ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Is it weird that the guy I'm talking to hasn't tried to invite me to meet his friends?? I don't know if I should feel offended or not? I don't want to be offended but my parents keep saying "well how come you don't know his friends?" "is he hiding you?" I don't feel like he is, I feel like it hasn't been THAT long you know? I personally am hesitant about even telling my friends about guys I am talking to unless I see it moving in a good direction, because I don't wanna deal with the questions if it falls apart. I haven't met his family yet either, but he met mine... I can understand the family thing though because his family lives an hour away and it hasn't been long, he only met mine because he came to my brothers game with me one day. I just don't want to worry because everything is going perfectly but I want my parents to stop thinking he is hiding me or something. I have never been to his house though, is that weird? I have to rationalize, maybe he doesn't want things to "happen" if I come over? Maybe he doesn't want his roommates to meet me yet? I don't know! I know that his friends know about me, and I know his family does too so that is good right?
CryForNoOne Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 How many dates have you been on? It all sort of depends on the length of the relationship.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 How many dates have you been on? It all sort of depends on the length of the relationship. It's only been a month, and 4 dates so I guess I shouldn't rush lol I guess I have never had a real relationship so I need to know what to expect lol
TaraMaiden Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 When - and only when - he feels comfortable introducing you. And he has to bring it up. Not you. What, you're thinking of splitting the church for the wedding guests already.....? 2
CryForNoOne Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 4 dates and you are worried about this stuff??? It's really ironic how we all come here asking silly questions that are so obvious to everyone but ourselves. You have nothing to worry about at all unless you start noticing him dodging/avoiding. 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 When - and only when - he feels comfortable introducing you. And he has to bring it up. Not you. What, you're thinking of splitting the church for the wedding guests already.....? Lol I'm really trying to be mellow I really like him though lol I want to move slow though
clia Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I don't think it's weird at all. After all, it's only been 4 dates / one month. Over the next couple of months you will likely start to see each other more often (two or three times a week), and then in the natural flow of things you will meet his friends and family and see his place. Just don't push it, don't rush it, and relax. I actually do like to see a guy's place fairly early on. I got scarred by one of the episodes of Hoarders: Buried Alive where a woman was dating a guy who appeared very normal and appeared to live in a nice house. Well, little did she know that he was a massive hoarder. So...you just never know what you might be dealing with. 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 I don't think it's weird at all. After all, it's only been 4 dates / one month. Over the next couple of months you will likely start to see each other more often (two or three times a week), and then in the natural flow of things you will meet his friends and family and see his place. Just don't push it, don't rush it, and relax. I actually do like to see a guy's place fairly early on. I got scarred by one of the episodes of Hoarders: Buried Alive where a woman was dating a guy who appeared very normal and appeared to live in a nice house. Well, little did she know that he was a massive hoarder. So...you just never know what you might be dealing with. Haha it's so funny because I always joke about him being a hoarder because when we Skype he always pulls this random stuff off his desk like sports stuff and lighters and junk. He seems like he is about as neat as you can expect a college aged guy to be.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 Omg omg omg he invited me over to watch a movie!! I'm so scared! I am not hooking up with him! I can't! What if it happens and everything is ruined and he ditches me?! I'm freaking out. I will get to meet his roommate though, that's good. What if his roomie doesn't like me?!
Krieger Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 do worry too much about it it might be to soon. sorry to high jack your post , but whit if a guy did not have any friends? I do not have any close friends for good reason because all they wanted to do was get high and drunk all the time so i had to stop hang out with them. 1
iKING Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Omg omg omg he invited me over to watch a movie!! I'm so scared! I am not hooking up with him! I can't! What if it happens and everything is ruined and he ditches me?! I'm freaking out. I will get to meet his roommate though, that's good. What if his roomie doesn't like me?! Chill. Out. Things will be fine, just be yourself. Try not to over-think everything. Take it as it comes. 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 do worry too much about it it might be to soon. sorry to high jack your post , but whit if a guy did not have any friends? I do not have any close friends for good reason because all they wanted to do was get high and drunk all the time so i had to stop hang out with them. I don't think it would be a big deal if he didnt have friends especially for the reason you gave. I wouldn't think much of it if you never referenced friends but he has that's why I was scared
RachR Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 What if it happens and everything is ruined and he ditches me?! I'm freaking out. Exercise some self control, woman. Decide you aren't going to sleep with him in your mind and stick to it. Or you could suggest an alternative, public setting (like a movie at the theater). 2
RachR Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 do worry too much about it it might be to soon. sorry to high jack your post , but whit if a guy did not have any friends? I do not have any close friends for good reason because all they wanted to do was get high and drunk all the time so i had to stop hang out with them. ImperfectionIsBeauty answered this, but I'll put in my 2 cents...I'm not bothered if a man doesn't have friends. I don't consider myself to really have any, just some acquaintances, mostly from work. The problem would be if a guy was incapable of making friends, that's a bit different.
Krieger Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 ImperfectionIsBeauty answered this, but I'll put in my 2 cents...I'm not bothered if a man doesn't have friends. I don't consider myself to really have any, just some acquaintances, mostly from work. The problem would be if a guy was incapable of making friends, that's a bit different. I can make friends but as you get older it hard to make friends I am 29 and most people I know have family's and spend all there time with them.
RachR Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I can make friends but as you get older it hard to make friends I am 29 and most people I know have family's and spend all there time with them. Hey, I know what you mean. When I said incapable, I didn't mean someone who has a hard time making friends or finding people, I just meant people who have something actually wrong with how they interact with people and are not able to form friendships. I'm in my late 20s too so I know how that goes!
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 Someone's getting lucky tonight. Tomorrow night and no lol
somedude81 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Tomorrow night and no lol Sunday night? That's not smart. Both of you are going to be late for work, school, whatever on Monday.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 Sunday night? That's not smart. Both of you are going to be late for work, school, whatever on Monday. I have evening classes and I am not spending the night and I don't intend on having sex lol 1
somedude81 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I have evening classes and I am not spending the night and I don't intend on having sex lol Nobody intendeds the Spanish inquisition. Wait...that's not right. Anyways, just have fun, have a couple drinks. Don't forget projection!
SmileFace Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Just asking but why aren't you planning to have sex? Waiting for exclusivity?
somedude81 Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Nobody intendeds the Spanish inquisition. Wait...that's not right. Anyways, just have fun, have a couple drinks. Don't forget projection! LOL! What the hell is projection?
mortensorchid Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 Aside from his inviting you over, if you have only had 4 get togethers and have known each other for a month, it's fine. Personally I think the longer you put it off the better it will be. I've had bad experiences with both - introducing too soon or not soon enough. He's met your family already? Unless you live with them I would not think of meeting one's family first. But that's just an observation.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 Just asking but why aren't you planning to have sex? Waiting for exclusivity? We are exclusive (I'm just not his girlfriend.. I know it's coming but I'm not pushing it). I am just really afraid to have sex with him, I don't want him to have sex then dump me. I feel like if I wait a little longer (maybe even until he official calls me his girlfriend) then he won't do that because the stakes will be higher you know? I honestly don't think he is the type to pump and dump but I didn't think my ex was either and he basically did so I have to really be careful.
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