kyle77 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Major setback with my ex tonight. It has kind of made me requestion everything about my ex and my view towards her. So I recently have been thinking that I was over my ex, but then I saw her tonight at the club with her boyfriend, and it honestly made me want to puke. I knew she had a boyfriend and I thought that I was completely okay with it but actually seeing them together just for some reason set me off...i have seen them together before, just not in the club i guess, and not touching. not exactly sure how to cope with this right now. I don't want to freak out and start missing my ex again especially because she has a boyfriend. I just feel pretty hopeless right now, not sure what to do. Any advice is appreciated.
TaraMaiden Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 You think you got problems? Something definitely screwy here!! WTF?? I mean - really - ??!!?
stevie_23 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 You think you got problems? Something definitely screwy here!! WTF?? I mean - really - ??!!? OMG, I just read that thread too and was like OH BOY! I SO do not want to be like that after TWO YEARS!!!!!!!!! Just...WEIRDNESS. Anyway, for THIS situation, Kyle77, it's all stages. You've been on a rollercoaster and everyone goes through this post breakup. Every new experience you're exposed to after the BU you have to adjust and adapt to. And each time you go through a new experience, you become more "ok" with it. And so this is just yet another new step or experience you have to adjust to in order to be ok again, you know? At the beginning, after a BU, EVERY experience is new and the rollercoaster goes up, down, up, down, very quickly...and then as time passes, and you've already experienced many of those new steps, you get more and more ok and used to them...but there's always a new one (or at least for a while) to still adapt to, and you're getting through it very well so far, so don't worry you're regressing or going backwards or that you'll start missing her constantly again. You won't. This is just one more step. You'll be ok.
cavalier99 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Kyle..is there anyway you can avoid her completely? Sounds to me like you really need to get away from her. Was it just a random thing seeing her there? Its been a long time since you BU right? Have you dated anyone else?
Author kyle77 Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 Kyle..is there anyway you can avoid her completely? Sounds to me like you really need to get away from her. Was it just a random thing seeing her there? Its been a long time since you BU right? Have you dated anyone else? I cant really avoid her we go to university together. Ya it has been almost 2 years since we broke up, but because we are at the same university I see her on a weekly basis still...I mean at university when I see her with her boyfriend it is a little shocking to see but nothing that gets me going crazy. Seeing her last night though, was just absolutely terrible and I don't even know why. I literally felt sick to my stomach seeing them together, and I have never felt that way prior to this when seeing them. I probably could have avoided last nights situation though. My ex's friends who are now my friends were celebrating a birthday and they invited me so I went, I guess I should have foreseen her being there with her boyfriend. I just didn't think it would matter because usually I just shrug it off when I see them at school. I haven't dated anyone else since which is probably a major factor. It's just I don't really know where to start....
na49 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Well if they're her friends, they really aren't your friends. If they invite you out, they definitely are inviting her out. So don't torture yourself by going to their parties or whatever. I'd imagine the reason it hurts to see what you saw is because it is reality kicking you in the shins. She's moved onto a new guy and you're still single. She's happy and you're here. This isn't a bad thing though, if you aren't over her. You really shouldn't be dating. Keep doing what you're doing to move on, I also run the risk of seeing my ex on campus with her boyfriend. I haven't seen them together yet, but I think when I do it will hurt me just as bad as it hurt you. There's really not much you can do about what you saw. Just do whatever you can to avoid seeing her again. Walk to class different ways, do whatever you have to.
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