellyp1 Posted September 8, 2004 Posted September 8, 2004 I think because your expectations are more real and the smaller stuff means more. You know what you lost the first time and appreciate more the second time around. And with wisdom comes patience.
Mr Spock Posted September 8, 2004 Posted September 8, 2004 Or conversely, you know what to avoid-you know what you want, and how you want to be treated. Anyone who says you can only love once is a mopey pessimist who has been dumped. Get over it.
Touch_of_Naughtiness Posted September 8, 2004 Posted September 8, 2004 Originally posted by kellyp1 I think because your expectations are more real and the smaller stuff means more. You know what you lost the first time and appreciate more the second time around. And with wisdom comes patience. What you posted is so right! I don't think anyone could have said it any better!
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