Author Elfie Posted March 10, 2013 Author Posted March 10, 2013 Thanks for your replies. I can't get away financially, but I am lining up more work - it keeps my mind occupied too. I've also set out plans to join a running club and to go out 2 mornings a week to a coffee place. Thank you for all your support - I don't really know why I am still giving in to him, I can only attempt to describe it as a mental / emotional vice of some sort....he's very good at what he does, I'm very good at hoping/chances/trusting. Mount - playing mind games in return will NOT as OP's said, help at all, but only double a poor situation. I am not the kind of character that plays mind games, I don't think I'd know how to - it's a crazy idea, and absolutely not a "useful idea". I know I have to find the strength to keep him away for good and to do that I need to toughen up my walls, and perhaps as advised, the only way to keep this one away is to resort to telling his W. And I know I'll have to do that if he doesn't keep away, else he'll know I'm a flake and he'll be in again - though close calls in the past (when a neighbour threatened to tell his wife he was constantly talking to me) he did back off for a while, so maybe he is a chancer until it gets dangerous for HIM, not others (like me) thank you
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