irc333 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Okay, I asked a woman out, and she agreed to go out with me....that being said, how do I avoid the FZ when I arrive?
blue_jay_bird Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Flirt ... Hardcore Flirting. She has to see you as a sexual person. Not someone that she will be friends with. And if she's not receptive to the flirting, don't stick around. Iv had guy friends, that just never tried the moves on me. And I would have not stopped them. But now its too, late..the friendship is important. 2
soccerrprp Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 ...or here's a novel thought...in the end you can't!!!!!!!!!!! If the girl doesn't feel an attraction, chemistry, you're either going to be rejected out-right or FZed and it has nothing to do with whether you showed interest or not. But what you're really asking is how to minimize the chances of being FZed. Then by all means, be masculine and suggestive in a subtle way...
Author irc333 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 ...or here's a novel thought...in the end you can't!!!!!!!!!!! If the girl doesn't feel an attraction, chemistry, you're either going to be rejected out-right or FZed and it has nothing to do with whether you showed interest or not. But what you're really asking is how to minimize the chances of being FZed. Then by all means, be masculine and suggestive in a subtle way... Think one has to test the waters, like flirt with her, and if she doesn't flirt back or appears guarded....well...you know the situation (probably had no attraction even before the date, because we have already met in person a couple of time). Now "Testing the waters" does't necessarily get physical, right? Like using double entendre's or innuendo? If she doesn't say anything back in duplicate, you know she's not interested?
Estate Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Okay, I asked a woman out, and she agreed to go out with me....that being said, how do I avoid the FZ when I arrive? Just be awesome No, well... just look at the threads here of guys going on "friendly dates" with girls and assuming it's love when the girl though a friend was just buying her a coffee... don't fall in that trap. Just be a cool guy, have fun, get her talking about herself, get away from boring or "regular" topics as quick as you can. You'll be more memorable that way. And be careful with this next part... I'm not saying to bed the girl.... but... you have to show some attraction to her... don't blurt out you love her.... But in your actions and words you need to show this is not a "friends" date. Do something where you can be close to her, there's always points in a conversation where you can tap her on the arm or give her a high five if she says something cool about herself.... You need to be in her proximity, touch her a little (DON'T be forceful or creepy) and if you just treat her more like a woman you are interested in than being overly nice then she'll know full well it's a date and not a friends thing.... .... after that... it's on her.
Author irc333 Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 Just be awesome No, well... just look at the threads here of guys going on "friendly dates" with girls and assuming it's love when the girl though a friend was just buying her a coffee... don't fall in that trap. Just be a cool guy, have fun, get her talking about herself, get away from boring or "regular" topics as quick as you can. You'll be more memorable that way. And be careful with this next part... I'm not saying to bed the girl.... but... you have to show some attraction to her... don't blurt out you love her.... But in your actions and words you need to show this is not a "friends" date. Do something where you can be close to her, there's always points in a conversation where you can tap her on the arm or give her a high five if she says something cool about herself.... You need to be in her proximity, touch her a little (DON'T be forceful or creepy) and if you just treat her more like a woman you are interested in than being overly nice then she'll know full well it's a date and not a friends thing.... .... after that... it's on her. Yeah, I was out with a group with her, a male friend of mine (she knew him well), and he was trying to get something started with her when we were all hanging out at a art festival. He'd try to tickler her, and even give her a small swat on the butt, but she never really "reacted" to it. So he gave up.
Estate Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Yeah, I was out with a group with her, a male friend of mine (she knew him well), and he was trying to get something started with her when we were all hanging out at a art festival. He'd try to tickler her, and even give her a small swat on the butt, but she never really "reacted" to it. So he gave up. So what are you saying? You don't want to be the fun guy she'll remember? You want to sit there being "nice" and talk about the weather or homework? No! YOU asked her out and SHE accepted... not this other guy. If you want to end up in the friendzone, do the opposite of all I've said.
iKING Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 If you want to end up in the friendzone, do the opposite of all I've said. A Zen master once said to me, "Do the opposite of whatever I tell you." So I didn't. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 In my opinion, there is no way. True, she agreed to a date, but that doesn't mean she is attracted to you. That is not say you can't f@ck things up if she is attracted to you. You certainly can. But it is rare I believe that a woman will not be attracted to you and then become so because of what you say/do. So I would worry more about not coming off like a d@uche/racist/bigot, whatever, just being yourself, and then take whatever the result is that comes.
iKING Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 So I would worry more about not coming off like a d@uche/racist/bigot, whatever, just being yourself, and then take whatever the result is that comes. Be yourself, and pray that self isn't a deranged psychopath. Man.. First time not using my phone to get on LoveShack, I'm just spewing all sorts of nonsense.
jcrew11 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 As Austin Powers once said: "Oh contraire, you can't resist me" Give her a reason that she would want to be with you. Are you funny, sexy, charming, interesting, exciting, fun-loving. She has to want to become part of her life, and see you as someone she wants to spend a lot of time with. 1
TheGuard13 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 It's not like avoiding the Noid... Best you can do is display obvious sexual interest.
dasein Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Good luck with the date! You know what to do already.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Okay, I asked a woman out, and she agreed to go out with me....that being said, how do I avoid the FZ when I arrive? Just make a move bro. Go as far as she'll let you.
KathyM Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I agree with the poster who said be charming, fun, interesting. Show attraction, give her a kiss and hug at the end of the date, but don't suggest more on the first date. And no sexual innuendos on the first date if you want to make a good impression and not have her think you're only interested in getting laid. And don't talk about boring items in the news on the first date. The topic should be about her and her life, and some things about you personally.
Author irc333 Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 Should I pay for coffee? Or let it be dutch?
Mr_Flay Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 The very fact that she agreed to the date means she has no intention of "friendzoning" you, at least not for the next couple of weeks. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Unless, of course, the nature of the "date" is ambiguous to her. 1
Author irc333 Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 The very fact that she agreed to the date means she has no intention of "friendzoning" you, at least not for the next couple of weeks. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Unless, of course, the nature of the "date" is ambiguous to her. I had spoken with other people (men) who know her, and had spent time with her in a group situation. She tends to be flirty and fun and it's part of her nature. One guy told me that he was under the IMPRESSION he was dating her, when the feeling wasn't mutual.
Mr_Flay Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 One guy told me that he was under the IMPRESSION he was dating her, when the feeling wasn't mutual. Well then, if you move in for a kiss, you'll get a clear answer where you stand. That's all you need. No need for any macho posturing referred to in the posts above.
Sunshine87 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Should I pay for coffee? Or let it be dutch? Coffee costs like 3 dollars? Of course you should pay. She will be turned off if you don't.
Sunshine87 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Jesus. Is a $3 cup of lousy coffee going to kill you? You asked her out so why the hell would you ask her for $4.50 when the bill comes???? God, how petty. Secondly, don't listen to the miscreants telling you to try to get as far as you can get sexually, or acting sexual in order to stay out of the friend zone. For God's sakes, it's COFFEE. Any woman with even a modicum of self respect is not going to engage in a petting session with you simply because you had coffee together. The LAST thing you need to do is take advice from the dateless male misfits here on Loveshack. Good God. This post made me laugh :laugh: It's just coffee.
sillyanswer Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Okay, I asked a woman out, and she agreed to go out with me....that being said, how do I avoid the FZ when I arrive? by refusing to go there. Her: let's just be friends. You: no.
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