Aiver Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 I met this girl at church she is the most beautiful girl i've ever seen i want to introduce myself to her but I dont have enough courage i want to be friends with her but i'm too shy to introduce myself all i can do is tare at her when she's not looking at me... i really got to know this girl but i dont know how... somebody with a kind heart please help me... and one thing and how does a girl act when she likes the guy?? i know its dumb to ask these kind of questions this is my first time to really be in love and i'm 21 years old!
arnicka Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 First thing, it looks like you're forgetting the fact that this girl is human. I understand you're swooning over her but staring is definitely *not* the way to convey your interest! Believe me, I've been stared at I don't know how many times by strangers (mostly guys) who probably had a romantic interest in me and would look at me w/ dopey (sp?) grins or get real shy and look away. It's kinda cute in the beginning, but prolong that action & it gets to be stalker-like. Basically, you're giving her way too much power if you think of it in terms of the "courage" it would take to approach her. She has periods and moods and "bad" days and so forth like every other woman out there. If you take her down from the pedastal you've put her on you'd have no problem approaching her as an equal person and potential partner. For a chat-up line I think simple things are best: making a funny remark about whatever situation you're in, just saying "hi" -- whatever, but be sure to not be too serious! It's obvious you care about her as much as you can for not knowing a person but don't forget to maintain a sense of humor about yourself and just relax! If she likes you in return she'll let you know and I'm sure you'd be sensitive to the "signals" if she gives out any. Of course you could just walk up to her and cut the BS and ask her out
blue636 Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 My sort of take on this thing is to, and I know it's difficult, act naturally. The reason being is that I always tell myself, "What have you got to lose?". Really, there's nothing to lose in this type of situation. Maybe your ego will have a little stain on it for a few days but that's the extent of it. Go enjoy yourself, talk to her, and become friends. If there is an ounce of interest in her bones then this will handle itself and all you have to do is sit back and let it happen. Good luck. I've learned that there is too little time for "what-if's".
moonbeam Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Oh Aiver, Aiver. Can you sort of ease up on her in a friendly way - maybe on a church social or something? Is there anything you can offer to help her with?
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