WorryMan Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 I can't live without my gf and her father is backward and afraid to marry her daughter out of her town. Here's the whole storry.... My gf is my mother's best friend's daughter. I fall in love with her daughter when i was 21 years old and she was 16 years old (3 years ago) when we went to her village (1200 kms far) to meet her. Then when we returned to Karachi (my city) after the vacations, I told my mom frankly, I'm going to marry this girl or never will marry anyone else. So after 3 years, we went for a vacation again (i.e. 2 months ago) and went to her home for marriage proposal. First we (me and my gf) talked to each other knowing each other very well and I started to feel that she likes me the same way I like her. We talked about what color I like and stuff, I told her that I like 'blue' color. Then after a while she wore blue dress to show her interest in me. I was very happy that we love each other very much. Seeing this we proposed her parents for marriage and her parents said that we'll think about it and will tell you after a week. But after a week they simply didn't care to pick up the phone. And when somehow we found a way to contact them, her father told us that my daughter is too young and i'm not going to leave her and want to marry her in our own village instead of sending her to your city after marriage. Now since I love this girl so much, and that I am very rich, earning $ 10K/month here in karachi, pakistan (normally people can't make $100/month here) , i don't think its a good reason not to let his daughter marry her. I think he's very backward and don't want to leave his daughter. My girl friend on the other hand do not force his father also (I do not know how you guys feel about it, but its like this here in Pakistan, girls are too shy to show their interest to their parent in marriage afairs) so she simply says nothing about it. Now my problem is that I can't live without my gf, and what should I do and what should my parents say to his father that may make him marry her daughter with me. A detailed help will be appreciated because I am too stressed and confused right now.
arnicka Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 To be honest I have little to no knowledge of courtship "rules" in your culture, but from the way I understand it you are wealthy and interested in a younger woman who does not reside in your city. I'm assuming she lives w/ her parents and they have decided to not allow their daughter to marry you for purely practical reasons: she's too young, they don't want her in another village. So if I understand the situation correctly, would it be possible for you to move to her village and then try to "court" her while having residence there? Maybe after some time of doing that, if you wait, you love interest will be older and you'll have fulfilled both of her parents requirements. But somehow I get the feeling that your wealth is tied to Karachi and leaving that city would compromise your financial standing... If that's the case then it wouldn't be practical for you to move to her village. Other than that, you could always wait and stay in contact with their daughter and maybe hope that the parents will change their minds when they know what you have to offer. I may not have helped at all but I do hope that things work out for you, I really despise obstacles in love matters when one person truly has feelings for another. Wishing you luck and returned love, arnicka
Author WorryMan Posted September 7, 2004 Author Posted September 7, 2004 Thanks for your message, yeah I do thought about moving to her village and leave the city karachi for a year or two and then coming back to karachi after getting married, and the good thing is that I will not hurt my business since its an online business, all I need to take with me is my laptop there But right now we are going to go to her village and talk to her father and explain to her that there is no problem in sending your daughter out of the village, since even if she marries a guy in the village, what guarantee is that he's going to stay where he is and will not move to (lets say) China after a few years. So the whole point is, that the father is not understanding, we need to persuade him and visit his place, I think that may make things better for us. But again, if that too is not going to work, do you guys think that moving to her village would be sane??? I mean I would be moving to this village from my developed city only for my gf. That's crazy, but I love her so much that I will even do that. I would appreciate a response back. Thanks!
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