thewrongonee Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Hello all, I'm going to vent out some frustration that came upon me tonight! Hope -- it is something powerful that gets us passed through tough times in our lives, but clinging on it too much for a second chance.. really a bad thing? My ex and I broke up 2 months ago, it was a mutual breakup, but i felt that it was mainly my doing. I know we talked a lot after the break up, and she even said we can get back together in the future and she still cares. Hence why i still have hope. Till this day, i still have hope that things can work out, I want to prove to her ive changed, but is it worth it? the more time we spend apart the less feelings are being drawn out of me. It's really weird, i'm fine for a few days, then all of a sudden im bombarded with emotions of emptiness and regret. I know that moving on is the best option, and many of you will even say go NC ( which i have). To that all i can say is, its easy to say but really hard to do. We all need hope, it makes us human.. withought it we would suffer a lot more. In my case however, I'm slowly starting to lose hope and i dont know where to go from here.
OSCAR_BUSTOS21 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I can honestly say I feel the same as you regarding this topic. I have many people telling me nc is right and that it will help us in the long run but I am just not strong enough to implement it. I see her once a week, we text and we are romantic but it won't go back straightaway. I have seen a counsellor and she is doing the same but I can't help becoming impatient. I am so regretful that I finished this and my feelings are battered and I'm up and down like a yoyo. Impatience, worry, hurt and regret fill my days now. I have hope but its dwindling like a snowman in sri lanka. Everyone says be patient be understanding, hell I am but its testing me.
TigerCub Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Hello all, I'm going to vent out some frustration that came upon me tonight! Hope -- it is something powerful that gets us passed through tough times in our lives, but clinging on it too much for a second chance.. really a bad thing? My ex and I broke up 2 months ago, it was a mutual breakup, but i felt that it was mainly my doing. I know we talked a lot after the break up, and she even said we can get back together in the future and she still cares. Hence why i still have hope. Till this day, i still have hope that things can work out, I want to prove to her ive changed, but is it worth it? the more time we spend apart the less feelings are being drawn out of me. It's really weird, i'm fine for a few days, then all of a sudden im bombarded with emotions of emptiness and regret. I know that moving on is the best option, and many of you will even say go NC ( which i have). To that all i can say is, its easy to say but really hard to do. We all need hope, it makes us human.. withought it we would suffer a lot more. In my case however, I'm slowly starting to lose hope and i dont know where to go from here. Yeah and I can win the lottery in the future and I can marry Denzel Washington in the future. Anything can happen in the future But it's not worth putting your Present on hold for that. If she's not making moves in the Now to be with you, then I would say that it would be best to just let go of that sentence she said. I understand what you're saying about how hope gets us through, but you're hoping for something that's causing you pain if it doesn't come true. I think you should make new hopes like - I Hope to be happy with myself - I hope to make new friends this year - I hope to take up a new interest and have fun - I hope to meet someone fantastic that gets me and treats me right. Those I think are hopes that will drive you forward instead of keeping you stuck in the past. I'm sorry for you pain, truly I am. Wishing you the best
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Both. Hope is essential to life. One needed key element.
Skalabanan Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Always carry hope in your life but don't live life in hope. I hope that one day me and my ex can reconcile one day but I don't live by that hope, if I can be happy then anything else is a bonus.
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