neil213 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 My ex text me saying she wants me to be apart of her sons life and that shes happy I still think of him and everything. She also said that he always looked right to me and never held back and was always himself around me. She thinks its not fair that through everything her son had to lose me.. then said you know what I mean. It hurts me because this is what she wanted she didnt want to be with she broke up with me she hung out with her exes and things like that. I didnt get mad. Right after we broke up she was already spending a night with a guy in the city. I couldnt even spend a whole day with her or a night. She always had an excuse or I was shut down when I wanted to spend time with her. I never got upset about it. Just took what i got. Even tho we live about two hours away from each other. It was just nice to spend time together when we could I didnt want to lose her or her son. They both meant a lot to me, especially her son. I was always there for her through everything never turned her away or did anything to hurt her. Anyway im just wondering what shes tryn to do. I miss her son and gotta admit I miss her too. But I don't want to put myself out there again and get hurt by all her games and bs. Im just confused about what she wants from me. Shes texts me saying her son asks about me or he mentioned me. Things like that.. idk It hurts me cause makes me feel like I left him when I didnt.. help lol
TaraMaiden Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 You should be No Contact. You owe 'her son' nothing, sadly. he's not your child, so unfortunately, there's nothing there for you. In the long-run, it's a bad idea, because the connection will only get stronger - and then if she meets a guy she really commits to - you will be out of the picture. You need to go strict No Contact and fall off her radar. This is just screwing you up completely - and you risk over-investing.
Author neil213 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 Yeah I havent been contacting her or anything she'll txt me and day these things. Last txt I got from her she was saying she will always love me and she misses me things like that. I was just wonder what it is shes tryn to do or what she wants. Just confused that's all.
TaraMaiden Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 You either need to install a text-blocker on your 'phone, or respond with a made-up one. Look at the No Contact Guide in my signature: there's a suggestion in there. Another good and effective one, is to reply with the following: type her number. then type 'to 'your number'. then follow with the standard text-blocker message. like this: 12345 678910 to 10987 654321 - text blocker installed. your message was not delivered. I think it's vital you completely discourage her from the impression that you are accessible, approachable and available. She's really yanking your chain and hurling breadcrumbs at you by the fistful.... You need to 'block her' every which way. 1
lovelifexx Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Once she falls in love with someone else, you will be out of her son's life. She is actually making it worse for her son because the more time he spends time with you, the more he will get attached to you. It will hurt him more when you are taken from his life again. And don't think that will get her to want you back again because her son will be so attached to you. I am a single parent I been through all of this. The best thing for you and her son is to not be in contact with him if she doesnt want to be in a relationship with you.
Author neil213 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 Like I said to the other person that replied to my thread. She'll txt me sometimes saying she misses me and that she always loves me. Right after she sent me this txt about her son she txted saying she misses me and she will always love me. And when she keeps saying that idk want she's tryna do or what she wants. But yes I know what uour saying. Because I feel like she will be hurting her son more. I just think its best for me to leave now. Cause her will grow and over time he'll forget me and its not gonna matter. But just hurts me because I will see him grow and forget about me. He always called me the funny guy. But I gotta do this cause I just think its best, not that im tryn to be cold or an ass. I love boy a lot.
marklarsson Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Like I said to the other person that replied to my thread. She'll txt me sometimes saying she misses me and that she always loves me. Right after she sent me this txt about her son she txted saying she misses me and she will always love me. And when she keeps saying that idk want she's tryna do or what she wants. But yes I know what uour saying. Because I feel like she will be hurting her son more. I just think its best for me to leave now. Cause her will grow and over time he'll forget me and its not gonna matter. But just hurts me because I will see him grow and forget about me. He always called me the funny guy. But I gotta do this cause I just think its best, not that im tryn to be cold or an ass. I love boy a lot. You still have feelings for her, so unless she is texting you to get back together ignore it. Now once you are over her and only if you are over her and she still wants you to have a connection with her son then maybe but even then things could get complicated if you are her sons 'friend' and not her friend that gets to se her son when you go round if that makes sense
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