Steve11 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I've taken time off work, just can't cope with it all. I keep checking my phone hoping she's going to contact me, And she doesn't. I keep setting myself targets for the next time I'll contact her, but I know it won't do or change anything. I just really want to see her. My mind is ****ed. I think I'm seriously having a breakdown.
Amelie1980 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I've taken time off work, just can't cope with it all. I keep checking my phone hoping she's going to contact me, And she doesn't. I keep setting myself targets for the next time I'll contact her, but I know it won't do or change anything. I just really want to see her. My mind is ****ed. I think I'm seriously having a breakdown. Me too. Not sure what else to say.
PhillyGuy86 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I'm right there with you man. It's been a really bad week for me, today's a little better than yesterday. Yesterday I felt like the world was crashing down on my shoulders, I felt like I couldn't breathe and anxiety was ruining me. You just got to keep your head up, we're all here for each other to get through our tough times.
Author Steve11 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 I told her how I felt a couple of days ago and he said that its ****, but this is the way it's got to be right now. I asked for my stuff, she said she'd give it to a friend to give to me because its too hard to see me. I haven't heard anything from that friend, surely she'd want my things gone ASAP?
cdt76 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Unless they are things that you desperately need, I'd say consider them trashed. I have a small pile of stuff I was going to send back to my ex but today, I'm just going to trash it. Gone. I don't give a F! I know it's hard. Try to cry and pray and meditate. Take a hot bath with bubbles. Do what you think would relax you. Enjoy the time off work. Catch up on your favorite shows. Go visit your brother or sister or parents. Try to remain active in an activity you enjoy. For me, when I get like you today, I get in a hot bath with bubbles and just relax. Thinking of positive things and where I want to be in 6 months.
Coping Vortex Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I've taken time off work, just can't cope with it all. I keep checking my phone hoping she's going to contact me, And she doesn't. I keep setting myself targets for the next time I'll contact her, but I know it won't do or change anything. I just really want to see her. My mind is ****ed. I think I'm seriously having a breakdown. Wait until you feel like that after months and months. You will exhaust yourself. Trust me I have been there.
Author Steve11 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 Just seen her friend, disnt mention the breakup, but there was no mention of my things being dropped off. If you wanted someone out your life, surely you'd give there stuff back as soon as? It's expensive stuff too. Am I clinging to a little bit of hope?
McDonald Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Its pretty amazing how fast this all turns off. The pain is the worst. Im almost 4 months into the breakup... but within the past 3 days, my mind has kinda said "alright, enough of this". and out of nowhere, the amount of fu*ks I have been giving... have decreased significantly. Once you realize that these thoughts are holding you back, and that there is so much MORE out there... then it will be a breeze. Dont feel bad that you are still thinking about her. Dont get me wrong, my ex is on my mind constantly... but its like, you left me for someone else... thats whats on my mind. Its no longer "I want you back". Just keep on going. Do not feel bad about your emotions. they are your emotions and with that, do not let anyone control them other than yourself. You are strong. 1
AKisBaked Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Just seen her friend, disnt mention the breakup, but there was no mention of my things being dropped off. If you wanted someone out your life, surely you'd give there stuff back as soon as? It's expensive stuff too. Am I clinging to a little bit of hope? Yes you are, getting back the stuff will just bring you back more pain and sorrow of your ex even if it is delivered from your friend. Because the thought of your stuff that was once part of your ex is now being dropped off to you from not that person you want to see, you will start to think more and become more frustrated. Bro, i think its best that you just don't bother and give up your things and not have to see her. Because either: A) you give back her stuff and you see her, she may not want to talk to you and just take it back, when you really want to talk. And once you leave she will probably won't talk to you anymore B) she could give you false hope in agreeing to meet and get her stuff but bail on you and that's really frustrating because she's giving you false hope. C) Your hurting yourself by making an excuse to give her stuff back so that you can see her. I did every one of these ABC. and I got f*cked up. You get a sense of false hope for a bit but then right after your whole world is going to crash your going to feel like sh*t. Brotha speaking to another brotha, don't do it bro, it's best to lose your sh*t than to be dissapointed and be hurt much more after.. Trust me. 1
AKisBaked Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Just seen her friend, disnt mention the breakup, but there was no mention of my things being dropped off. If you wanted someone out your life, surely you'd give there stuff back as soon as? It's expensive stuff too. Am I clinging to a little bit of hope? Regardless if its her stuff or your stuff. It doesn't matter. If you dont want to see her sh*t no more but if you dont want to throw it away then its best if you box it up and put it somewhere that you won't constantly go look for it. I suggest you get a big box and put all her stuff in it and put it on your garage or shed if you have one where you won't decide to go and look at it when your down. It really helps.
Author Steve11 Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 She has a a lot of my stuff. Clothes, computer etc I would of thought she'd want them gone ASAP so she can move on to?
brokenhearted91 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I'm having an awful day today. I just spent about an hour reading through all our old messages which had me crying my eyes out. I wanted to text him and tell him how much I was sorry and missed him, but instead I just wrote him a 'letter'. Not to give him but just so I could get the things out that I want to say to him. I felt like I was making progress since it happened, but the last week I've just taken step backs. I've had two dreams, one last night, that has just messed my head up and made me upset. And now I can't stop with the good memories coming in my head, like it was when we first split up. I've arranged to start seeing a councillor hopefully to talk about my feelings because I think family are getting fed up with me now.
Bubsta Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I'm in exactly the same boat,only been 6 days since she left and the pain is unbearable!! I'm trying to fathom everything out in my head but still cant understand why do the get so upset when its their decision to leave surely that goes to show that there is still a deep rooted emotion there for the person they have just dumped ? If I left someone I know for sure I wouldnt be upset otherwise I wouldnt go. Thats the only thing that I trying to hold onto even if it is grabbing at very short straws . I dunno just dont get it dont think I ever will at this rate
Author Steve11 Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 Why wouldn't she of returned my stuff yet? I thought you'd want it gone straight away. I seem the mutual friend yesterday and there was no mention of it.
Author Steve11 Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 I can't move forward because I keep on going over that my stuffs round hers & I've got a few items of hers. She said she'd give it to a mural friend because its too hard seeing me, but she still hasn't.
Author Steve11 Posted March 8, 2013 Author Posted March 8, 2013 She's probably out enjoying herself, living it up, moving on, whilst I'm depressed, grumpy, not interested in anything, can't be bothered to go out. Found some more of her things, she still has mine. I just want this all to end.
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