Jedi Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 (edited) Hey everyone, I'm 18, and my tutor is in her early 20s I think, and I am in love with her. She recently got married, and I can't stop thinking about her. And I keep getting depressed and emotional over it all. I know I can never have her, I just need some advice on how to get over it. I'm with her 3 days a week, and I'm just a student. I can't say anything because that'll just be idiotic, and I have no chance at her, and I wouldn't want to risk losing her job. I just need some good advice on how to get over it all. Thanks. Edited March 9, 2013 by Jedi
RainDown Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 You sound very sweet and I'm sorry you're in this situation. It is very difficult to have such strong feelings for someone who is unattainable and also not an appropriate target for such strong feelings. I think, unfortunately, the only real solution to your predicament is to distance yourself from this young lady and find another tutor. She has already chosen her mate and continuing to interact with her is only going to hurt you and make you feel sad and confused. I hope you meet another young lady who is free to return your affections. You do seem very sweet. 1
Eggplant Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Get another tutor. Why torture yourself? Also, this feeling probably compromises your learning. 1
CC12 Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I'm sorry I don't have any good advice on how to get over her, but I just want to tell you: I can't say anything because that'll just be idiotic, and I have no chance at her, and I wouldn't want to risk losing her job. The fact that you're aware of these things puts you many, many steps closer to getting over her. A lot of people in your situation get stuck pining away and they waste a lot of emotional energy trying to figure out how to attain this person they can't have. So, good job being realistic and having a healthy attitude about your crush (and it is just a crush. You don't know her well enough on a personal level to be in love with the person she actually is.) Good luck with everything.
Author Jedi Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 Thank you for the kind words everyone. But my whole college group has the same tutor. And how could I change? Everyone would start asking questions, plus my parents don't even know that I have feelings for her. I like being with her aswell, and I mostly get depressed when I'm not with her. I'm quite shy aswell, so I wouldn't do anything stupid or anything. The fact that she's married makes it all worse. At least if she was single I could waited until I grew up a bit, and could of made a move. But I know the facts, and I'm not some psycho who hopes she gets divorced or something like that. I just need to hold back the feelings I have for the first girl I ever had feelings for.
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