sstevenson23 Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 My huband has always known that I have more guy friends then girl friends. It has never been an issue till now. Not all of them though, just one. He says he wouldn't have a problem if the guy would just introduce himself, and I agree. It was a month ago, and joe blow has made no effort to talk to my husband. This has caused alot of big issues in our marraige. My mother asked me if my long-time friend is worth my marraige........I thought about it for a while and said no it's not worth it. So my question is, how do I cut ties with my friend with out being rude about it? Please help!
Kizzyfur Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 You could always try the honest, direct approach. Explain to your friend how things are. Tell him your husband isn't comfortable with you having a friend who's affraid to meet him because it makes it seem as though your friend has alternative motives. Let him know that you're not about to ruin your marriage by continuing to be friends with him. If he's still not willing to meet your husband, he's not worth keeping as a friend anyway or he probably does have alternative motives for being friends with you.
Author sstevenson23 Posted September 6, 2004 Author Posted September 6, 2004 I thank you for your reply. The thing is even though he says he wants to meet my husband, no actions have been takin in a month. My husband has no intrest in meeting him anymore for the simple fact he was basically called a liar to me by joe blow. From what jb tells me when he calls for me he will try to talk to my man and he makes it short and gets off the phone after saying she's not home. My husband tells me that when jb calls he tries to talk to him and gets hung up on. I wasn't there, so I don't know, I feel it is a big misunderstanding on both ends!? My husband wants to be there when I end the friendship for his own piece of mind, and I understand. I just really don't want to hurt him, but I need to cut ties with the source of the issue.
soccorsilly Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Sounds like there are some trust issues here on a few different angles. I would tell your hubby that you will end it with Joe Blow and that it is YOUR business--he does not need to be there. Tell Joe Blow that your friendship is straining your marraige and that you are not willing to make that sacrifice.
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