AverageCat Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I am really curious to the different types of answers. What do you value more? Is it the initial attraction, infatuation. Is it the comfortability, of seeing someone very often for years... or is it the imagination and thought of what you "had" and how much you did for "him/her"... What exactly is it? My answer would be, I think you can say you love a person when you constantly think about them outside of seeing them.... But this definition is weird and I do not fully like it myself. 1
MrCastle Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 So what is right? And what is wrong? Give me a sign! 2
Keenly Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 So what is right? And what is wrong? Give me a sign! WoahOahOAHoahoh OahooahOh Uhhh huh 3
iKING Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 What is love, oh baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me.. No more. 2
april38 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 When I think back to the guy I loved more than anyone, and still love him deeply, it was all about "mutual connection". We both had a strong attraction from day 1, we could talk, talk about everything, it was so organic. We confessed all of our faults and ugly things about ourselves and our pasts, and laughed about it - that brought us closer together. We could share our most intimate feelings with one another, and were physically so intimate it was insanely passionate. We could sleep nose to nose, in a kiss all night. No doubt it was love. So final answer - Connection - intimately, physically, emotionally, organically. 3
Archgirl Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I don't know, why you're not there, I give you my love, but you don't care... :lmao: But seriously Mr Charming-Cat, I usually know I'm in love when I stop making everything all about me, and I want to do things to make their life better with no expectation for return, just because I am happy they exist. 3
amaysngrace Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I knew I loved the one that I love best when I thought if they were in a burning building I'd go in to try to save them. 1
Archgirl Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 WoahOahOAHoahoh OahooahOh Uhhh huh Sorry Just thought it was time for this bit again
iKING Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Sorry Just thought it was time for this bit again Well played, well played. OP I found love for you. Love 2
Titania22 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Love is when the world seems like a better place simply because they exist in it, and you will do anything to brighten their day, whether it be staying up all night taking care of them when they are sick or disappearing never to be seen or heard from again, or anything else. Love is about what you can give not what you can take. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Love is when I feel I would walk to the ends of earth and back, just to see him smile. 1
Archgirl Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 (edited) Well played, well played. OP I found love for you. Love I don't get it WoahOahOAHoahoh OahooahOh Edited March 8, 2013 by Archgirl
Emilia Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I knew I loved the one that I love best when I thought if they were in a burning building I'd go in to try to save them. Pyro might not agree with your definition 2
Leigh 87 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 But then why do some men and women feel this way, and yet cheat? I am sure there are instances where a person does think about a person all the time, when they are apart; when a person would rescue them from an unstable building after an earthquake. Some people could exhibit all of those factors, and yet not be "in love", supposedly. True love depends on the person, and the way they define it. A person could feel ALL the things people say love is about, and then they could DO something off, that many people would consider a sign that they must NOT be in love, after all. Love is complicated! Why do you think so many people are in marriages and long term relationships that are more like they are room mates who have built a life together, rather than a deep, passionate connection? There are many women, for example, in fact most women these days, who want a family and a good provider, and therefore find a guy who is nice, they are attracted to, and who gets along well enough with them to build a life together. There is no great love there, but over time I am sure some of these couples assume they are in love, simply because of the shared time together, and the fact they are attracted to each other, and care deeply about one another. Although many women in this situation will see it for what it really is (no true love, but a relationship out of convenience), SOME people DO truly confuse attachment and time spend together as genuine signs that they are in love with their partner. Ultimately though, love is a very big feeling that not everyone will agree on. I used to let other peoples opinions on my own relationship get to me, but now the feelings my partner and I have are so obvious, that it would be silly to listen to others..
sweetkiwi Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I don't get it WoahOahOAHoahoh OahooahOh Aww you're so cute Archy. He posted a link to the chemical your brain is bathed in while you're experiencing love. I don't think OP specified romantic love. So. My answer is love is a hunger for another person. Doing your best to make them happy even though they're happy just being with you. Love is noticing their quirks, their moods, their dreams and hopes and desires and it all being endlessly intriguing to you. Loving every single thing about them even if some of those things are annoying. Smiling just thinking about them. Feeling your heart swell when you see them and thinking it'll surely explode. And love is trying to make things better. Not sweeping it under the rug or ignoring the other persons feelings so you don't have to face your own. Trying to make the best out of things and learning from your mistakes so you don't hurt them again.
Author AverageCat Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 I personally never believed in Love. Just infatuations. And I still don't understand where's the point where like becomes love. With me it has to be a mix of personality attraction + intimacy. And for a good couple to grow together I think there needs to be a good balance of: - Emotion. Passion. What is usually considered love (I.e they need to be lovers). - Comfort. Friendship. Meaning they need to trust each other and be open and be best friends. - Providing and caring. About each other and the future. IMO a lot of couples nowadays focus only on the "emotion" part which is why they tend to break up so often.
Barnacle-Bob Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 (edited) I am going to represent my STBXW in this response: She always shoved in my face that she loved me unconditionally.....as long as I did this, and this, and that, and didn't do this other thing, or all this stuff, or that one thing.....ad infinitum. She never was very good at understanding prefixes. The bottom line is that I don't think she even understood what love was. For her, it was all about whether or not I met her demands, satisfied her criterion, made her happy, etc. Ipso facto, she is now becoming an ex. Edited March 11, 2013 by Barnacle-Bob 1
Esoteric Elf Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 What is love, oh baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me.. No more. He kind of wanted only answers from women...
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