2013k Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 So, I emailed a guy I like and asked him if he'd like to go to a film fest this weekend. He wrote me back this: "YO! Thanks for the invite! I'm unfortunately not going to be able to make it this weekend. I'm swamped with work and recording." (Plus another line about my new website.) How do I respond if I want to pique his interest and not come off as desperate?
rocketman122 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I dont know but I think a guy who starts with YO!.... meh. Is this OLD or a friend?
Art_Critic Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I dont know but I think a guy who starts with YO!.... meh. Is this OLD or a friend? I thought the same thing... Besides... I don't think he is interested 2013k... time to let this one go, the ball is in his court as you showed the interest so if he doesn't contact you then don't contact him, YO! 2
Author 2013k Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 Yes, he is an old friend, and that's just how we talk to one another, in general...But in recent months, we've toyed with blurring those lines a bit. We went to dinner one-on-one back in January, and then we spent an evening together watching a movie in February--which ended in us making out. I put the brakes on him while we were making out, though, and I said I was a little nervous since I didn't want to ruin the friendship. But then last week, I admitted to him that I have spent a lot of time thinking about that kiss and wondering how the night might have gone had I not held back. He agreed that he has been thinking about that too. So, it's a hazy situation. We're both extremely busy people who have a lot of friends and who work multiple jobs, projects, creative endeavors, etc. I've always thought he was cute, and he has asked me out several times to hang out one-on-one over the years, but I always had a boyfriend or other things to do, so it never happened until recently. I don't really think I have time for a relationship right now, but I do like my friend and I want to keep our doors open to one another for those times when our lives are free to intersect. In the 5 years I've known him, neither one of us has ever been in a serious, committed relationship. It's not really in our nature, but that didn't stop him from emailing me in January and writing, "I think you are very smart, sexy and cool." So, who knows what will happen.
SweetLikeCinnamon Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I don't think his message necessarily means he's not interested. You invited him to something very specific and it so happened that he was busy on that weekend. How about responding with something along the lines of 'Aww that's a shame. We should meet up soon anyway though, it's been a while!'. You'll be able to gauge how interested he is in that idea by his response and take it from there.
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