question to the women ..

[hpjunke]

Ok first off i wanna say this is a good site for some info lol i have been a long time lurker and finally need some much needed advice .. so here it goes . ok in the end of 2011 i meet a girl off a popular dating site i go on . We dated for about 7 weeks off and on seeing each other when we could. She has had an occasional blow up accusing me of checking up on her because her phone called me at 1 am while i was asleep by accident and she was out at a bar so i said hello a few times half asleep and then just hung up so She said i was listing in on the convo , so i told her that i don't do that and have no reason not to trust you and do not know where this is coming from so i just let it go after i said what i had to say and she seriously doesnt feel good once a week or so some illness always . On Superbowl Sunday she decided to vanish for about 8 months because she supposedly had sinus trouble and i asked if she was gonna hang with her friends via a text and she said i was checking up on her .. keep in mind i was 32 and she was 29. I got heartbroken over it and Never called but i texted her a week later with no reply so i let it go i had to stand my ground since i didnt do anything .. so 8 months later she decides to text out of no where and apologize so we started talking again .. but this time i guarded my heart and acted like friends i really thought she was sincere and was on the up and up meaning she got a job and could no longer stay out all night and finally have responsibility's . I told her i bought a home and i was in the process of fixing it up to live in she actually came to help paint so i was really thinking she was better then "last" time .. well recently i asked her to help me go to shopping so i can get food for my house and she agreed to go with me on a Saturday .. so i set out the whole day because she said she would be over around 11:30 am however she was ill again and decided to go home , shower and be by around here at 3:00 that turned into 5 then 8:30 she called said im running late but i got you something for your house and before i could even respond she said i was ungrateful because i didn't say thank you .. first off i didn't hear her well so i was trying to figure out if she was saying what she thought she said so i said "ok i heard you don't get mad i just didn't hear you well but i really do appreciate it and you didn't really have to do that for me " (she has been late to everything i have invited her to btw) so she stayed over i accommodated her asking if she wanted food ,drinks watching what she wanted to etc etc , and the next morning i was leaving early so we both got up and she left the next week , she was stand offish with one answer texts etc so i said what is wrong with you ? every time i talk to you its like im walking on fing eggshells whats up? So she blew up and said i was standoff ish and a bad host .. so she said i was being disrespectful because i used the f word toward her . granted i didn't say to f off or f you just wanted to show my frustration . So in a nut shell i haven't called or texted her i feel this was something that shouldn't have turned out like this and could have been talked out or discussed .. since she feels victim again i just really dont want a person who will flip out over something as minor as this .. so my question is... Ladies doesnt she know she did me wrong and i have my heart guarded until the "trust" will be regained?

Is something wrong with her mentally?

Also according to her , we are supposed to be friends .. just confuses me to the max and not really sure what do to .. I have a home , my hobbies and content i like her yeah but if its gonna be like this i just cant do it seems like a ton of work .. could you imagine if i was late to something ? or actually had something to really get into and argument for ? .

 

Did i make a mistake for having contact with her again?

 

Any thoughts on the next move here ?

 

Sorry for the long post but its as much as i could describe it

 

Thanks!

Edited March 8, 2013 by hpjunke

[roaminghart11]

She sounds like a person that you would not want to be in a long term relationship, since it seems she gets mad very easily. You seem to have your life together, I would try to focus on finding someone you are more compatible with. Also, unless you were calling her a lot more than you mentioned in your post she is overreacting.

[hpjunke]

She sounds like a person that you would not want to be in a long term relationship, since it seems she gets mad very easily. You seem to have your life together, I would try to focus on finding someone you are more compatible with. Also, unless you were calling her a lot more than you mentioned in your post she is overreacting.

 

 

we would talk a little every day or every other day but I think you hit it by saying shes overreacting .. seriously is she 30 or 18 I have. ever encountered anyone like that before . and that sad part is I care a little about her

[clia]

Is something wrong with her mentally?

 

She sounds mentally unbalanced. Seriously, I'm not just saying that. There is something wrong with this girl.

 

Did i make a mistake for having contact with her again?

 

Yes.

 

Any thoughts on the next move here ?

 

Cut her out of your life and find a girl who isn't crazy.

[hpjunke]

She sounds mentally unbalanced. Seriously, I'm not just saying that. There is something wrong with this girl.

 

 

 

Yes.

 

 

 

Cut her out of your life and find a girl who isn't crazy.

 

 

thanks I guess people never change

[aussietigerwolf]

She sounds flaky and unbalanced

[Yookie]

Run like the wind!!!! :laugh:

[hpjunke]

She sounds flaky and unbalanced

 

Does she do this with everyone ? just me?

[hpjunke]

Ok with a month passed I wanna write an e mail and basically tell her how I really feel and how selfish and disrespected I fell about all this .. Should I? Or should I not??