Aerrie Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Hello everyone, I have just found this forum and it seems very interesting, a lot of experienced people are providing good advice and comfort to those in need. So I figured I would ask you for an opinion on my relationship and life. I am now 24 years old. I consider myself relatively versed in relationships at this point, as I have learned a lot through pain. I even sometimes provide counsel to my friends on how to do NC or pick-up girls. Currently I am in a happy 3 year long relationship with a girl I am about to move together with in 6 months. (long overdue to be honest we both live with our parents, but a flat costs a f***ton of money which we do not really have) Just to give you more of an idea about who I am, my current relationship is the mother-son type (and it suits me and probably her as well – she is a bit of a control freak), where she takes care of me (cooks meals which I eat at work, does most shopping for/with me, decides where we go on trips, what we spend money on etc…). I am the forever a kid type and all I want to do with my life is sleep / play computer games/watch movies/series all day long / be with her. Unfortunately, I am stuck wasting my life away at a job most of the time, I have to, because I want to live with her and GTF away from my violent drunk father. I am kind of forced into a career now, I got lucky with finding a good 9-5 (Actually is 8-5 in this country, which sucks, because I am on the computer till midnight and then half-dead so fkin early in the mornings) office job (convinced by her (and a 1.000$ debt) to go to the interview, of course). It pays pretty bad, like 750$ after taxes, so the whole moving part is going to be hard. Thing is, that kind of pay is actually rather good in my country (Czech Republic) with the current rate of unemployment and considering I barely have any practice. Basically, each month I save up 250-400$ (the monthly mortgage would go around 400$ here – that would be cut in half when she gets a job after finishing college (6 months)). I would get a flat, no way a house, where I actually have to do a lot of housework. That would mean cutting on my already demolished PC time, which I only properly get on Saturdays nowadays. She is pretty lazy as well, so she does not want a house either. I mean there is a part of me that would love success, but I have experienced how brutally much work that actually is and I would never want to live for work. I think that if we broke up, I would not actually mind if I lost my job and could stay at home on the computer on minimal state support. Maybe do some external English translations. I would not lose the job on purpose though, not everyone around here is so lucky to have a solid one. Thing is, whenever I have worked really hard in life (once for a year in my first job, once for 2 months in the current job), the salary was never in kind. So fu** that, I would rather enjoy my life. So many movies/ games/ books I have not experienced. I do not care about vacations or sight-seeing, it is terribly boring. I am pretty asocial, just putting a mask on on a daily basis to appear a little extrovertish /outgoing. Kind of like Dexter actually J She is actually a great girl and has supported me through the harsh times when I was in debt (to her) and mentally destroyed in a first job that had almost killed me (my boss used to strangle me, kick me, work me to death, refuse vacation days, pay me stupidly low like 600$ per a month of 220 hours+30 hrs commute, etc…). I think she still loves me, even if she probably finds me a little boring at times. I trust her and I do not think she has cheated on me all this time. Neither have I. I do not have any reason to talk to other girls when I am in a relationship. There can be no friendship between a man and a girl, so why on Earth would I have friends that are girls, when I can invest that time and money into my girl, guy-friends or the computer. I love her too, she actually has a damn pretty face, even if she is not as slim as I would like and despite the fact that she hates and will not share my passions like fantasy, sci-fi, RPGs and such. At least she understands and accepts it. Hell she even buys me figures and posters To be honest, I am not exactly a model myself, just boringly average looking I suppose. A lot of my content probably comes from the fact that the relationship makes my life good: regular sex, food, good clothes and such, but I am pretty sure there is real love in it. Maybe not as strong as the first love was, but that there can only be one, right? She was the only girl in my life I would not mind having kids with and heck, that was when I was 17. In this current relationship I would have a family as well, I like kids a lot and they like me. Would be nice to have little princesses and some boys I could teach awesome things like Mass Effect Thing is, I realize, that the reality of having kids is years of bad sleep (yeah, I really need my 8+ hour sleep after sitting in front of a PC for 16 hours) and the crying would annoy the hell out of me. But what can you do, that is life. She wants to have kids around 30 after some careering though, so I am okay with that. I have a feeling I am sounding a little torn/schizophrenic at this point Part of me talking mature, part like a kid. In any case, your opinions are welcome.
latief.selatan Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Usually, things is just what it is. Neither good, nor bad. So just keep 'walking' Get sweat by jogging or as simply cleaning out the house. And enjoy your 'Schizophrenia' feeling, don't fight it.. enjoy it, and let it flow. You will be alrite, and you know what, there are so many chances now a days. A lot of opportunity in this world that you absolutely can give something to it. Believe in your self, And don't kill other people
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