abeezy Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Hi, i have been browsing this forum for quite awhile now and finally am looking for answers outside of my family and friends.. on a note i have been battling a bit of depression while dating him and am taking meds so it makes me quite moody and he has been cheated on in the past and hasnt dated anyone for a few years since me.. sorry this is quite long hah i broke up with my boyfriend of 4 months(yes not very long) we have been seeing eachother since september and i knew him when i was younger due to him being friends with my brother. anyways i broke up with him via text..yes i know bad on my part. but i was really unhappy due to the fact that we have no communication( we cant even talk to eachother when sitting at a resturaunt he always looked bored) and were fighting almost every other week about mainly him saying i dont text him first or ask him to hang out and he claims i never act like i like him. i am a very shy person and very reserved( he knew this btw) i feel very uncomfortable with certain pda things not him touching me but me doing them to him. anyways i was starting to get this feel last few weeks of us dating that maybe he was wanting to see other girls cause of how i was treating him cause of my depression.. we barely hung out and texting not very much either. we had a fight the week of valentine day n it wasnt the same since he is very shy and insecure about himself and he also goes to bars alot of the week playing poker or just to get drunk with his friends.i gave him space and never asked things of him. we did talk after the fight on valentines day that i would try more on my part n him give me more space.. well it didnt work out. i didnt contact him for a few days after the break up cause i felt he needed time to process things.. and i sent him a text asking to speak with him in person to maybe finally talk things through and get better understanding of eachother and maybe try again having better communication. well he did text me back..basically fighting me and then when i told him i was done contacting him he seemed to change his tune.and sort of left it off that it was my decision that we broke up n that it is what it is. well i got drunk a few days later and texted him a simple why didnt you want to do a face to face chat.. well didnt hear nothing til next day saying he never said he didnt want that..and that he would talk to me. so i told him that maybe that week we could. fast forward to a few days later i text him asking if he wanted to talk that night. he agreed.but then when i said the time (7:30) he gave me an excuse that he was already done with work n didnt want to drive to my house that late. so i said just wrote to him saying no need for excuses if you didnt want to talk thats fine. i wont bother you again about it. then he got mad saying what more needed to be said we already talked about things in text n then said if you want to get back with me just tell me. i wrote him back saying i did want him back but cant get back at someone who avoids me so its fine. so i had the last text and havent contacted him since. now i wanted some sort of closure and to maybe try but then he pulls that on me. i feel he is leaving some sort of door open for me.. i really want to move on and this has been very hard on me last few days. should i just let this go or should i wait.. its only been less then 2 weeks now..and i feel if he wanted to get back he would already. but another part of me feels if he didnt why text me back.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Yeah. I'd move on. Doesn't sound like he is all that interested. Nor should he and you argue this much over his lack of communication. Welcome to LS
Author abeezy Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 well see the thing is he has told me he would get back together with me..but i think he is hurt i dumped him.. we just didnt have a healthy of a relationship.. we both are shy and wanted the other to make the move about communication.. just seems odd to me that he texts me back after i text him.. maybe hes annoyed that i keep trying with him. i dont text him everyday just those few times. but your right i will move on even tho its hard for me thanks
TaraMaiden Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Closure can only come from you. Not from others. 2 weeks No Contact from him is really all the closure you need.
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