Ex is sending mixed signals? It's really messing with my head...

[Kels809]

So me and my ex-boyfriend were together for about a year, and we've been broken up since the middle of December.

He's always been very shy and solitary, but it became a problem during one of our disagreements. I thought he was ignoring me, not wanting to talk about the problem, etc, so after about a week and a half of prolonged arguing, I gave him an ultimatum- talk about this, or leave me. He chose the second option, to everyone's surprise- especially mine. That night he posted a sappy song on Facebook about his broken heart, and I thought it was sort of comical since he had made that choice.

 

I told him that if he ever wanted to try again in the future, to let me know, and that I really did care him and everything. It tore me up inside.

 

We went NC for about two weeks, then he started talking to me again, slowly. He messaged me saying how he was sorry about his arrogance and how he had reacted and said he was glad we could still be friends. He also said he realized how much he cared about me. After about a month, we were talking nonstop every day- always texting and snapchatting, etc. He'd send me little hearts, subtly call me cute, and I could always count on a goodnight text from him. We even went snowboarding during this time and had a blast.

 

Recently however, this has changed. I've tried to pull myself back a little and make him work for it, but I've noticed him doing the same thing. I'm not sure if it's because of his terribly shy nature or the fact that he just doesn't want to try. I first started noticing this about two weeks ago. We still talk almost every day, but it's just not the same. Even when he texts me first, it's almost like our conversation is forced.

 

We hung out again last Wednesday, and had a lot of fun, as usual. He paid for my gas to get to the restaurant and also paid for my meal- which struck me as kind of strange. At the end of the night he also gave me a mix CD, which we used to do for each other when we were together. He lingered a lot before getting out of the car, and gave me a hug goodnight.

 

I have really strong feelings for him, but I can't keep going on wondering what his intentions are. We also both have blogs (how we met), and he recently posted these song lyrics:

 

I can’t make her see,

that she’s called to other skies,

I can’t be her place to hide.

 

 

I know I overthink things, and I don't know if that's just the song he was listening to or whatever, but I'm so desperate for answers that I'm analyzing everything he does and it's driving me insane.

I'm terrified to just ask him, because like I said before, he's very reserved and talking about feelings always makes him really uncomfortable.

 

So any advice would be great. What do you think he's feeling, what should I do, etc.?

Thank you so much, you have no idea how much appreciate it.

Edited March 8, 2013 by Kels809