when he says he needs time and went on dating sites n talk to girls

[SunnySu]

Hi everybody! Can u pls help me out on this, I need opinions from guys and girls please, I don't have a lot of dating experiences and he's first guy I truly love I want this to work out so bad.

 

So we had a big fight on last fri, it's cuz he told me that well get married this July, but he said just sign the paper n don't turn it on, he's in the army n he don't want to notify them, so I was like ok, but then couple weeks later I asked him that when his parents coming up Wat do he wants me to do wit the ring he got me? He said just tell them sum1 else gave it to u. I was really sad cuz it seems like he don't want to tell his parents that he wanna marry me n just hide it, so it bothers me n we had a big fight. But before that we already had a big fight about he didnt care about me. So he said that I keep finding to fight wit him about and he's tired of this fighting everyweek. I went to work and I had calm down n be normal with him, but when I thought we were good it got bad again. So he took his clothes n agree that we'd b together n he'd just take a drive, we been with each other for 9months we do everything with each other, we were so closed. So we had an agurement on fri night again n he slept in the barracks on sat he refused to see me, and we texted he didn't wanna talk to me on the phone I was really sad and emotional, I told him how sorry Iam and how I realize my mistakes and I'm willing to change for us to b together for the long run, but he just keep saying hell forgive me n we have to take things slow. So he came out on sun n talk to me for 2 hrs and still notated Wat I say he just want to take things slow, he said hell see me a lil more each day, that's the only option that well work n we can b together in the long run. So I agree. We were still texting n talk about how it was when we first met n his hobby. I aksked him if we r together and im his gf still and he said yes, am i ur bf , i said yes, so we talked m talked n i said that love meed 2 person to create n he said he kno hell cahnge to care n sruffs too im the love of his life, i told him i wonr b his crazii wifey anymorw ill b good lovin n understand, and he told me ill alwyas b his crazii. It was good, he came out to see me on mon, after he went to dinner with his guy friends, he said he wanted to come after work but he forgot it was his friend bday, n I said its ok u can go to ur friends bday I understand, he said no he wants to see me, so he came over for 2hrs and a half we were talkin so good we got along and we had sex I told him if u love me prove it to me, cum inside. And he did, sorry too much info. The thing is before he really dont want to have a kid right now we r onli 22, so he onli cum inside everytime we had a big fight. And then on tues he came out right after work n spend the night wit me, he said his workmates said that they was in the same situation and they took a week of and everything went back to normal and good. So I said ok, I showed him I changed n he said I kno ur changing. I treat him very good from the start, I cook for him lean up after him, care for him cut his nails do everything. I treated him like a king for 9 months. So we talked n stuffs and I asked him when well b back to normal he said soon so I said a month or two ? He said not that long, next week we should b. then on wed, I had this weird feeling n I can't sleep so I talked to him n said that pls don't cheat on me n stuffs well work this out n ill change he ok he won't and he said he Loves me n stuffs, I asked if he's goin to see me today, he said no he's tired n pissed of cuz of work, so I said ok rest ur stress cuz of work loads. Then I didnt text him. I was bored so I got on his fb, and this girl Nikki accepted his friend request, so I text him n said " Nikki huh I hope y'all work out " and he replied wit " Wat r u talking about " I said she accepted ur request and 5 mins later his password changed, I asked him y he do that he blamed his roommate did it, he said he left his fb on that guys comp and he left so he can't do anything hell change it back, he also told me that his roommate asked him to add that girl he dont kno Wat for. And we talked no argue I asked y u lie and hurt me he said he dont kno he just feel like I'm checkin up on him and stuffs. So I told him ill forgive Watever he did well b happy again and start fresh, I don't want him to do wat he did to his ex, he left her hanging and talk to other girls n when he found one he just ignore her no matter Wat she says, and he said he wants us he won't do that to me, so I said ok and 1 hr later he went to bed and texted me night love u. I didnt say anything back to him cuz I was sad n crying n talked to my friend she told me it was wrong to let him have no privacy n if I look I shouldn't tell him, she told me to ignore him for a week, and yesterday, I ignored him for the whole day and he did the same no texts, so I texted him at the end of the day that Im tired of playing games, Wat he wants ? He asked me Wat do I want, I told him how much I want us and ill change, he said we just have to take it slow, and I told him if he need time ill give him time he said he needs time, so I asked r we together n he asked do I want to I said yes, he said idk we just gotta take thing slow n stuffs, so I said ok so m I still ur friends or ur gf he asked me if I can handle takin things slow I said yes he said he just need time I said ok n we haven't talk since, but later I found out since mon he been addin girls from those dating websites and he took off our pic on fb n make he relationship status onli visible to me. Idk y he cant just tell me straight up if he wants a break up. I don't understand his taking things slow n need times mean :/ Im so hurt I'm treasure this relationship n I love him wit all my heart idk y our 9 months living together in the same root mean nothing to him and he won't even touch no Matter how much I poured my heart out.

[Mr. Lucky]

Sunnysu, welcome to Loveshack. Paragraphs and punctuation would get you a lot more responses. At least on my screen, almost impossible to read...

 

Mr. Lucky

[SunnySu]

when he says he needs time and went on dating sites n talk to girls

Hi everybody! Can u pls help me out on this, I need opinions from guys and girls please, I don't have a lot of dating experiences and he's first guy I truly love I want this to work out so bad.

 

So we had a big fight on last fri, it's cuz he told me that well get married this July, but he said just sign the paper n don't turn it on, he's in the army n he don't want to notify them, so I was like ok, but then couple weeks later I asked him that when his parents coming up Wat do he wants me to do wit the ring he got me? He said just tell them sum1 else gave it to u. I was really sad cuz it seems like he don't want to tell his parents that he wanna marry me n just hide it, so it bothers me n we had a big fight. But before that we already had a big fight about he didnt care about me. So he said that I keep finding to fight wit him about and he's tired of this fighting everyweek. I went to work and I had calm down n be normal with him, but when I thought we were good it got bad again.

 

So he took his clothes n agree that we'd b together n he'd just take a drive, we been with each other for 9months we do everything with each other, we were so closed. So we had an agurement on fri night again n he slept in the barracks on sat he refused to see me, and we texted he didn't wanna talk to me on the phone I was really sad and emotional, I told him how sorry Iam and how I realize my mistakes and I'm willing to change for us to b together for the long run, but he just keep saying hell forgive me n we have to take things slow. So he came out on sun n talk to me for 2 hrs and still notated Wat I say he just want to take things slow, he said hell see me a lil more each day, that's the only option that well work n we can b together in the long run.

 

So I agree. We were still texting n talk about how it was when we first met n his hobby. I aksked him if we r together and im his gf still and he said yes, am i ur bf , i said yes, so we talked m talked n i said that love meed 2 person to create n he said he kno hell cahnge to care n sruffs too im the love of his life, i told him i wonr b his crazii wifey anymorw ill b good lovin n understand, and he told me ill alwyas b his crazii. It was good, he came out to see me on mon, after he went to dinner with his guy friends, he said he wanted to come after work but he forgot it was his friend bday, n I said its ok u can go to ur friends bday I understand, he said no he wants to see me, so he came over for 2hrs and a half we were talkin so good we got along and we had sex I told him if u love me prove it to me, cum inside. And he did, sorry too much info. The thing is before he really dont want to have a kid right now we r onli 22, so he onli cum inside everytime we had a big fight.

 

And then on tues he came out right after work n spend the night wit me, he said his workmates said that they was in the same situation and they took a week of and everything went back to normal and good. So I said ok, I showed him I changed n he said I kno ur changing. I treat him very good from the start, I cook for him lean up after him, care for him cut his nails do everything. I treated him like a king for 9 months. So we talked n stuffs and I asked him when well b back to normal he said soon so I said a month or two ? He said not that long, next week we should b. then on wed, I had this weird feeling n I can't sleep so I talked to him n said that pls don't cheat on me n stuffs well work this out n ill change he ok he won't and he said he Loves me n stuffs, I asked if he's goin to see me today, he said no he's tired n pissed of cuz of work, so I said ok rest ur stress cuz of work loads. Then I didnt text him. I was bored so I got on his fb, and this girl Nikki accepted his friend request, so I text him n said " Nikki huh I hope y'all work out " and he replied wit " Wat r u talking about " I said she accepted ur request and 5 mins later his password changed, I asked him y he do that he blamed his roommate did it, he said he left his fb on that guys comp and he left so he can't do anything hell change it back, he also told me that his roommate asked him to add that girl he dont kno Wat for.

 

And we talked no argue I asked y u lie and hurt me he said he dont kno he just feel like I'm checkin up on him and stuffs. So I told him ill forgive Watever he did well b happy again and start fresh, I don't want him to do wat he did to his ex, he left her hanging and talk to other girls n when he found one he just ignore her no matter Wat she says, and he said he wants us he won't do that to me, so I said ok and 1 hr later he went to bed and texted me night love u. I didnt say anything back to him cuz I was sad n crying n talked to my friend she told me it was wrong to let him have no privacy n if I look I shouldn't tell him, she told me to ignore him for a week, and yesterday, I ignored him for the whole day and he did the same no texts.

 

so I texted him at the end of the day that Im tired of playing games, Wat he wants ? He asked me Wat do I want, I told him how much I want us and ill change, he said we just have to take it slow, and I told him if he need time ill give him time he said he needs time, so I asked r we together n he asked do I want to I said yes, he said idk we just gotta take thing slow n stuffs, so I said ok so m I still ur friends or ur gf he asked me if I can handle takin things slow I said yes he said he just need time I said ok n we haven't talk since, but later I found out since mon he been addin girls from those dating websites and he took off our pic on fb n make he relationship status onli visible to me. Idk y he cant just tell me straight up if he wants a break up. I don't understand his taking things slow n need times mean :/ Im so hurt I'm treasure this relationship n I love him wit all my heart idk y our 9 months living together in the same root mean nothing to him and he won't even touch no Matter how much I poured my heart out.

[wild wolf]

Thanks for the paragraphs but I still couldn't read this post. Please learn to spell, use proper grammer and you will get the responses you are looking for. This is not texting... just a note.

[Mr. Lucky]

Thanks for the editing. He sounds like a player who likes/needs his freedom. And so when things get too close for comfort, he starts looking for a way out. And you, in your natural desire to know what's going on, become the bad guy for always "checking" up on him.

 

Doesn't sound like much of a future together. Do you want to spend the next 5 years always wondering? If you can't trust, hard to love...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Sparty97]

Maybe he really wants someone who can write in English.

[Lauriebell82]

"He's just not that into you."