Did anyone feel sad after realizing that you've (almost) moved on?

[cherepaha]

i was just wondering if anyone ever felt this way. it is so weird, i should be happy and celebrating but the realization made me rather sad and hollow.

 

yesterday, i walked up to a friend in the library and sat next to her to discuss some stuff. then, when i went back to my own spot i saw that i sat right next to my ex and only realized that post-factum. That made me become aware that i stopped looking for him around the library as i did in the beginning, i dont get upset that he ignores me, i simply dont care. then i saw his friend with whom i still hang out and i realized that i am not temped to go talk to 'catch up' (he's so talkative he always updated me on my ex without me asking)...

 

but as i'm thinking about this i guess i'm not 100% over him?

 

I should be happy, right? than why do i feel so empty/sad? even when i woke up today the negative emotions were still there.

 

is this a normal stage in healing? or am i foolng myself?

[Emilia]

It is normal. I had contact with an ex last Sunday and the only thing that upset me was that we don't have the connection anymore. We used to be able to talk even as exes but he alienated me completely with his petulance. I was sad that we couldn't talk anymore.

[SimonSerenade]

I agree it's perfectly normal, I felt the same out of the blue almost one day in my break up, I used to dread dropping my kid off after a weekend with him because I'd have to see her and feel heart broken but one day I didn't feel that way, I didn't feel anything, I could look at her and just see a face rather than the face I could once live without, I should of been bouncing round for joy but instead I felt empty all of a sudden like I'd wasted a whole year hurting over her and all of a sudden there was nothing there, like I finally realised it was all over once and for all, everything I had with her, everything I felt for her, everything she was to me, all gone in an instant, you just can't believe it when you get to that point and it leaves you in shock but it'll ware off and you'll start to feel happy again, your finally coming to terms with everything and life will start to look rosy once again, just keep on the road your on and keep looking forward your doing well.

[richard9]

I agree it's perfectly normal, I felt the same out of the blue almost one day in my break up, I used to dread dropping my kid off after a weekend with him because I'd have to see her and feel heart broken but one day I didn't feel that way, I didn't feel anything, I could look at her and just see a face rather than the face I could once live without, I should of been bouncing round for joy but instead I felt empty all of a sudden like I'd wasted a whole year hurting over her and all of a sudden there was nothing there, like I finally realised it was all over once and for all, everything I had with her, everything I felt for her, everything she was to me, all gone in an instant, you just can't believe it when you get to that point and it leaves you in shock but it'll ware off and you'll start to feel happy again, your finally coming to terms with everything and life will start to look rosy once again, just keep on the road your on and keep looking forward your doing well.

 

brilliant post, shows an end to the tunnel, thanks for sharing :-)

[cavalier99]

The emotional bond that you once shared is finally completely and irrevocably broken. Even after the BU we struggle to let go of this bond but are still holding on.

 

When it finally breaks it means it is over FOREVER. And while is what we wanted post BU but it is still a loss.

 

Sciencegal called it "the BU after the BU". It is a change, and changes can be difficult. Even if it is going from primarily negative emotions to more positive ones. Rock on! Cav