can't Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Was at my ex's house the other day to pick up the kids, and I saw her boyfriend (quite clearly absolutely wasted) slapping her hard round the face. I asked the kids about it, and they said they have seen him doing it before, and that the police have been called, but my ex refuses to press charges. I tried to speak to her about it, but she just blew me off. I don't think he would go for the kids, it's her I'm worried about, we divorced a few years ago but I've always regretted the decision. I don't know what to do anymore, I have a new partner, but I can't help wishing we could go back and not divorce.
Love Bytes Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 So you saw a guy hitting the mother of your children, and you didn't do anything? Man, you're more patient than me. If I was in that situation, I think I'd send the guy to the hospital. Not saying you did the wrong thing...I don't know what the right thing is in that situation. Best of luck to you, man. 2
CarrieT Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 So you saw a guy hitting the mother of your children, and you didn't do anything? This is the first thing I thought of when I read the original post. I can't believe you would subject your children to this situation. 4
CC12 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Yeah, I agree with the above posts. I mean, I'm not saying you should have gone over and kicked his ass or anything, but why didn't you at least intervene somehow? Also, don't just be like, "well, he's not hitting the kids, so..." It's still not a good environment for them to be in. Witnessing abuse can still be pretty damaging. And apparently the guy gets wasted around them as well. He shouldn't be around your kids. I don't know what you can do, legally, to keep your kids out of that situation, but you should find out and do it. Don't just drop it when your ex blows you off. What's your custody arrangement like? 2
Darren Steez Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Was at my ex's house the other day to pick up the kids' date=' and [b']I saw her boyfriend (quite clearly absolutely wasted) slapping her hard round the face[/b]. I asked the kids about it, and they said they have seen him doing it before, and that the police have been called, but my ex refuses to press charges. I tried to speak to her about it, but she just blew me off. I don't think he would go for the kids, it's her I'm worried about, we divorced a few years ago but I've always regretted the decision. I don't know what to do anymore, I have a new partner, but I can't help wishing we could go back and not divorce. What!!? And what, you just stood there and did nothing?! 1
coltsfan1 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I'm with the OP, she isn't his concern the children are though. I wouldn't step in between them especially if she DOESN'T press charges. I would however take a camera with me the next few times I picked up my children, just in chase I had the chance to capture the abuse. I WOULD strongly encourage the OP not to get in the middle of her civil problems. OP you don't own a shiny white horse or a red cape, its her life to save. Not your responsibility! 1
portableversion Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 wow what a tough one, would defintiely take a healthy mind to deal with it in the appropriate manner, i guess since u saw it u could call the police ur self. My 1st instinct would be to laugh at her and say how u like ur green grass now bitch! I hope he knocks out ur ****ing teeth, u ****ing whore. Definitely not appropriate, but after surviving the spiritual rape known as divorce, its not going to be easy to think straight. Call the police ur self and get dcfs involved
portableversion Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 (edited) yeah they are ur kids too and she is subjecting them to an unhealthy environment. She runs the risk of damaging thier psyche, it aint about u and it aint about her its about hose kids and thier emotional well being is threatened. Sir u have a duty and an obligation to call the police, dcfs somebody for intervention. Well at least u found ur self a woman there to help u thru tis, call the police and go home and make love to ur new woman. Time to be a man protect the kids and get laid thats what its all about. Edited March 9, 2013 by portableversion
RainDown Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I have to say, I'm with the others on this one. If your ex-wife chooses to be involved with a man who slaps her around, that is her business. The kids are a different matter entirely. They don't need to be exposed to that kind of dysfunction. For the sake of your kids, a call to the police and CPS is in order. Your ex-wife is not protecting your children, and neither are you. Are you waiting for someone else to magically step up and help your children or are you going to be a father and do it yourself? 3
CudLRoo Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 If I saw a man hitting my ex or current full-on across the jaw, I would *decimate* the cunt, there and then. I lost any respect I could've had for you within seconds of reading your post. 1
TheBladeRunner Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 I can't control what "winners" my SBXW brings around my daughter, I can't control ANYTHING she does, but I will say this: She will keep my daughter safe. If I knew bozo was with an abusive jack wagon my thoughts are that it would only be a matter of time before he went after my kid. I would call the police and CPS for the sake of your kids. Kids watching mom get beat up is not a good thing for them to see, and again, how long will it be before he goes after your kids? Crucify them both; him for being an abuser, and your EW because she should be protecting your kids. 1
Sugarkane Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 I'd try and use it to get custody. Who's to say he won't do the same to your kids? 1
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