MJGeorgia Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 The last two times we went out he placed my hand on his cock. Both times he said he wished I would have put my hand there first before he put it there. Should I do it first tomorrow and surprise him. Both times he did it on the way back to my house. Last time I told him (which is the truth) I was planning on putting my hand there in a few minutes but he beat me to it. He teased me saying yeah right but he wished I would have. Men what do you suggest?
USMCHokie Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 The last two times we went out he placed my hand on his cock. Is it safe to assume that this was the highlight of the dates...? Or perhaps the only memorable part...? I think this is a much better move for a guy than kissing the girl... 1
ltjg45 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Hmm..... How long have you two been dating? Because I find it rude to you that he would just outright do that.....in public nonetheless. Also, he may just want you for sex and then bolt. If you are OK with doing so, then by all means, go ahead and make the sexual move first but keep in mind that if you don't want to, stand your ground. He shouldn't be pressuring you into doing this. I'm wary of this guy's intentions.
aed Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 YES! One girl took me by my hand and excorted me to her bedroom . Nothing wrong with it... and I thought it was hot and it was. Just look how many times those kind of scenes happen in sitcoms like two and half men. I dont know but I cant imagine why a guy should have problems with that.
CarrieT Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Why do you only want Male responses? The answer is to do what feels natural and good for you. Personally, like ltjg45, I find it rude - especially in public.
USMCHokie Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I dont know but I cant imagine why a guy should have problems with that. That she does that with every guy she meets...
Soxfaninfl Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I like aggressive women, so it would nice if she made the first move. I always try to be a gentleman, so I'm not too forward.
Author MJGeorgia Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 (edited) He didn't do it in public it was in his car on our way to my house. We both have great chemistry together and a lot in common. It felt good for both of us we both enjoy being together. Every minute we were together was awesome (not just that part). Our first date lasted for nearly 8 hours. The second date lasted 4 hours and we haven't had sex yet. I am only wanting guys to answer because I want to know if they would like it if a girl did that to them. Edited March 7, 2013 by MJGeorgia
ltjg45 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I am only wanting guys to answer because I want to know if they would like it if a girl did that to them. Then my 1st answer was a waste. (sort of) Now I feel like an idiot. Well, if a female did that to me, I probably couldn't control myself. If she wants it and I'm feeling it for her, well, what's stopping us?
aed Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 That she does that with every guy she meets... That might be true. but I find it more difficult if she does it with random guys, and not with me. Also (dont know about men but) if a girl has slept with allot of guys doesnt mean she is very experienced with sex and knows how to have good sex or how to please a guy. Good sex is about being on the same level and doing things you both like and that their is 'that' sexual connection. when someone had 25 different sex partners in the age of 24, does that mean that person understands how to have good sex?
Soxfaninfl Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I want to know if they would like it if a girl did that to them. Yes! if a man doesn't like this then there is something wrong with them.
aed Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 There are guys that dont like it. I once stumbled upon a male's forum when researching a topic and there were threads by men saying sexual aggression in females is a turnoff and it kills the attraction. However, I would think MOST men wouldnt care and I think these guys talking were really sexist. I know Im not a guy but Id pounce on him in the middle of the night. Worked for me I think that has to do with what kind of agressive aproach a girl is showing. A love it when a girl reacts femine and that they show initiative out of that perspective. BTW what do you mean by sexual agression in women. How does that go, showing initiative or leading the first steps... is that being sexual agressive?
dj572 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I would love it. I have always loved for the woman to initiate contact. If you want to do it then by all means do it.
aed Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 These guys were saying "my girlfriend initiates sex over half the time" and stuff like that and how it made them lose their attraction. Not like throwing him up against a wall and acting like a raunchy pornstar or anything. They described women initiating sex more than once in awhile as showing too much power/control and alluded to the idea that only men should do that so its a turnoff. Again, they seemed sexist so hopefully that thought process isnt typical... men () I think it would show that girl is realy in to him. But I don't think it is that they are sexist, it might be that they feel the girl is threatening their masculinity or the girl doesn't know how to do it right that turns on a guy in the right way, We guys can get hard pretty easy, will have sex pretty easy. e guys can have sex with a girl even when she is doing 20 turnoffs. Yet turning on a guy in the rightway is game on its own. Can you see the difference? I also think that their are girls, that think a guy should do all the initiative when it comes to sex. are those girls sexist?
iKING Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 There are guys that dont like it. I once stumbled upon a male's forum when researching a topic and there were threads by men saying sexual aggression in females is a turnoff and it kills the attraction. However, I would think MOST men wouldnt care and I think these guys talking were really sexist. I know Im not a guy but Id pounce on him in the middle of the night. Worked for me They sound easily intimidated or get anxiety. Personally I've loved it when a girl initiates it, spontaneous, fun, what's not to like? It doesn't even really matter of the approach, I've had really direct approaches and more beating around the bush approaches and handled both pretty much the same. Makes the guy feel wanted. As long as It's not excessive, cause you know, we're not machines. Things do get sore eventually.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I am only wanting guys to answer because I want to know if they would like it if a girl did that to them. It really depends on the situation. Early on I really like to be the one who makes the moves.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 If you're going to get sexual with him, you're going to have to be assertive at some point. You didn't say how many dates you've had before these incidents. If they were the first and second date I'd say the dude was aggressive. But if you've been seeing each other and you never show him that you want to move things along, then I guess I can understand him putting your hand on his cock. I myself would be more inclined feel a woman up and touch her pussy. Subsequently she doesn't need any ritual permission to reciprocate.
aed Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 It really depends on the situation. Early on I really like to be the one who makes the moves. Would you mind if a girl is doing something playfull in a classy way. Like saying "I take shower" and gives a wink and leaves the door onlocked....?
iKING Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Would you mind if a girl is doing something playfull in a classy way. Like saying "I take shower" and gives a wink and leaves the door onlocked....? Leave the door open a little if you can, much more inviting. And no, I don't think any guy would mind.
aed Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Leave the door open a little if you can, much more inviting. And no, I don't think any guy would mind. (just to make something clear I am a guy )
Bengal Tiger Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 These guys were saying "my girlfriend initiates sex over half the time" and stuff like that and how it made them lose their attraction. Not like throwing him up against a wall and acting like a raunchy pornstar or anything. They described women initiating sex more than once in awhile as showing too much power/control and alluded to the idea that only men should do that so its a turnoff. Again, they seemed sexist so hopefully that thought process isnt typical... Guys are not all the same no matter how many times its posted. There are some guys who will love that and others who won't. There's also the context/mood where it can be great at the right time, but not in other times. I like it when a girl initiates sex because it lets me know that she wants me too and its not one way. I love it when she's a lady in the living room and a wildcat in the bedroom. I don't like when she grabs or sticks her foot in my crotch during dinner in public. I hate when she tries to undo my pants while I'm driving as that freaks me out. I had an ex who was physically/sexually aggressive and really did like throwing guys against the wall and being on top, pinning arms, choking, and taking what she wanted in a very dominant way. She was not very good at stopping when I said no. I've gotten bruising on my cock from that psycho. There are guys who are into that and seek it out. I am not one of them. For me, its not "a woman should know her place", its just a preference. Many of my friends are dominant women (BDSM as well as in their careers), lesbian/bi, don't shave or wear makeup, promote militant feminism as as career, etc. I love them to death but wouldn't want to date someone like that. They tend to date very submissive guys, especially younger inexperienced guys. 1
Author MJGeorgia Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 Why do you only want Male responses? The answer is to do what feels natural and good for you. Personally, like ltjg45, I find it rude - especially in public. I am going to do it tomorrow when it feels right. Luckily, his windows are darker where people can't see. 1
nofool4u Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 The last two times we went out he placed my hand on his cock. Both times he said he wished I would have put my hand there first before he put it there. Should I do it first tomorrow and surprise him. Both times he did it on the way back to my house. Last time I told him (which is the truth) I was planning on putting my hand there in a few minutes but he beat me to it. He teased me saying yeah right but he wished I would have. Men what do you suggest? You really have to ask, as men, if we want you to put your hand on our c**ks? Really? How may different ways is there to say "hell yes!!";) I'll digress though, as it depends on how many times I've been with a woman. If she were to do that on a very first date, I must admit, I might be a little put out.
Mumbles Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I like aggressive women, so it would nice if she made the first move. I always try to be a gentleman, so I'm not too forward. I don't so much like an outright sexually aggressive woman, but I do like one who knows what she wants and isn't frightened by that. I guess I'd use the word assertive. I'm not one who will make overtly sexual moves in a public space, but I'm ok with it if the woman does this, I'm not shy.
ja123 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 It sounds like the guy is only interested in his c*ck ... maybe he's sexually selfish? Why not just put his hand on your p*ssy? HAHAAAAAA
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