grace777 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I have no idea why, but I'm thinking of her so much tonight. I guess I am just wondering, after 5 months, does she still think of me too? I haven't felt this way in awhile, but it's hitting strong now. I miss her. What's the consensus out there? Do they think of us ever? I mean, really think of us, the way I am now - the way I know many of you do too... Honestly, at this point, I don't think of her like this even on a weekly basis. And I know I shouldn't care. I'm not in contact and don't plan to be, but I guess I just wonder. Maybe it's the wine or the boredom this Friday night, but I cannot stop remembering all the warm and fuzzy moments.
lovnlost Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I have no idea why, but I'm thinking of her so much tonight. I guess I am just wondering, after 5 months, does she still think of me too? I haven't felt this way in awhile, but it's hitting strong now. I miss her. What's the consensus out there? Do they think of us ever? I mean, really think of us, the way I am now - the way I know many of you do too... Honestly, at this point, I don't think of her like this even on a weekly basis. And I know I shouldn't care. I'm not in contact and don't plan to be, but I guess I just wonder. Maybe it's the wine or the boredom this Friday night, but I cannot stop remembering all the warm and fuzzy moments. My ex from a couple years ago left me cold turkey. It began as a mutual BU but never really ended I thought. She went back to her ex husband. Glad she did, because I do not think we were going to make it. She wanted me to move there, and I wanted her here, we both had kids etc,. No biggie now. But there was truly no closure. Last month after two years I got a fb message out of the blue from her telling me how every few months someone walked in her office looking exactly like me and she has to double take each time. Then she offered me something. We were very much in love, and she just vanished from my life. Happy for it now...but that the time....it was tough. If after two years she sent me a message and I know she had more love for me at her age of 33 than any other she had been with, even in two marriages, then I had a lasting effect ya know. So ya, I think they still think of us. It may not be as often as we really want or need to accomplish our need for reconciling, but I know it does happen. I am asking that to myself of my current ex. Another one came back after like 5 years of no contact and told me I was THE ONE. Nope....you cant have me I told her. And I was right to do so. 4
Coping Vortex Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I had off and on LC with my ex over the past three months. And I asked her if she thinks of us. She said of course! She even admitted to masturbating to thinking of the sex we had. I told her I assumed as the days went by she thought of me less and less and she said "quite the contrary!" I was shocked. I guess if you think about it, it makes sense that they remember the good stuff. And most of the bad gets forgotten as time goes on. Assuming it was a good relationship. She even told me she missed me terribly over the past three months. However she is not coming back. But it's good to know she thinks of me. 3
TheBladeRunner Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I know mine misses the errand boy/house slave. I know for a fact, she doesn't even need to tell me because I know every time the cat pukes she thinks "God, I wish the little guy were here to clean this up". I miss that special job:( 1
Ordinaryday Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Why do people ask this question??? OF COURSE THEY THINK OF YOU. it is IMPOSSIBLE to spend a significant amount of time and then after awhile never think of them again for the rest of your entire life! IMPOSSIBLE. How often do you find yourself thinking about someone you knew vaguely at high school, and haven't seen in years? I do it a lot, and these aren't even close friends, they might be people I barely knew and for some reason they cross my thoughts from time to time. SO OF COURSE THEY THINK OF YOU, I 100% GUARANTEE IT. but that is NOT to say that their thoughts are positive at all, they might be 100% negative and hate-filled, but they are still 'thinking' of you.
Author grace777 Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 Well that was negative, Ordinary Day. Hahah Not exactly where I was going with that, but your points are noted. Thanks for the reply.
Ordinaryday Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Some might call it negative, I call it the cold hard truth. The thought of my ex always "treasuring" the memories we had together or some crap, well I don't care about it and I certainly don't want to think about it. She dumped me, that is all that matters, whether or not she still "thinks about me" is irrelevant. Too often dumpers try to ease their guilt by contacting the dumpee with breadcrumbs, extending little branches of false hope by letting the dumpee know that they will "always treasure" the time spent together or some crap. I don't want to hear about it. when a girl dumps me she is for all intents and purposes dead to me, I want nothing more to do with her, and I certainly don't get a kick about the possibility of her thinking about me.
Sososad Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Ok I've kinda answered this before on other Posts but my opinion is kinda changing . Last time I said look cop on.. Course they miss us you don't spend that much time with someone all the texts,calls ,happy and sad times to just forget them. I know personally I could see 50 triggers in my house before I leave in the morning (and I've f%%ked out everything ) but it still reminds me! But sadly some people are very very different to us and the majority of us on here .. Some people do what they need to survive and that is to block out our total existence and I thought that's not possible but there must be some truth in it as to how they move on and not look back or ever feel sorrow .. Sorry for ranting and god knows I'm no expert I think of her so much it hurts But I can't just assume she's thinking the same cause as time goes by I'm Thinking she sure ain't .. Don't mean to be harsh or cruel Just my opinion that's all ..
Dragonfruit Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Honestly, whenever I have broken up with someone it was because they weren't the one and I had lost interest. So no, I didn't think of them much. That seems to me more what someone who was left and did not want to be left would do. Sorry if that sounds negative.
Sososad Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Think I agree with dragonfruit if someone Doesn't want to be with you it's probably been a bad experience the last bit before the actual breakup so it could well be a relief that your gone . But everyone's different .. And don't forgot people act very out of character after a breakup too so who knows haha !
Simon Phoenix Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Yes they do. I would almost say that they think of you as much as you think of them. However, thejr thoughts aren't necessarily the same as we have. But the people who are worried if they will "forget you" are off. That doesn't happen IMO.
stevie_23 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 SO OF COURSE THEY THINK OF YOU, I 100% GUARANTEE IT. but that is NOT to say that their thoughts are positive at all, they might be 100% negative and hate-filled, but they are still 'thinking' of you. OMG! Ok...*backing away slowly* lol Anyway, yes, I think they do think of us at times, but it also depends how and why the relationship ended, who ended it, etc. In your ex's case, I think she would ONLY have good feelings about you when she thinks of you because you were good together and she's also happy now, having moved on. So it'd all be good, and I think she would think of you, yes. My ex most likely tries NOT to think of me because it's too hard for him because he can't be with me, but when and if he DOES think of me, it'd also be only good things. Trust in that. 1
Coping Vortex Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 OMG! Ok...*backing away slowly* lol Anyway, yes, I think they do think of us at times, but it also depends how and why the relationship ended, who ended it, etc. In your ex's case, I think she would ONLY have good feelings about you when she thinks of you because you were good together and she's also happy now, having moved on. So it'd all be good, and I think she would think of you, yes. My ex most likely tries NOT to think of me because it's too hard for him because he can't be with me, but when and if he DOES think of me, it'd also be only good things. Trust in that. Exactly. If it was a bad BU or there was a loss of love. Then no, they are probably relieved and don't think of us. But when outside forces or miscommunication happen to cause the BU when the love is still there, then yes I think they think of us often. I know for me and my ex if we had a conversation sooner about where the next step was in our living arrangement we would still be head over heals in love. I know she thinks of me often as we have talked over the course of the BU. But she has already committed herself to a new relationship. 2
na49 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I don't think they forget us, but they don't think of us as much as we think of them. With good reason. they're moving on with their life. They aren't laying in bed crying looking at our pictures, hoping that we would call. They are out meeting new people, just because we weren't "the one" for them, doesn't mean they shut it down and stop living their life.
cavalier99 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I have no idea why, but I'm thinking of her so much tonight. I guess I am just wondering, after 5 months, does she still think of me too? I haven't felt this way in awhile, but it's hitting strong now. I miss her. What's the consensus out there? Do they think of us ever? I mean, really think of us, the way I am now - the way I know many of you do too... Honestly, at this point, I don't think of her like this even on a weekly basis. And I know I shouldn't care. I'm not in contact and don't plan to be, but I guess I just wonder. Maybe it's the wine or the boredom this Friday night, but I cannot stop remembering all the warm and fuzzy moments. Did something happen with the girl you were communicating with? Cav
Author grace777 Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 Stevie - you're alive! I haven't seen you on here in awhile. Then again, I wasn't on much this week either. Thanks for the kind words. It made me feel good. I certainly hope she gets the warm fuzzies for me too on occasion. I know she can't do anything about it or even let me know really, because of the new relationship. Cav - no, we're still talking a lot and I still think she's amazing. She doesn't move to my area (she's currently living across the country) until June. She may come for a visit this month, but I'm not sure. Otherwise, I have to be patient. The timing is actually good because I'm 99.9% sure I'll be fully over my ex by the time this new girl arrives on the scene. For some reason, though, last night - maybe it was the bottle of chardonnay, idk haha - but I just missed my ex. It kinda took me by surprise because I haven't gone down memory lane like that in awhile. That made me wonder if she did too. Thanks for the posts everyone!
Am4Real Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Silly analogy, but it might be something like this: do you think more about the last great meal you had in a fine restaurant or the crappy one you experienced in what was thought to be a good place to eat? Most of us remember the better one and only think of the bad one when asked about it or reminded by another negative meal where we compare the two. In other words if one of the BU parties thought of the relationship as “negative” or “crappy” then no, there is probably not much thought being given. However, you know what is likely going on in one’s minds with the opposite. All the best, Am4Real
orionboxing Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 They definitely do think of us! Every single one. The biggest indicator to me is via social media. I'm in my 30's and just this past year I had an old college girlfriend (who is MARRIED) seek me out and add me as a friend on FB. A HIGH SCHOOL girlfriend sought me out 15 years after she dumped my sorry ass. And for what reason? Neither one of these girls ever write or talk to me via Facebook, but they just must have been curious as to whatever happened to me. I also watched as my ex-wife added an old boyfriend (who is also now married) who treated her like garbage. So yes...they do.
Am4Real Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Were they missing the "good meal" or the "crappy" taste? LOL! They definitely do think of us! Every single one. The biggest indicator to me is via social media. I'm in my 30's and just this past year I had an old college girlfriend (who is MARRIED) seek me out and add me as a friend on FB. A HIGH SCHOOL girlfriend sought me out 15 years after she dumped my sorry ass. And for what reason? Neither one of these girls ever write or talk to me via Facebook, but they just must have been curious as to whatever happened to me. I also watched as my ex-wife added an old boyfriend (who is also now married) who treated her like garbage. So yes...they do.
orionboxing Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Were they missing the "good meal" or the "crappy" taste? LOL! Well...the ex's must have loved the dish I served. My ex supposedly likes eating the trash out back!
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