castroadis Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Hello All! I want to thank everyone that has responded to my inquiries. My ex and I were in a relationship for 3 years, Long Distance for 5 months. He broke up with me a week ago. He said he wanted to concentrate on work (Just finished studying). I have been NC for a week, but am currently struggling. Before we broke up I was planning on attending a seminar and booked the return flight to NYC, where he lives. I'll be traveling in a month. Would it be unreasonable to ask for him to meet with me? I have been reaching out to friends, psychologists, astrologists everything to find peace with the situation. But the breakup was so sudden and painful, I was scheduled to move in a month with him. We had a really powerful connection, were friends for years before dating. I want to sit face to face with him and talk things through. I'm realistic maybe he won't be willing to meet or he won't be at a disposal to try again. But I am still feeling that I need to talk to him, to say my peace and maybe in the long run be friends o rekindle. When he broke up with me I reacted in anger and despair, begged him to reconsider. Am i going on a limb? Beating a dead horse?
CaliBabe Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I don't think it would hurt to ask when the time comes closer for your seminar. Maybe wait another week or two and bring it up, he might have had enough time to clear his mind and may be open to talking. I would just give it more than 1 week.
marklarsson Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Give it some time. It's still a bit early but yes no problem is bringing it up. Just be prepared for him to say no
Author castroadis Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 Thank you all. I will give it some time. I'm still adjusting to this and feel I am on an emotional roller-coaster. I oscillate from anger, to intense pain, to desperation. I might sound irrational, yesterday I had a revelation that he might have been planning this and didn't give me a fair chance at easing things over. So, I feel...like he took advantage of my unconditional love for him. I want the best for him and truly feel we can be friendly in a future. I am having trouble coping with his sudden coldness...
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