hbunch11 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Hi LS Community: I just joined and this looks like a safe place to express my thoughts and share them with others instead of holding them in. I'm an actress in NYC and I recently have been getting back out in the dating scene after having been in a relationship the whole time I've been in the city. While my ex and I remain good friends, I really find it's time to move on and find someone compatible with whom I can have a healthy relationship. I should mention that I'm a little old fashioned and I like to take my time with things and let them happen naturally...I'm not a prude, but I do like taking my time and letting things take their course. Anyway, I've been very busy with putting together a theater performance and company with my friend: rehearsals, renovating a theater space, assistant directing, etc. But, I met this great guy while working in a coffee shop one day and we ended up chatting and flirting while trying to work and he asked for my number and I gave it to him. He sent me a text trying to schedule a date, and while I communicated to him I was super busy, I wanted to find time for us to go out for our first date. The first date went well and he walked me home and I kissed him goodbye. He asked me for a second date and he was again patient with my schedule. That day ended up being a little stressful for me. I had a long rehearsal and I was running late for my date, but I pulled myself together because I wanted it to go well. We met at a neighborhood bar and he suggested we get a quick bite and go back to his place and hang out and listen to music and get to know each other. I agreed. So, we went back to his place and I showed him stuff I enjoyed and he showed me music he thought I would enjoy. I thought it was sweet that he was so interested in me. But then, he did the awkward move on me and I got nervous and reacted in a way that I think made him feel rejected. I pulled back. I don't know why because I was really into him. I just know I don't like things to move too fast and I felt it was just awkward timing so I texted him the next day and asked if he wanted to have a coffee to assure him I was still interested. He said no, he had already got his coffee and was working so I left him alone. A few days go by and I sent him a text to explain I was under a lot of stress and that I still was interested. He responded saying he didn't think I did anything wrong and that he was going through neighbor problems and would get back to me when he had his head on strait. I left him alone. A few days later he texted saying he was sorry it took him so long to respond but while he enjoyed our time together, he felt too bogged down with other things to focus on dating.... I haven't responded to his message because I don't want to intrude on his space that I assume he is asking for. But, I do like him and I feel like we had a connection that may have just been miscommunicated with both of us being stressed out with other things. So, I am wondering if it is possible to pursue this again, or is this a lost cause because I can't stop thinking about him. HB
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