quietGuy13 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I'm in my early 30s and have never had a date. How do i get one? I know by now, most people have experiences or are even married or at least have had dates, but i've had nothing. And i dont even know how to get a date. I also don't have male friends nor female friends and have never had. So how do I find a date? I don't do the club thing, don't go to parties, dont go to schools. (and don't like any of that either)
aed Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 being less experienced can be a deal breaker to some (or allot of women) depends on the type you are looking for. For the things you dont do: maybe you start doing things you like with other people. that can even be as simple as going to bookclubs, workout in a gym instead of staying home. Go to work parties, meet with people on forums. Just go out in to the world and do things you like, when you start doing that then you will meet people and maybe you find someone you like. also not every relationship starts with a date. some times you are further then that phase even when you haven't have your first official date with someone.
KatZee Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 You get dates by putting yourself out there. By doing things you enjoy. You're going to be hard pressed to get a date if you: A) Have no friends in any capacity B) Don't socialize with people in society C) Don't go to school where you can join clubs, and meet like minded individuals. You can't meet anyone by being a hermit. Unless you want to take your shot at OLD, but in that case the first meet up is usually at a bar for a drink and to talk, get to know each other. You really need to remove yourself from the box you've placed yourself in. Get out there. Go to a coffee shop and talk to a stranger, get used to interacting with people. Do you have social anxiety? Why are you so closed off?
Bengal Tiger Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Bro, you've got over 2 years of starting threads like this. What's stopping you? And is it really stopping you, or is it your attitude that holds you back from trying? I don't know your story but I do know people in wheelchairs and have burned faces and health problems who get plenty of dates or are even happily married. I dated a girl with no legs and she gets lots of dates and dumped my brown ass when she got bored. You really can do anything you put your mind to. There's a motivational speaker with no arms and no legs and he has a wife. I even know East Indian men who have gotten dates without being internet race trolls. Come back and post about what actions you've taken and people can give you tips. But you have to try. And you have to be open to it.
ChatroomHero Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Think about your question- It's like asking how can you get ripped with muscle when the only thing you are willing to do is sit in a recliner and eat burritos. The answer is at 30 you cannot really expect to ever get a date based on your refusal to do the things that directly lead to getting a date. Why would you want a date anyway, if you found someone they would want to do the things you hate and it would be a waste of time?
MJGeorgia Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Once I broke up with my boyfriend I had the same problem. I don't work or go to school. I have no way of meeting new people so I joined several of the free online dating sites. I have texted with several guys and am on my third date with this one guy that I really like.
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