singme2sleep Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Not trying to increase everyone's pain, but what do you miss most about your ex or just your relationship in general? For me it's cuddling. Yep, I actually had a guy who liked to cuddle! It was the best feeling, just laying there in his arms. Maybe I'm torturing myself but at night when I'm alone, those are the memories that are hardest to get past. 1
A n t h o n y Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Knowing everytime I went out I had this goddes of a girl next to me, that actually had a brain. Looks aren't everything though, I've learned that now. And she's immature and lost and honestly more hurt than I ever was when she broke up with me. 1
lovnlost Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 the cuddling and companionship as well. Loved that she just wanted to curl up together and be one with each other. She used to tell me she never felt more safe in anyone's arms. 2
Author singme2sleep Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 the cuddling and companionship as well. Loved that she just wanted to curl up together and be one with each other. She used to tell me she never felt more safe in anyone's arms. When you said "curl up and just be one" you totally sounded like my ex. Sigh 1
Sososad Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 The talks like meeting at 6pm talking and the u realize It's 1.30am!! But hey it don't make me sad anymore I'm Smiling thinking bout it ... Hope she's happy too ! 3
Art_Critic Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 What do I miss most about my exW ? When she used the term of affection "you mother effing cheap pri**" Nothing.. she is my exW and it wasn't meant to be, and because of my exW I now am married to a wonderful woman and we have a wonderful little 5 year old boy. Ex's are stepping stones to something better, learn from your mistakes and apply that in your next relationship which is just around the corner.
Author singme2sleep Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 Sososad- We used to do that too, I was going to sleep at almost 2 some nights and I didn't care. Lol 1
BarbecueMan666 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I guess I miss the fact my ex was attractive. I liked showing her off and was very proud of her, not jealous in the slightest. She also used to make me feel very special physically, be it a lick on the ear when I was playing video games while hugging me, or crying after making love. I also very much miss her body. I guess I just miss the feeling of feeling loved by someone I thought a lot of.
todreaminblue Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Not trying to increase everyone's pain, but what do you miss most about your ex or just your relationship in general? For me it's cuddling. Yep, I actually had a guy who liked to cuddle! It was the best feeling, just laying there in his arms. Maybe I'm torturing myself but at night when I'm alone, those are the memories that are hardest to get past. i miss the twilight talks not as in sparkly vampires.....but the night talks we would have where we would share our days, thoughts, dreams and i would be wrapped up in his arms listening to his heartbeat and talking aloud.....i would feel calm and dreamy, yep normally after sex, but........he woudlnt talk much just an occasional rumble of agreement(more like drawn out grunts) i would feel those through his chest, and he would smile,that I could feel it against my head he was smiling, as i said all the stupid things in my head....when i was finished i would say are you asleep, poke him......no reply.....then i would go to sleep with a smile on my face....wake up the same way ...i miss that...i dont miss the deceit or the smell of alcohol.....or the way our relationship ended, the thinly veiled threats, the insecurity of loving someone who didnt love me back anymore or the cheap perfume that he often smelt like some nights towards the end of our relationship.......those twilight talks became a remnant of an easily forgotten history long before we split....i do know that one day i have many more dreams with me, totally different silly things to say and i will share those talks with someone else, hopefully more committed.......deb
KatZee Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Nothing. My life went from clouds and rain, to pure sunshine. Every single day. I miss nothing. Thank God I'm single!!! :D:D 1
Coping Vortex Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Four things I miss the most 1. Our endless texts telling how much we missed each other when we weren't together. 2. Hugging her as she looked up at me with absolute love in her eyes. 3. Our off the hook incredible wild sex life. 4 . Our endless emoting.
misswillow Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Cuddling, and when he would lay with his head in my lap and I would scratch his head...he always said that was his favorite place to be in the world. 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 I used to nuzzle up next to him and rest my head on his arm. Then after awhile I'd pick my head up and ask if I was hurting his arm and he'd say of course not. It's the little things like that I miss most.
SinceYou'veBeenGone Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Same here. I miss the cuddling most and I miss falling asleep in his arms. 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 I also miss kissing his cheek when he had some stubble from not shaving. And I miss the smell of his cologne I can still hear the sound of his breath in my ear! Oh it's gonna be a long night... 1
SinceYou'veBeenGone Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 You sound like me. I miss his scent. I miss kissing all around his face when I would wake up. I'm going to have to separate myself from this thread for now.
McDonald Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 When I would lay down with her and she would fall asleep... I would always pretend to talk to her and tell her how much I loved her and how much she meant to me. I always thought she was sleeping, I would tell her all these things that I would never say with her listening (I wasnt saying anything bad). Then one night she turned around and said "you know, I have been able to hear everything you have been saying" I got scared that i did something or said something wrong. then she said "and I love everything about it". It made me melt. Now, Im melting cause shes a witch. 2
Author singme2sleep Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 You sound like me. I miss his scent. I miss kissing all around his face when I would wake up. I'm going to have to separate myself from this thread for now. I'm sorry, didn't mean to make you feel sadder!
lovnlost Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 When you said "curl up and just be one" you totally sounded like my ex. Sigh Wasnt trying to make you feel worse...sorry. But those trivial little things that most people overlook are my absolute favorite in relationships. They can speak as loudly as a freight train sometimes! 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 Lovnlost- It's ok, you didn't make me feel worse. The weekend just has a way of bringing me down lately. I've been trying to keep busy so I can distract myself but it doesn't work too well. I had a few triggers today that hit hard, though what can I do?! It is what it is.
lovnlost Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 Lovnlost- It's ok, you didn't make me feel worse. The weekend just has a way of bringing me down lately. I've been trying to keep busy so I can distract myself but it doesn't work too well. I had a few triggers today that hit hard, though what can I do?! It is what it is. I am write there with you. The last few days were very tough. Today had its moments. My SUV was in the shop and there is a real nice ride by the river here that I took from school there. On the bridge I sat and soaked up some sun listened to some music and prayed. It was nice, but I ended up sitting there originally, because I was thinking of her and us. No bueno. Sometimes it goes like that. "it is what it is." I have said this for years....and only know of 2 others that have ever said it....sorry...just thought it strange that you say it now, because I have been telling myself that for the last few weeks lol.
TheBladeRunner Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I miss my life, I miss the second income, I miss seeing my daughter every day, and I miss having money to burn:D Not to "jack" the thread.......but here's what I DON'T miss: The drama, The neediness Her going #2 w/ the door open......ugh that was awful! The lame, "cold fish" sex Being told I don't kiss her right (see cold fish) Her co-dependent issues with her family The way she treated me like I was nothing The list is endless.............. Sorry to go astray here guys, but focusing on what was awful has helped me cope and move on, however, the "going #2 with the door open" thing.....I am afraid that has scared me for life. 3
Coping Vortex Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I miss my life, I miss the second income, I miss seeing my daughter every day, and I miss having money to burn:D Not to "jack" the thread.......but here's what I DON'T miss: The drama, The neediness Her going #2 w/ the door open......ugh that was awful! The lame, "cold fish" sex Being told I don't kiss her right (see cold fish) Her co-dependent issues with her family The way she treated me like I was nothing The list is endless.............. Sorry to go astray here guys, but focusing on what was awful has helped me cope and move on, however, the "going #2 with the door open" thing.....I am afraid that has scared me for life. Yea that would do it for me too.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 more than anything i miss my bestfriend. The joyous and bubbly person i was with him, our endless cute texts/call conversations, the silly pranks/surprises we used to pull on each other, how he made me into a better person in general & everything else a relationship has to offer
denxnis Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I miss how she complained when I drove fast.I miss how she refused to try new things/foods.I miss how she fought me on everything, even in front of others at social gatherings.I miss not being able to go places because she was always too broke.I miss having to pester her about fake tanning (skin cancer) and paying off her CC bill. Oh wait, I don't miss any of those. 1
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